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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:09:43 GMT
I posted about having to pay to go to a shower earlier this month l. That shower hasn't happened yet, but I just received an invite to a bachelorette "party" for the same bride that will take place a week before the shower. Only this isn't a hang out, have fun party. It is one of the s3x toy parties.
The kicker?
"No need to bring a gift for the bride...you can buy one of the products to spice up her marriage."
Woh, so now I have to pay for the shower, bring a gift for that, bring a gift to the wedding AND am expected to buy something at this "party " ( and bring my own drink)
I can't imagine this family/friends combo has ever looked at etiquette.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 26, 2016 22:12:15 GMT
No is a complete sentence...I'd be going to the wedding only...
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Post by M in Carolina on Mar 26, 2016 22:16:52 GMT
I'd pay part of the $$$ for you to go to these tacky events just because I think your stories of the drama and additional tackiness would be hilarious.
A "sex party" selling event masquerading as a bachelorette party is something that I would expect from someone who would have people pay to go to a shower.
The only person that I've heard of that has decent sex party events is our beloved Steph. The other parties I've heard of are hard sell MLM nightmares.
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Post by Skellinton on Mar 26, 2016 22:17:36 GMT
Wow. Is this the one that you are actually friends with the mother? Or am I getting my tacky showers mixed up?
I can't imagine inviting my mother's friends (who I am very close with, one is like a second mother or aunt) to a bachelorette party like that. Mothers and her peers should not be attending a bachelorette party, I thought that was something more for my own friends.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Mar 26, 2016 22:18:31 GMT
Ummm . . . well.
How nice of them to let you know there's no need to bring a gift. Especially since I wouldn't have been bringing one anyway since I have been to my fair share of bachelorette parties and have never brought a gift. And neither did anyone else. Sure, the bridesmaids sometimes made her a crazy outfit if we were going to a bar, but that's it!
I might let the 'bring your own drink' thing slide, since all the parties I've been to were at a bar and we all split the tab. But w/these people's track record, it's just one more notch on the tacky belt.
And frankly, if you're doing a sex toy party, then the guest list should be limited to her immediate pals who might find that fun. Not everyone that was invited to my shower was invited to the bachelorette party. And that seems to pretty much be the norm around here. Of course, it may not be for your area.
Let's not even get into the topic of how many sex toys does this girl need . . .
Needless to say, you are required to report back after each of these events!
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Post by valleyview on Mar 26, 2016 22:25:45 GMT
Wow! At this point, I'd be considering not going to the wedding. This bride certainly wants her fun, doesn't she?
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:27:58 GMT
Wow. Is this the one that you are actually friends with the mother? Or am I getting my tacky showers mixed up? I can't imagine inviting my mother's friends (who I am very close with, one is like a second mother or aunt) to a bachelorette party like that. Mothers and her peers should not be attending a bachelorette party, I thought that was something more for my own friends. yup, friends with the mom. My own mother pointed out that maybe the bride feels I am a friend since I talk to her at gatherings, so there might be that. Another one of our friends has offered to drive. If I decline without good reasob, I believe I would really hurt my friends feelings (which is why I come here to talk about it). It doesn't seem too many people have signed up for the shower and they keep posting about making sure you make your reservation |
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Post by johnnysmom on Mar 26, 2016 22:30:35 GMT
Wow. Is this the one that you are actually friends with the mother? Or am I getting my tacky showers mixed up? I can't imagine inviting my mother's friends (who I am very close with, one is like a second mother or aunt) to a bachelorette party like that. Mothers and her peers should not be attending a bachelorette party, I thought that was something more for my own friends. That was my thought as well! I'm no prude but I'm thinking 10+ years from now I will not want to be attending a bachelorette/sex-toy party with my friends' kids and/or my kids' friends  |
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Post by GiantsFan on Mar 26, 2016 22:32:48 GMT
Yeah, no. I would politely have other plans.
Not to mention that they're not even married yet and the marriage needs spicing up?
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 26, 2016 22:35:59 GMT
Is this the same bride to be for the painting canvas party??
Oh lordy.... I am at loss for words. I am so glad I am at the stage in my life where good amount of my friends are turning into grandmas...at some point all these parties just get tiring and expensive...... I'm NO WHERE near being a grandma (well I guess it could happen... my two oldest are almost 20 and 21) but they are pretty much not heading into that direction... good luck!!
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Post by leeny on Mar 26, 2016 22:36:12 GMT
I am going to go out on a limb here. I have been to Pampered Chef and (in the old days) Tupperware showers where we bought products for the bride-to-be. Granted the one you got invited to is pretty risque, I am thinking the intention is the same and the bride-to-be must be ok with it. With all that being said, I would not attend even if it was my own daughter. That type of party is meant for her and her friends of her own generation.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:37:50 GMT
Is this the same bride to be for the painting canvas party?? Oh lordy.... I am at loss for words. I am so glad I am at the stage in my life where good amount of my friends are turning into grandmas...at some point all these parties just get tiring and expensive...... I'm NO WHERE near being a grandma (well I guess it could happen... my two oldest are almost 20 and 21) but they are pretty much not heading into that direction... good luck!! yes, same bride |
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:39:11 GMT
I am going to go out on a limb here. I have been to Pampered Chef and (in the old days) Tupperware showers where we bought products for the bride-to-be. Granted the one you got invited to is pretty risque, I am thinking the intention is the same and the bride-to-be must be ok with it. With all that being said, I would not attend even if it was my own daughter. That type of party is meant for her and her friends of her own generation. I think I would be okay with that if it weren't for paying for the other shower. Also, it is just weird at 40 to be around 20 somethings and sex toys. Or hell, NY own friends and sex toys. Those are images, I'm not sure I want. |
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Post by alexa11 on Mar 26, 2016 22:42:19 GMT
This just keeps getting better and better!  And PLEASE let us know what gift you buy!!! |
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:45:15 GMT
Perhaps I should ask steph for an inexpensive reccommendation
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Post by Chips on Mar 26, 2016 22:48:15 GMT
Omg, unreal. I am sure the next invite will be for the Honeymoon ;P - Help so and so and they enjoy their Honeymoon pay $100 to sleep outside (bring your own food, drink and do not disturb so and so) while they enjoy a beautiful seaside cabana honeymoon!
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Post by johnnysmom on Mar 26, 2016 22:50:02 GMT
You should have a little fun with the gift at least. Either the most boring, vanilla scented candle they have. Or, the kinkiest, dirtiest, sex toy in the catalog. Either way you have a decent chance of not being invited to the weird baby shower sure to come soon  |
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Post by christine58 on Mar 26, 2016 22:52:47 GMT
Sorry but I wouldn't be attending a bachelorette party. I don't think you're under any obligation to attend. I wouldn't be paying to go to the other one either. They are both extremely tacky and I don't encourage tackiness...sorry
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:53:03 GMT
You should have a little fun with the gift at least. Either the most boring, vanilla scented candle they have. Or, the kinkiest, dirtiest, sex toy in the catalog. Either way you have a decent chance of not being invited to the weird baby shower sure to come soon the couple already have a child, so I would hope there isn't another shower coming...but at the rate this is going, I am probably wrong |
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Post by M in Carolina on Mar 26, 2016 22:53:48 GMT
Freecharlie, a classy dame like you should be the one to buy the edible panties and pumpkin spice edible lube of course! I would NEVER want to do a lingerie shower or sex party with my mom or MIL's friends or older relatives or friends. I didn't have a lingerie party. I declined. My evil, weird SIL has a habit of sharing way TMI once when we were shopping together, I found a pretty red lace bra panty set that turned out to have slits in the bra--it was $5 so I got it because I knew dh would like it. I was mortified when my SIL told me later that she told her dh all about it.  She's also asked about my dh's penis size, speculated about FIL's, and tried to shame me into thinking that the 4 of us sharing a hotel room for a vacation wasn't unreasonable. (and BIL is a pastor!) Dh and I had been married about 3 years and her less than 2, but she acted like the idea that a vacation could be complete without sex was unbelievable to me--what else is a vacation for?? |
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 26, 2016 22:55:52 GMT
Freecharlie, a classy dame like you should be the one to buy the edible panties and pumpkin spice edible lube of course! I would NEVER want to do a lingerie shower or sex party with my mom or MIL's friends or older relatives or friends. I didn't have a lingerie party. I declined. My evil, weird SIL has a habit of sharing way TMI once when we were shopping together, I found a pretty red lace bra panty set that turned out to have slits in the bra--it was $5 so I got it because I knew dh would like it. I was mortified when my SIL told me later that she told her dh all about it. She's also asked about my dh's penis size, speculated about FIL's, and tried to shame me into thinking that the 4 of us sharing a hotel room for a vacation wasn't unreasonable. (and BIL is a pastor!) Dh and I had been married about 3 years and her less than 2, but she acted like the idea that a vacation could be complete without sex was unbelievable to me--what else is a vacation for?? since we share a room with our kids, vacation sex is typically not happening, but Omg how creepy she wants to know about your dh's size. Please tell me she at least isn't his sister. And I want no though of fil's penis to ever be in my head. GROSS |
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Post by perumbula on Mar 26, 2016 23:14:15 GMT
I'd be skipping that party too.
My sister had a party with a representative from the same company Steph sells for. I didn't go. I wasn't against the products. I was just totally and completely against discussing anything in the catalog with my sister and a group of people I've never met before.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Mar 26, 2016 23:19:20 GMT
Bachelorette parties are usually just for the closest friends that is weird that it seems all are invited no way would I have invited my mother's friends. If you don't feel comfortable going I would just have other plans but if you go you will have to come back here and dish . |
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 27, 2016 1:32:33 GMT
Omg how creepy she wants to know about your dh's size. Please tell me she at least isn't his sister. And I want no though of fil's penis to ever be in my head No kidding. My brother and his wife have been together since high school and I was in about 5th grade. Anytime she has ever made a comment that could possibly hint at being sexy about my brother I barf a little.  As to my fil? Technically I have 2 since my husband has a step-father, I think that both those men are eunuchs. No penises to ever sully my imagination! I've been to one Pure Romance party, years ago. One of my closest friends threw it with another friends of hers. There wasn't enough room/seats for everyone, so I was sharing a chair with my friends mom, who I'm really good friends with too, so totally not a problem. The problem came when a dildo was was passed around for everyone to look at I guess. No matter how friendly I was with Mona, handing a dildo to her was probably the most mortifying moment of my life. I think she felt the same way. I would be skipping that party, but like most everyone here, selfishly would love for you to go to that party so that we can hear all about it! |
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Post by shescrafty on Mar 27, 2016 1:56:58 GMT
You should go and get her the. Ingest butt plug available! Don't forget the lube! Lol
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Post by emptyskullz on Mar 27, 2016 2:05:30 GMT
Buy her an etiquette book and leave it anonymously on the gift table. You can put a bookmark in the chapter on Thank you notes!!
Cynthia
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Post by mlynn on Mar 27, 2016 2:22:00 GMT
That is not a bachelorette party. It is a shower in disguise. As for passing around dildos....nuh uh. I would not handle it. Period.
I went to a lingerie party with my neighbor once. The racier items and the toys were in a bedroom. The guest were invited to check it out at the end of the presentation. I think that is the classier way to go. Let the guests decide their evel of exposure. But even so, I would never have gone with my mother.
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Post by refugeepea on Mar 27, 2016 2:25:38 GMT
"No need to bring a gift for the bride...you can buy one of the products to spice up her marriage." Eww. Why would anyone want to know the sex toys another person uses, let alone pick them for someone else? I'd be passing on that bridal shower. |
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Post by StephDRebel on Mar 27, 2016 2:29:41 GMT
You should go! I'm guessing it's pure romance since there really isn't much 'competition' anymore. Can you pm me the consultants name? As long as the consultant is running her business by the books it should be low key, laid back and there shouldn't be any pressure to purchase or even touch a toy.
80% of the catalog had nothing to do with sex, if you want any recommendations feel free to let me know.
If you're going, go in with an open mind and make sure you let me know how it was!
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Post by anonrefugee on Mar 27, 2016 2:30:21 GMT
Bachelorette party with my mother's friends seems odd.
Sex Toy party with my mother, and her friends?
Unfathomable!
I Feel very old and out of it. And little happy about it too, if this is the new normal!
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And PLEASE let us know what gift you buy!!!
She's also asked about my dh's penis size, speculated about FIL's, and tried to shame me into thinking that the 4 of us sharing a hotel room for a vacation wasn't unreasonable. (and BIL is a pastor!) Dh and I had been married about 3 years and her less than 2, but she acted like the idea that a vacation could be complete without sex was unbelievable to me--what else is a vacation for??
