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Post by flanz on May 11, 2016 6:36:05 GMT
no advice, just want to send you some hugs.
(((HUGS)))
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Post by Lexica on May 11, 2016 7:05:30 GMT
I think you did the right thing. I have done the same with my son. It hurts me more than I can say, but I couldn't let him keep abusing me the way he was. I hope your daughter turns the corner and makes it back to your family some day.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 11, 2016 10:41:27 GMT
I've got nothing but (((hugs))) for you.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on May 11, 2016 10:46:08 GMT
I am so sorry. I admire your strength in setting boundaries and not enabling.
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Post by momto4kiddos on May 11, 2016 10:51:59 GMT
I'm sorry you are still going through this. As tough as it is, it's refreshing to see a parent who gives boundaries and rules and sticks to them. In the end it's all you can do. ((HUGS))
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Post by pelirroja on May 11, 2016 10:56:28 GMT
I applaud your taking a stand and finding a way to have her at her sister's graduation without letting her back into the family home. It's a fine line and you are setting (and enforcing) boundaries very well. You have managed to navigate the fine art of remaining hopeful while keeping watchful and cautious and that's not an easy thing to do. ((hugs))
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Post by Really Red on May 11, 2016 11:31:14 GMT
I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Many, many hugs! It is very difficult to do the right thing.
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Post by miominmio on May 11, 2016 12:13:48 GMT
((Hugs))
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Post by mikklynn on May 11, 2016 12:50:06 GMT
Oh, crap. I was sick when I saw your post - guessing what was to come. I am so very sorry.
I do think your and your DH are handling this the best way possible. I wish I could give you a real life hug. {{{HUG}}}
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Post by scrappert on May 11, 2016 13:20:25 GMT
I'm sorry. And as others have said, I admire your strength and courage to hold on to your rules. Continued prayers to your daughter.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 16:37:56 GMT
To answer a few.... No clue why she had to quit. We let her know when she was staying at our house rent free, she need to save her money. She could travel when she moved out. I'm sorry but there is no way we are supporting her so she can travel...not with everything she put us through. She wants to travel save up, move out and go.
She is still finshing high school, she will be done at the end of June. She is still talking to her sisters and will occasionally answer if her dad calls with a question.
We will be cordial and her but she needs to live out of our home and grow up. We love her and want the best but she has to get there. Thank you all....
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Post by janeliz on May 11, 2016 16:48:46 GMT
What a tough experience. I like the way you're handling it, but I'm sorry you're having to go through it at all. (((Hugs)))
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Post by 2peaornot2pea on May 11, 2016 16:53:11 GMT
I don't know why some people have to take the more difficult path in life. We can see the clearer path forward for them, but they choose to take the one with obstacles. I guess that is where the saying some people have to learn things the hard way comes from.
Hugs to you and your husband. I think you are doing a really good job handling the consequences of her choices.
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Post by gottapeanow on May 11, 2016 17:21:16 GMT
I am so sorry. Hugs and prayers during this difficult time. FWIW, I agree that you are making the right choices as well.
Lisa
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Post by ilikepink on May 11, 2016 17:26:36 GMT
Hugs. Two steps forward, one step backwards. Sorry you are all still going through this.
Hopefully, soon, it will all be behind you.
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Post by deekaye on May 11, 2016 17:38:34 GMT
I don't have any words of wisdom, just hugs. I think what you and your husband are doing is the right thing.... probably hard to do, but the right thing.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 18:32:50 GMT
I so admire you for doing what I know is the hardest and best thing for your daughter...hugs
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on May 11, 2016 18:54:20 GMT
I'm sorry to hear she chose to go back down that dark, ugly path. I am, however, very impressed with how you and your DH are handling the situation. I hope that one day your DD sees the light.
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Post by heartland on May 11, 2016 19:05:21 GMT
(((hugs))) I know this must be so hard for you...the continual back and forth and whatnot.
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Post by newscrapper05 on May 11, 2016 19:14:09 GMT
I admire your courage and your stance. When I had an unruly teenager I read once: God doesn't promise that we will be leading at the half - only that we will win the game. I hope that happens for you.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 19:55:20 GMT
I'm sorry things backslid with her. I hope she is able to mature and see your only wanting what is best for her.
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Post by msliz on May 11, 2016 19:58:30 GMT
More hugs
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Post by mlynn on May 12, 2016 11:48:24 GMT
I am so sorry. I was hoping that no news was good news. But good for you and dh for sticking to your guns. The right thing is usually the hard thing. Blessings to you and your family..
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Post by tomocus on May 12, 2016 13:08:08 GMT
I too admire your strength and that of your DH. This has to be so very difficult. I cannot imagine what this feels like for you and your family. Keeping you in my prayers. Praying she will soon wake up and realize what she is throwing away and make changes in her life and attitude.
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Post by cynipidae17 on May 12, 2016 15:36:28 GMT
I just wanted to offer hugs. I hope your daughter can get her life figured out.
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Post by BoilerUp! on May 12, 2016 17:20:50 GMT
@leowife - I am glad you are able to accept these actions, and sound like you are doing well. I understand, trust me, I do. Best of luck for you all. It's hard!
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