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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2016 22:38:31 GMT
I'm sorry. I had hoped her interest in the military was a major turning point for her.
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Post by hop2 on May 10, 2016 22:39:44 GMT
Your tale hits so close to home. I still pray for your DD to kick the drugs. It's such a hard thing to kick and has destroyed so many lives and families.
Good thing it was only bricks your DD hit, bumpers can be replaced.
Hold on there, hopefully she comes out the other side sometime soon and you'll be there when she does. It's so hard. Especially when they hit 17-18 and legally there's not much you can do to help them.
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Post by sunraynnc on May 10, 2016 22:40:09 GMT
Prayers for you all. Stay strong.
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Post by Outspoken on May 10, 2016 22:42:28 GMT
You seem to be handling it quite nicely! Kudos to you! You can raise a kid with the best morals and give them everything they need to succeed. In the end, what they choose is THEIR doings.
I have a sister who has dragged my mom through the mud and FINALLY about 1.5 years ago, my mom said ENOUGH. And she has stuck to her guns. Love - yes. Money - no. Approval of lifestyle - no. Bailing out of consequences - no.
I know it's hard because I've seen my mom worry and stress. But, you are doing great! Keep on taking care of you!
Hugs!
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2016 22:43:25 GMT
I am so sorry you and your family is dealing with this yet again. Big hugs to you.
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Post by dreamer on May 10, 2016 22:43:53 GMT
HUGS!
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Post by refugeepea on May 10, 2016 22:45:03 GMT
((hugs)) It is really all you can do to keep your sanity. I understand. You still have other children. You can't be emotionally drained the rest of your life.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2016 22:49:10 GMT
My first thought was not again! She really didn't learn her lesson. Ugh!
I'm so sorry. Stay strong, Mama!
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Post by LeaP on May 10, 2016 22:52:58 GMT
More HUGS! Teenage years are crazy.
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Post by mom on May 10, 2016 22:56:08 GMT
Hugs, I know what you are doing isn't easy but one day she will be so thankful.
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Post by gloryjoy on May 10, 2016 23:07:50 GMT
I'm so sorry. It seemed like she had turned a corner.
You are doing the right thing, but I know it isn't easy.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on May 10, 2016 23:20:40 GMT
I'm so sorry that she's going down this road again.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2016 23:24:30 GMT
I'm so sorry she's gone of the rails. So hard to deal with on so many levels, I'm sure.
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Post by anniefb on May 10, 2016 23:27:41 GMT
So so sorry you're dealing with all this. Hugs.
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Post by baslp on May 10, 2016 23:55:17 GMT
Thanks for the update. I think it is great that you have given her the pink slip to her life. I am sure that you are tired of dealing with all her issues. Hope she gets her act together again. Hang in there!
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Post by jenb72 on May 10, 2016 23:58:24 GMT
I'm so sorry. That really sucks. But you're right to stand your ground and enforce the consequences you laid out for her. She has to want help for help to work. Until then, you're spinning your wheels. I feel so badly for you. I know it has to be so very hard.
Jen
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Post by lesley on May 11, 2016 0:10:04 GMT
Ah, @leowife, I'm so sorry things have slipped back. Your daughter was doing so well, and I really hoped her change in attitude was permanent. But you know, you're doing the right thing, and I really believe that one day your daughter will tire of her chaotic lifestyle, and will want to grow up. For a long time, I felt that life with my daughter would only ever involve lurching from one mental health crisis to the next. It has now been about 14 months since she last attempted suicide, and I don't think she will ever go back to that place, no matter how hard her life might be. I so hope that you will achieve the same easing of mind with your daughter. Hugs.
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Post by katniss on May 11, 2016 0:12:21 GMT
Hugs. Been there done that with DS. It will get better and she'll find her way. It's called tough love for a reason.
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Post by Gravity on May 11, 2016 0:16:48 GMT
((HUGS)) to you and your family. DH and I have been in your shoes. It's hard to be good parents. I am proud of you for sticking to your plan and standing up to your DD.
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Post by pierkiss on May 11, 2016 0:44:04 GMT
Damnit. I hoped she was over the hump. I'm so sorry this is happening again.
I'm glad you've got your boundaries in place though. Hopefully she'll stop the nonsense and get herself together for good soon
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Post by georgiapea on May 11, 2016 1:00:07 GMT
I had such hope that everything would move forward in a good way and feel disheartened that it's come to a screeching halt. I remember my own teen's rebellion and how hard it was for me to cope with. You've done so much for her and one day she will realize that. I wish the best for your family.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 11, 2016 1:01:03 GMT
Sorry to hear the update but I'm with you on keeping your distance and being unemotional in your contact with her. You have gotten your hopes dashed too many times to touch the hot stove again!
Our daughter is coming home from school permanently on Sunday and while I'm excited for her, I am also pretty nervous about re-entry but I will be damned if she'll treat me and the family the way she did before. She's 19 now so she will be expected to work, go to school and help around the house. If she doesn't like it, I have no problem showing her the door. I work a very physical job now and more hours than before, so I'm tired and need help. No more catering to her.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on May 11, 2016 1:12:43 GMT
Know that you are doing the right thing and stand firm. I'm sure it hurts afresh every time. Good thoughts coming your way.
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Post by teddyw on May 11, 2016 2:17:46 GMT
So sorry she's had this setback. I really hope she can quit the drugs.
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Post by Jili on May 11, 2016 4:42:16 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this. I had high hopes for her after reading your posts about her interest in a military career. I truly hope that she sees the light soon.
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Post by lucyg on May 11, 2016 5:02:49 GMT
I am so sorry to read this update. I know it's hard, but you're doing the right thing.
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Post by redrulz on May 11, 2016 5:04:05 GMT
Where to start... Taylor was doing well...back at home, got a job, saved bought a car, no drugs, no bad friends and was signed up to finsh high school. We all agreed on simple rules no drugs, no one in our home without permission, save her money for her future, go to school, job and basic respect. Well, she had a fit because she wanted to quit her job and go to Hawaii for 2 weeks. We told her she is an "adult", do what you want but you will be moving out. We explained to her that quitting her job was irresponsible and to spend money on a trip whIle she had other things to pay, well we were done supporting her running around. Might not be a popular opioin but it's ours, a result of the crap she has put our family through. It was dropped and we moved on. Fast forward to the middle of April...she calls, she backed into a pile of bricks at a friends house and ripped off her bumper. I go to help her and yep, high as a kite. We got her home,I told her I was disappointed and she packed up and left in the middle of the night. She moved into a gated neighborhood with a strange family. Won't speak to us but has stayed in contact with her sister. What was relayed to us is she is an adult and will do what she wants when she wants. That's fine, more power to her. We are sticking with keeping our distance. She texted me the other day asking for tickets to her sisters graduation. I said yep, said we love, always here. I'm sick and tired of this crap, so hubby and I have chosen to keep is simple and cordial. One day she will grow up, all we can do is wait... Thank you all for asking after us. Hugs. I've followed your struggle with your daughter and It seems like you are trying to show her you love her and are willing to be there to help her out, but that you require her to live within reasonable guidelines. You are doing a great job, and even if she doesn't take you up on everything, she knows that you will be there for her if she will accept your rules. I'm pretty sure teenage years are more for the parents. Our beautiful sweet children grow into their own personality (as they should) and want to assert their independence. The conflicts that follow make the empty nest years seem like heaven! lol I do have a question about going to Hawaii for two weeks and wanting to quit her job(bold mine). Why does she need to quit her job to go on a vacation? Is it because there is no time available for her to be off? I know I loved travelling when I was that age and I was trip- hopping all over the world. Sometimes I took Leave of Absence , sometimes i had to call around for people to cover my shifts, but I was usually able to travel AND continue working. Is that not an option? |
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Post by malibou on May 11, 2016 5:06:51 GMT
So very sorry you find yourself in this situation again. Wishing you peace as she figures this out.
J
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Post by theshyone on May 11, 2016 5:28:42 GMT
I'm sorry,it may be a long time. My niece was born in 80 so ......36 now?  ? Still will rob, steal, cheat, to get the next fix, from anyone, her mom on her deathbed, her elderly grandma, it's just never ends.n |
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Post by JoP on May 11, 2016 5:39:39 GMT
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? Still will rob, steal, cheat, to get the next fix, from anyone, her mom on her deathbed, her elderly grandma, it's just never ends.n