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Post by scrapmaven on May 14, 2016 16:03:49 GMT
We go w/dh. It's not as much fun w/o him. I can see that, but what if you can't go at all (with the perks the OP described) since he is at work during these times? Then we would go somewhere, maybe not as big as we would if he could go.
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Post by georgiapea on May 14, 2016 17:04:24 GMT
We almost always vacation without each other. DH goes to the annual Ercoupe Owners Club event each year, and sometimes to Sun & Fun in Florida. I would be a real drag if I were along. But the real reason is that we have 2 dogs, 2 cats, and a pair of birds at home. Our most recent 'separation' was last month when DH spent 3 weeks in Texas for job training. In June I'll be gone for 6 days to WI for a family event.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 14, 2016 17:43:46 GMT
I don't really get the business about not enjoying trips without Dh....I find they're just a different sort of enjoyment. If we, Dh and I, holiday together it's 'us' time which we love. If I go with one or both of my DDs it's Mum and girl/s time - fantastic. If I have a weekend with a girlfriend we have a great time. Do I always wish he was there? No because that would be a different event altogether and my focus would be different. They all have valueanf I enjoy them all for what they are. As far as the OP's question - if he really resents you going the maybe once or twice a year is enough. My DH is great, but when it comes to vacation he has a way about him where he really just wants to get from A to B. He doesn't like distractions, doesn't like to deviate from whatever plan he has in his head even if something else comes up that we might like to do more. He's impatient if we see something in a shop window we want to stop and look at, and even more impatient if we actually go in. I enjoy taking the roads less traveled, stopping in little towns, poking in antique stores, gift shops and craft stores and my friends do, too. While I could do some of those things on my own, it's much more fun when I'm with like minded company. So for those reasons, I wouldn't give up those experiences without my DH. I know he doesn't enjoy those things so I occasionally find other people to travel with who do.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2016 17:44:14 GMT
We do both. I travel extensively for work, so I have lots of miles, and if it were up to me, all our trips would be together using those miles to go fun places. But it's easier for me to get time off than it is for him, and some of our interests do not intersect.
He doesn't want to go to knitting or yoga retreats (WAT?!), and I would prefer not to cycle 500 miles with a tent and all my dehydrated food for the week in panniers. So we do a lot of solo trips.
This year, I hope we can get one solid week off together, and we want to do a road trip of the Southwest. *fingers crossed*
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 14, 2016 19:32:03 GMT
My mom took plenty of trips with us kids (5 of us but it was only us two youngest ones when we were teens). Not sure if it was because dad had to work or because he didn't want to go, probably a combination of the two. He was more of a homebody where mom liked to get up and go.
I have taken the kids on a weekend trip without DH and he has done likewise (it's rare but I love it when he does that)! I also hope to go to Chicago late this summer alone! DH has gone to Vegas alone to visit with friends so we don't have any issue with separate trips.
I also love country music and have asked DH to go to a concert with me. Wouldn't even go to one for my 50th bday last summer. However, I plan to go without him.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on May 14, 2016 20:33:20 GMT
Absolutely. We generally each take our daughter to visit our respective families each year. We would all go together, but we are limited by vacation time, so we do it individually. Each of us actually enjoy having the house to ourselves for a week. Once in awhile I also travel with girlfriends or my daughter and I go some place together.
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Post by ~Sherri~ on May 14, 2016 21:04:18 GMT
DH and I have been married for 30 years and never took a vacation apart until recently. DD and I went to the Yarn Tent sale in North Carolina without DH or SIL. We spent 3 nights away, one in Washington and two at Atlantic beach. While we really enjoyed our mother/daughter time together, we both wished that DH and SIL could have been there with us. DH is my best friend and we enjoy spending time together on vacations.
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Post by 950nancy on May 14, 2016 22:45:20 GMT
We always take a family trip together somewhere beachy (or Vegasy). For my 50th, I wanted to go to Orlando. My son and husband had to work and don't love theme parks. My youngest and I spend four solid days at Universal and had the Fast Pass and loved every second of it. We analyzed ride times, relived the Harry Potter movies, argued about the silliest of things, and had great trip. No way the other two family members would have had as much fun (or maybe even fun at all). My husband, on the other hand, would much rather spend his time visiting his family.
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Post by likescarrots on May 15, 2016 1:06:57 GMT
I don't have kids but I don't think either of us would be particularly happy about the other going on a leisure only type vacation. My husband does travel a lot for work and if it's somewhere I want to go I travel with him. Otherwise we go on vacation together.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Jun 18, 2016 18:40:56 GMT
I haven't done that but we have considered it this summer. I probably won't do it but might in the future. I do take trips by myself with friends but no kids and or husbands. Based on your post I would go and take the kids.
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Post by Florida Cindy on Jun 19, 2016 12:45:51 GMT
I prefer to take vacations with DH, but he is a bit of a workaholic and considers a 4 day weekend a vacation. Ditto! DH is not going to attend the family reunion in July. He feels he has to be at work due to recent changes. Also, it will be good for me to take Mom. It will probably be her last reunion.
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Post by Nink on Jun 19, 2016 13:19:20 GMT
DH and I go on separate trips all the time. I actually enjoy it and so does he I imagine. We like different things as far as vacationing goes. He's leaving on Wednesday to go camping with friends until Sunday. House to myself!!!
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Post by cmhs on Jun 20, 2016 13:07:40 GMT
I'm on vacation without dh right now! I'm visiting my dd in Colorado without dh or my 2 younger kids. I've gone away with my mom and sister before but never by myself. Feeling no guilt and having a great time!
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Post by shaniam on Jun 20, 2016 13:16:15 GMT
Yep! Used to do it all the time because my husband just didn't want to go so I went without him. Just took my boys to Florida a few weeks without him. If I only did what my husband wanted to do and go when and where he wanted, I would never do anything.
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Post by malibou on Jun 20, 2016 13:22:16 GMT
Right now my dh and ds are on their annual 2 week mountain biking road trip. Ds and I usually go to visit my side of the family sometime during the summer for a week or two. We also love to travel all together.
J
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Post by giatocj on Jun 20, 2016 13:38:37 GMT
I visit friends in the midwest for a week every other year without my SO, but it's more a girl's weekend than family vaca. On the other hand, during family vacations in the summer, my grandson and I do go off on day trips without Steve. We go to DC and have a ball while Steve stays back at the hotel with Tucker because he refuses to put him at the vet for the day. I've just gotten used to that over the last ten years and am totally fine with it, but don't think I could do a whole "family" vacation without him. I love my grandson and he loves me, but he's almost 17 and doesn't really want to hang with his Gia for 10-14 days .
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