sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on May 18, 2016 12:14:16 GMT
I feel so bad about this. DD is almost 12. The last thing I ever would want to do is cause her harm or feeling of self doubt about her physical looks. Last night she shaved her arms. My first reaction was shock but then I started laughing. I wasn't laughing at her. I was laughing at what she did and the fact that a friend of mine had just posted that her 9.5 yo dd just did the same thing (along with her legs and half an eyebrow). So it was just a combo of the two. Once I started laughing, ds was laughing and I couldn't stop. I felt so so so bad. She was still mad at me this morning. I could see the hurt on her face last night. One of those mom moments I wish I could take back.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on May 18, 2016 12:27:57 GMT
She'll get over it.
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Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on May 18, 2016 12:28:15 GMT
Aww...sorry mama. I can relate to wishing you could take something back.
I'm sure this isn't popular here, but I tell my kids that I'd rather they get the reaction from me who loves them than the world who mostly doesn't. Sometimes we laugh at each other because well, we've done something kinda dumb. I like to feel like I'm conditioning them for the real world. (Said tongue firmly in cheek) I also don't have super sensitive kids who can't handle it and would be devastated at that response. That in itself may be a chicken and the egg situation.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on May 18, 2016 12:29:48 GMT
It happens but like Dalai Mama said, she'll get over it. I'd apologize, if you haven't already. I did something similar over the weekend and it hurt dd's feeling. I told her I was sorry and then told her why I laughed...which in turn, made her laugh and I think that took some of the sting away. But I did apologize and mean it and she saw that.
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Post by mikklynn on May 18, 2016 12:36:21 GMT
It happens but like Dalai Mama said, she'll get over it. I'd apologize, if you haven't already. I did something similar over the weekend and it hurt dd's feeling. I told her I was sorry and then told her why I laughed...which in turn, made her laugh and I think that took some of the sting away. But I did apologize and mean it and she saw that. Perfect.
You are not perfect. This is a good moment to explain that to her. Boy, parenting is HARD!
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on May 18, 2016 12:59:01 GMT
Awww I hate when something like that happens. I'd explain it was more a combination of what you'd heard someone else did, not really about her. Apologize and more on. It's all you can do.
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Post by jbelle on May 18, 2016 13:08:29 GMT
Just apologize and tell the story about the other girl and why you laughed. Say that you were in a mommy moment while realizing that your little girl has grown up, that kind of stuff is shocking to a mother sometimes, believe me. Offer to take her shopping to check out the latest beauty products in grooming and everything else. Make it a girls day out, enjoy.
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Post by boatymcboatface on May 18, 2016 13:25:11 GMT
A big big hug and a sincere apology will go a long way. It's okay to tell your child that you messed up and you are sorry that you hurt her feelings because you love her and would never have hurt her feelings on purpose, doing this models taking responsibility for something you did that hurt someone else even unintentional and that is a good lesson for a young lady to learn.
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Post by nurseypants on May 18, 2016 13:37:34 GMT
If you have not already apologized, do so immediately, then put the incident behind you, and let her know that you expect her to do the same.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on May 18, 2016 14:05:24 GMT
Been there, done that.
My nephew was 5 when he was introduced to Harry Potter, but was too young to see the films or read the books, so he only knew what he had heard. When I visited, he was running round the lounge waving an empty toilet roll tube and shouting "smelly armour!" (Expelliamus) I couldn't help laughing, and there were tears. I had to kneel down and give him a big cuddle and explain that I was laughing at smelly armour, not at him, and didn't he agree that it was a funny word? He did, a watery smile followed and I was forgiven. But I felt absolutely terrible. I wouldn't deliberately hurt his poor little feelings for anything. Bless him.
But oh my goodness, it was pant-wettingly funny.
He forgave me. Your little lass will forgive you, especially if you explain the other circumstances that tickled you.
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sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on May 18, 2016 14:11:33 GMT
I did apologize last night and this morning. She normally does get over things quickly. So hoping by this afternoon she'll be over it.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on May 18, 2016 14:20:33 GMT
Take her shopping for some lotions, I can't imagine that it won't itch a bit!
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freebird
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Post by freebird on May 18, 2016 14:24:51 GMT
Sounds like you apologized and that's the best you can do.
As for arm shaving, best shaving decision I've made in 10 years I hate arm hair. Makes me feel more confident and no one notices. Also, it doesn't itch when it grows in.
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Post by Deleted on May 18, 2016 17:25:48 GMT
I hope she gets over it soon..
As for shaving... my daughter is a shaver and maybe your girl will be, too. Mine started shaving her legs at 9 years old, then her arms, and then her hands, and then anywhere else hair came in when it came in. Some girls just hate body hair.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 18, 2016 17:48:42 GMT
Is she self conscious about the hair on her arms? One of my daughter's friends shaved her arms - she had a lot of dark hair on her arms that she was very self conscious about. You might have a conversation with her about body hair to see if this is more than just experimenting with a razor.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on May 18, 2016 18:49:17 GMT
Yeah, she will. In fact when she gets a little older she will be telling the story and making a big deal about the look on your face. |
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