Am I the only parent who

My kids had dumb phones when they were 10 & 11 because they had to be home afterschool alone and needed a way to contact me. I upgraded them to smart phones a couple of years later. My DD started out with a Facebook account when she was a preteen. That was the extent of her social media for a long while. Now, she's 16 and she's on basically all the social media sites. My DS is 14 and he's not interested.  I find myself agreeing with anxiousmom. I have always had the rule that you had to be willing to hand your phone over at any time and it was subject to search by me. I have had two occasions in the past five years with DD to check her phone. Both times, I did not find anything incriminating. I am of the opinion that I have a pretty good relationship with my kids.  Both of them are pretty open with me. I don't feel like either of them are into hiding what they are doing. I am not naïve, though, and I know they don't always tell me everything, but I feel like important stuff, they come to me. I also think that both of them have good judgment, as well.  They have proven that they can make good choices. I trust them to handle social media responsibly and I also trust that if something questionable were to happen, both of them would tell me and most likely seek my counsel. It's just the nature of our relationship.

I think as a parent, you should be making rules based on your kids.  I try my best to assess every situation as it comes to me and then make the decision based on what I know of my kid. And I am not one to deal in absolutes. As a child proves themselves to me, I reward with more privileges. I am not the type of parent that makes rules strictly based on age. Like 13 to have a Facebook account or 16 to date. I don't even have a curfew. I take each situation separately and decide what is an appropriate time for my child to be home based on that particular situation. And I think my kids respect that philosophy.  Rarely do I hear a groan when I say that they have to be home by 9:00 on a particular night because I'm tired.  They know that next time I may be willing to say you can stay out until 11:30 on a weekend so they can hit a 9:00 movie.  But then again, my parenting philosophy is based on the kids I have.  If I had sneaky kids, I might be more strict.  If I had kids who didn't respect my rules, then I wouldn't be giving them as much leeway as I do.  

OP, I did not take your post as judgmental.  I think each child is individual.  I think each parent-child relationship is different.  What works for mine, might not work for yours.