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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2016 6:41:47 GMT
I noticed "poor" dominated the votes on the sex poll.
Many peas said their sex life was non-existent.
So I thought I'd throw out a poll to ask the question, "How long has it been since you last had sex with another person?"
And for the record, I'm no Bill Clinton. Sex is whatever intimacy you consider it to be with another person. PIV sex as the only real sex is a very American way of thinking, but any physical intimacy between two (or more) people still counts.
I've added a poll for anonymity.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 6:54:57 GMT
Me and the husband (my husband and I?) are living in two different countries atm, he comes over to see me every 10 weeks or so. We try to make up for things while he's here but it's not easy. We've always had a very intense level of intimacy and we both miss that. He's the most affectionate person I've ever known and I kiss his hugs, kisses and the way he looks at me like I'm the best thing he's ever seen.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 30, 2016 12:23:02 GMT
October 29, 2012. 3 1/2 years.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 12:33:45 GMT
I voted 10 - 14 years but it might only be 9 or 9 1/2 years. Absence of something is usually something you don't notice right away unless it is a traumatic event that causes it.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2016 12:37:26 GMT
Absence of something is usually something you don't notice right away unless it is a traumatic event that causes it. True. I, like lesserknownpea can name the date of the last time I did it. |
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 12:43:48 GMT
I think you should have had one for *in the past week*. I know lots of people who have sex about once a week and once a week is four times as much as once a month. And I think once a week is probably close to average for people in long term relationship that are older/longer than 2 or 3 years. Yeah, I know those who are older and in a ltr may not be doing average anymore but are still happy with the frequency.
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gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 30, 2016 13:27:43 GMT
I think you should have had one for *in the past week*. I know lots of people who have sex about once a week and once a week is four times as much as once a month. And I think once a week is probably close to average for people in long term relationship that are older/longer than 2 or 3 years. Yeah, I know those who are older and in a ltr may not be doing average anymore but are still happy with the frequency. I was also looking for in the last week. |
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Jun 30, 2016 13:31:01 GMT
We go from 3-4 times a week to once a week and back. It really depends on what our schedule is. So my vote is in the past week but I did the past month.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 13:41:10 GMT
I, too, am someone who needed an option for "in the past week." I've noticed that if you were to take our average per month, it's about 10-12 times a month.
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paget
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Post by paget on Jun 30, 2016 13:54:04 GMT
I think the spread from month to year is too long to accurately capture what is happening.
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Post by AR Scrapper on Jun 30, 2016 14:33:54 GMT
I agree with the others who say you might want an in the last week option.  But I voted in the last month. |
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 30, 2016 14:48:04 GMT
Where's the "in the last week" option?
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 30, 2016 14:50:39 GMT
Well I voted in the past month but it has been sooner than that. I also voted that I had a "good" sex life in the other thread.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2016 14:52:52 GMT
I think you should have had one for *in the past week* I was also looking for in the last week. I, too, am someone who needed an option for "in the past week." I think the spread from month to year is too long to accurately capture what is happening. I agree with the others who say you might want an in the last week option. Where's the "in the last week" option? Sorry about that. It was late when I made the poll. I can't seem to edit it now. |
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Jun 30, 2016 14:53:56 GMT
At first I was all  that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed.
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 30, 2016 15:25:58 GMT
I think you should have had one for *in the past week* I was also looking for in the last week. I, too, am someone who needed an option for "in the past week." I think the spread from month to year is too long to accurately capture what is happening. I agree with the others who say you might want an in the last week option. Where's the "in the last week" option? Sorry about that. It was late when I made the poll. I can't seem to edit it now. We can all just put in the past month and be good. LOL. Interesting poll just the same! |
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 15:27:28 GMT
LavenderLayoutLady I realized after I hit the send button that I was complaining about a category I didn't even need. Nit Picker - me 
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 15:29:39 GMT
At first I was all that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed.
I used to love it early in the morning. As long as there was no talking. I always had more energy than in the evening after a long day at work. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 15:55:04 GMT
At first I was all that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed.
I was more like 'jammy sods'  |
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SabrinaP
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Post by SabrinaP on Jun 30, 2016 16:01:42 GMT
At first I was all that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed.
Well I counted last night after midnight as today. It pays to be married to a teacher and both of you be on summer vacation! |
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Jun 30, 2016 16:15:26 GMT
Today. I'm really bothered that I can't see polls. I would say on average were 2-4 times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. He's 12 years older than me so I'm going to enjoy it while he is willing and able, and then we will figure something out  |
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Post by littlemama on Jun 30, 2016 17:31:17 GMT
At first I was all that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed.
I thought the same thing, but then I chose today. It was actually yesterday, but I wasn't going to choose within the past month for that! |
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Jun 30, 2016 18:21:16 GMT
I'm curious out of the people who voted anywhere between 2-20 years, are you married? (in a committed relationship) I got the impression from the other poll where people were the poor rating came up so often was that they were in a relationship versus a single person, someone recently divorced or widowed. Either way no sex is no sex, but being married just technically means there is someone there you could be having sex with.
ETA: I know in some relationships there are medical issues that prevent sex from happening. but that is not everyone's issue for long term intimacy avoidance.
FTR I'm married. I voted in the last month. I'm satisfied with our 2-4 times a month my husband would like a few more.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2016 18:44:07 GMT
LavenderLayoutLady I realized after I hit the send button that I was complaining about a category I didn't even need. Nit Picker - me No biggie! |
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 30, 2016 20:46:11 GMT
Let's bounce this back up to the top.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 21:03:41 GMT
Where's the choice that's between today and one month ago? DH and I just celebrated 29 years of marriage and we are both in our 50's and yes, we have slowed down from when we were first married, but we are both okay with that. Neither of us is bitching about it and it's usually me that says something like "I'm cranky, I need to get laid" and off we go...lol....We've been having sex pretty regularly for 29 YEARS and have run the gamut of every day to once a month or so depending on what is going on in our lives. If a couple is content in the amount of sex they are having, that is all that matters....not comparing yourselves to others. Our DS, age 20 is moving out the 1st of August into his first apartment with a buddy (he's been living at home while attending community college) and DH and I are anticipating and looking forward to a bit of a surge....lol....well, at least in the beginning after he's gone. |
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Jun 30, 2016 23:13:48 GMT
I'm curious out of the people who voted anywhere between 2-20 years, are you married? (in a committed relationship) I got the impression from the other poll where people were the poor rating came up so often was that they were in a relationship versus a single person, someone recently divorced or widowed. Either way no sex is no sex, but being married just technically means there is someone there you could be having sex with. FTR: I'm married. I voted in the last month. I'm satisfied with our 2-4 times a month my husband would like a few more. I voted in the 15-19 year range. I've been married for 25 years. My DH has serious medical issues. Shit happens. I'm not happy about the situation, but I am just not a cheater at heart, and the pros still outweigh the cons in my relationship. I tell you, had I known my sex life would die before I hit 30, I would have had a lot more of it when I had the chance...and with a lot more partners!  |
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Jun 30, 2016 23:40:43 GMT
I'm curious out of the people who voted anywhere between 2-20 years, are you married? (in a committed relationship) I got the impression from the other poll where people were the poor rating came up so often was that they were in a relationship versus a single person, someone recently divorced or widowed. Either way no sex is no sex, but being married just technically means there is someone there you could be having sex with. FTR: I'm married. I voted in the last month. I'm satisfied with our 2-4 times a month my husband would like a few more. I voted in the 15-19 year range. I've been married for 25 years. My DH has serious medical issues. Shit happens. I'm not happy about the situation, but I am just not a cheater at heart, and the pros still outweigh the cons in my relationship. I tell you, had I known my sex life would die before I hit 30, I would have had a lot more of it when I had the chance...and with a lot more partners! Maybe I should ETA that I realize there are medical issues in some relationships. Sorry for what you are going through Anita and that it happened so young. I hope you have a good relationship otherwise. Obviously as you stated you aren't happy about the no sex but I hope you have good times together and get along well etc. |
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But I voted in the last month.
that 11% said "today" and it's not even 10am, but then I realized that we have international members and now I'm all embarrassed. 
