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Post by pierkiss on Jul 3, 2016 22:19:46 GMT
I cannot even begin to tell you how much I hate the Signature Drink and that's it trend. Mostly because every wedding I've been to that has done this I have absolutely hated the signature drink. My best friend had 2 at her wedding, and both made me want to vomit. Others have been too sweet, or too whatever else. If you want to have the signature drink that's fine, but please have a couple other options for those of us who do not share your taste in drink.
And no, I've never said anything to anyone whose done this. I would never. it's their day, they can do whatever the hell makes them happy.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 3, 2016 22:50:37 GMT
Most weddings I have attended have had open or cash bar. Some have had open bar until a certain $ amount. I have also seen some with cash bars that the host of the wedding will give out tickets and pay for those drinks. Never been to one with a signature drink though. The last wedding I went to a few weeks ago had the mom of the bride drink so much that she had to leave the reception halfway through. Not sure if providing free liquor for 100 -300 people is a great idea anyway. Glad I have sons. They have already been told that we will pay X amount of dollars and they can decide what to do with it.
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Post by needtime2scrap on Jul 3, 2016 23:00:55 GMT
I help cater at weddings and have done so for the past 5 years. Never once did we ever not give the bride/groom the leftover food that they paid for. We always made extra but if they paid for 200 and only 175 showed up we left them food for 25 people. Like the wedding I worked yesterday paid for 190 and there were 39 guests who didn't show up. We left them food for 40 people. That meant 10 roasters of food plus the dessert (not wedding cake). We usually do buffet style but have never had food get cold because we run our asses off making sure we have fresh, hot,full serving dishes for the guests. We always serve the head table and depending on whether or not they have real dishes or plastic we clear the tables as well.
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Post by LiLi on Jul 3, 2016 23:10:36 GMT
Nope. Most people don't realize how much food is leftover. BUT we did do a wedding where the bride did. OMG she went postal. Yes, the bride was cheated. And we ended up throwing a lot of the leftovers out because there any lunches that week. You should see the food left over/ thrown out at sit down dinners. One wedding I started saving the roast beef from the plates that had not been touch. I took home over 4 maybe five pounds of beef maybe more. No matter how trust worthy you think a caterer is, they are a business trying to make the most profit. That has got to be illegal. Here, you can't even re-use a returned condiment packet for a different customer. If it isn't illegal, well then you are working for an unethical pos. Stealing money and reselling old food... Gross. |
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Post by AllieC on Jul 3, 2016 23:25:51 GMT
I don't like buffets at all and have only been to one wedding that had one. The food is generally much poorer quality and has that re-heated casserole taste about it.
As for having a signature cocktail and no other alcohol, I agree with the poster that said that this was rude. By all means have the cocktail but at least have beer and wine as well.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 4, 2016 0:06:36 GMT
You serve one special cocktail. No wine, no beer. Cuts your liquor to almost nothing. I don't drink cocktails and I wouldn't appreciate a wedding with no wine or beer and most people I know wouldn't either. Tell me about it!! That would not go down well AT ALL in this beer and wine loving nation! |
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Post by charlatan on Jul 4, 2016 1:27:36 GMT
The last few weddings I've attended recently were buffets. They were good - the food was high quality, hot and plentiful. The last couple had multiple buffet tables set up which really helped with the line issue.
The signature drinks are pretty popular where I live now (southern US) but it's also more common to have a dry wedding here compared to where I grew up in the northeast.
I don't really like the idea of a cash bar (I feel like it's pretty tacky no matter how much I try to rationalize it to myself) but I also don't like the idea of spending a lot of money on something I don't enjoy myself. I don't drink and a lot of my family are heavy drinkers. I can only imagine how much it would cost for an true open bar with all the options. I like the idea of a limited open bar with just wine and beer...or that signature cocktail that half of this board seems to dislike!
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Post by gar on Jul 4, 2016 7:40:20 GMT
I don't drink cocktails and I wouldn't appreciate a wedding with no wine or beer and most people I know wouldn't either. Tell me about it!! That would not go down well AT ALL in this beer and wine loving nation! No, and I haven't known of it happening here. DD is getting married next Spring and none of the venues she looked at have suggested it. |
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jul 4, 2016 11:25:18 GMT
Ages and agesa ago when we got married we did a buffet. You go through the line, get food then go sit at a table. I had been to both plated and buffet weddings some have been great, others not so good of both. It really does depend upon the caterer.
As for alcohol, we did free beer and set up all night. No signature drinks in those days. Our reception hall was right above the liquor store so guests could go downstairs and buy a bottle of alcohol and bring up to the hall if they wanted. There was just no way we could possibly have what everyone wanted on hand. We did have preferred drinks for those in the wedding party. Most people just drank the free beer all night so all was good.
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Post by sunraynnc on Jul 4, 2016 14:53:38 GMT
We served heavy hors d'oeuvres, and it worked great (mid-afternoon reception). Open bar...I really dislike the idea of making people pay for drinks at a party you're throwing. I think you mean cash bar. (And I agree.) Open bar is when you provide a fully stocked bar for the guests. |
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Post by lumo on Jul 4, 2016 15:42:53 GMT
We served heavy hors d'oeuvres, and it worked great (mid-afternoon reception). Open bar...I really dislike the idea of making people pay for drinks at a party you're throwing. I think you mean cash bar. (And I agree.) Open bar is when you provide a fully stocked bar for the guests. I meant that we had an open bar because I dislike cash bars, but I see how my punctuation could lead to confusion  |
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 4, 2016 18:20:59 GMT
The last wedding I went to had a BBQ food truck for dinner. I prefer a food truck to a buffet as they seem to be able to keep the food hot, well stocked and the line moving quickly.
Signature drinks are popular. But, they are always served along with an open bar. Although one of my cousins had a limited open bar...free for the reception before dinner and during dinner. But, after it was a cash bar. I think they did that in an attempt to keep all his party buddies in line as well as save some money.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Jul 4, 2016 18:33:37 GMT
I haven't been to a sit down dinner at a wedding in a really long time. I imagine it is regional, but with all the dietary restrictions / diets that people have now, most people I know prefer to have buffet so people can plate themselves to suit them. There is usually something that everyone can eat. I go mainly to Indian weddings which are always buffet and are served all night. With 800 plus people being the norm, can you imagine having a sit down dinner? Heck, you are lucky if you get a seat. We usually sit in shifts the majority of people are up and dancing so everyone just naturally staggers the meal. It's always hot. |
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Post by myshelly on Jul 4, 2016 18:40:13 GMT
I actually don't think I've ever been to a wedding where alcohol was served.
Lots of Southern Baptists and conservatives here.
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Post by cakediva on Jul 4, 2016 18:52:25 GMT
The worst resell: We did a dessert party and what was left over was the pastry cream desserts. Well, a woman I knew had order a pastry tray for a tea party she was having. Guess where those pastries went! Omg she was flaming when she returned the tray. Somebody at her party was at the dessert party and recognized the pastries. I must say I was almost laughing at my boss , trying to squirm her way out of that! I'm trying to wrap my head around how they are RESELLING food that has been out for other people??? My health unit would shut me down if I had collected dessert trays sitting out at one function and then re-used the uneaten ones for another function. |
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Post by Merge on Jul 4, 2016 20:15:56 GMT
I generally prefer a buffet and we've been to a few that had multiple buffet stations, which was nice. DH's cousin even had a kids' buffet station with different food than the adults had (chicken fingers, bagel pizzas, etc.). I know our wedding in 1996 was incredibly tacky by pea standards, but I didn't know any better. (Compared to my cousins' weddings, which were almost all potluck and held in the church hall with paper streamers for decoration, it was a luxury blowout, and I was the first of my friends to marry, so no basis for comparison.) We had a buffet with no vegetarian option that I recall, and the tables had plastic tablecloths and we used paper plates and plastic utensils. Red Solo cups from the bar for beer and clear plastic cups for wine! There were only about 80 people there, almost all family, and no one complained ... but I do cringe a bit when I think of it.  |
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Post by gar on Jul 4, 2016 20:30:42 GMT
The worst resell: We did a dessert party and what was left over was the pastry cream desserts. Well, a woman I knew had order a pastry tray for a tea party she was having. Guess where those pastries went! Omg she was flaming when she returned the tray. Somebody at her party was at the dessert party and recognized the pastries. I must say I was almost laughing at my boss , trying to squirm her way out of that! I'm trying to wrap my head around how they are RESELLING food that has been out for other people??? My health unit would shut me down if I had collected dessert trays sitting out at one function and then re-used the uneaten ones for another function. If they knew.... |
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Post by cakediva on Jul 4, 2016 20:36:44 GMT
I'm trying to wrap my head around how they are RESELLING food that has been out for other people??? My health unit would shut me down if I had collected dessert trays sitting out at one function and then re-used the uneaten ones for another function. If they knew.... OK - sure "if they knew" - but I know - and that is enough to make me, the business owner and head cake designer, say "ew" not reusing food ever. Cost of doing business. |
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Post by gar on Jul 4, 2016 20:44:26 GMT
OK - sure "if they knew" - but I know - and that is enough to make me, the business owner and head cake designer, say "ew" not reusing food ever. Cost of doing business. Yes of course. I just meant that it happens because not everyone is as carefully about standards and some won't be able to resist the temptation. As with most areas of business, not everyone has high standards. |
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Post by cakediva on Jul 4, 2016 21:10:22 GMT
OK - sure "if they knew" - but I know - and that is enough to make me, the business owner and head cake designer, say "ew" not reusing food ever. Cost of doing business. Yes of course. I just meant that it happens because not everyone is as carefully about standards and some won't be able to resist the temptation. As with most areas of business, not everyone has high standards. I know - and it totally pisses me off that some businesses get away with it. I'm sure it is insanely hard to police - I don't envy the health inspectors job! But I can't wrap my head around how anybody in the food business can think it is ok! |
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 4, 2016 21:15:59 GMT
All I can add to this conversation is, 99% of you would have hated my wedding.
No sit down dinner, no drinks, no dancing. You would have been sorely disappointed that I did not make my wedding all about my guests.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 4, 2016 22:04:25 GMT
All I can add to this conversation is, 99% of you would have hated my wedding. No sit down dinner, no drinks, no dancing. You would have been sorely disappointed that I did not make my wedding all about my guests. Same here! It was a 2:30 pm wedding and there was a cake & punch reception held in the church activity center. No drinking, no dancing and no fancy decorations, just some flowers on the cake table. I was probably the first one in the county who ever had a groom's cake! I remember having to explain the concept several times. In recent years the best wedding we've attended was a buffet reception. There were 3 stations in different areas of the venue, all with the same food. The serving tables were round so much easier to just jump into an open space so the lines went very quickly. With enough seats for everyone, you just got your food and sat to eat. Save |
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Post by dealsamongus on Jul 4, 2016 22:38:02 GMT
My first husband and I did a buffet Italian meal.
My second wedding my current husband and I did a local high end Mexican restaurant for the food.. That was awesome and people lived it.. Different than normal wedding food.
It fit us perfect since we live and love in the mecca of Mexican food (San Diego). It's our meal twice a week.
We had what could be an open bar with wine, beer and margaritas of course. It was awesome.
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Post by dealsamongus on Jul 4, 2016 22:39:11 GMT
My dd just had her wedding and had a taco bar catered by a local Mexican restaurant. They served the food to the guests, it was hot and fresh and we offered food to go. It was a hit even if it wasn't traditional. Just out of curiosity where was the wedding.. We did. The same thing and are in San Diego. |
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Post by Dreamsofnyssa on Jul 5, 2016 0:16:30 GMT
I guess my wedding would have been considered a buffet. It was a traditional Mexican wedding where my relatives made and served the food. Shredded beef, beans, rice (I think) and potato salad. I think we even ate it on paper plates. There may have even been red solo cups or maybe clear but they were disposable. Can I still be a RefuPea? ;-)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 0:26:32 GMT
DD did a buffet for wedding and the caterer boxed up everything in coolers for us to take home, just had to return the coolers before their next event. This is how it should be done. It should always go back with the person who paid for it and/or their family. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 5, 2016 0:36:46 GMT
I actually don't think I've ever been to a wedding where alcohol was served. Lots of Southern Baptists and conservatives here. I haven't been to a wedding where alcohol was NOT served. Lots of piss heads here!  ETA: I tell a lie..... I went to an Indian wedding where alcohol was not allowed. |
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Post by krcrafts on Jul 5, 2016 1:26:58 GMT
My dd just had her wedding and had a taco bar catered by a local Mexican restaurant. They served the food to the guests, it was hot and fresh and we offered food to go. It was a hit even if it wasn't traditional. Just out of curiosity where was the wedding.. We did. The same thing and are in San Diego. New Kent, Virgina, near Williamsburg ETA: Funny coincidence is that they're going to live in San Diego! |
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Post by krcrafts on Jul 5, 2016 1:31:39 GMT
All I can add to this conversation is, 99% of you would have hated my wedding. No sit down dinner, no drinks, no dancing. You would have been sorely disappointed that I did not make my wedding all about my guests. We were married almost 29 years ago at 2:00 in the afternoon and had cake, punch and coffee. It was fine with me and saved my parents a ton of money. You're not alone. |
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Post by jamielynn on Jul 5, 2016 5:16:27 GMT
Wait, the people who paid for the food don't keep the leftovers? Nope. Most people don't realize how much food is leftover. BUT we did do a wedding where the bride did. OMG she went postal. Yes, the bride was cheated. And we ended up throwing a lot of the leftovers out because there any lunches that week. You should see the food left over/ thrown out at sit down dinners. One wedding I started saving the roast beef from the plates that had not been touch. I took home over 4 maybe five pounds of beef maybe more. No matter how trust worthy you think a caterer is, they are a business trying to make the most profit. I'm a mom who lets my child grab something dropped off the floor to finish ... We keep the house really clean, don't have pets, or wear shoes in the house. I literally just about tipped over reading you took food off untouched plates (that I assume were set in front of guests you don't know at a wedding). I often time move things around with my fork I'm eating off - I imagine others do as well. I'm sure it was fine but that's way over my personal line even of it was wasted. In our area I know it's the norm the food left over is wrapped and sent home with the bride/groom or their parents (if B&G aren't going home). What is purchased belongs to the one paying here. I have seen it set out at gift opening the next day or friends/family begged to take some home the following day. All catered food is made fresh then frozen or served fresh - not reheated and reserved around here. Everyone selects their own personal menu. This is at least at businesses friend's parents own, friends have worked for, and two facilities I've worked for that do catering as one line of service. |
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