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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 19:10:50 GMT
"Dad's 27th birthday and Son's 1st birthday party". Via Facebook. And the details read "And all you f*cking b*tches better show up cuz we're gonna get drunk". Location: The Hizzle.
I can't. I just can't even. And unfortunately this is DH's brother so the option for us not to go isn't really there. And the date and time has already changed once.
I know that everyone is different, yada yada, but come freaking on. I'll take an invite with registry details and a fee any day and twice on Sunday over this.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 3, 2016 19:13:03 GMT
Can you send DH (hopefully via Uber, not driving himself) and stay home with the baby yourself?
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Post by seaexplore on Jul 3, 2016 19:14:16 GMT
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 3, 2016 19:16:45 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 3, 2016 19:16:45 GMT
Can you send DH (hopefully via Uber, not driving himself) and stay home with the baby yourself? Nothing says how special a first birthday is more than getting drunk with Dad.  |
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Post by michellegb on Jul 3, 2016 19:25:53 GMT
Honestly, I'd come down with the worst case of whatever was currently going around to miss that one. Family or not. It already sounds like a train wreck just waiting to happen. Because, you know, drinking to excess is definitely the main draw to a first birthday party right?  (don't even get me started about about the 27 year old's birthday party being tied to the baby's) |
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Post by Nink on Jul 3, 2016 19:33:18 GMT
Sounds like the cake won't be the only thing smashed at this party.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 19:35:44 GMT
I just wouldn't go, and if asked why, I'd be honest and tell them that drinking heavily around babies just isn't my thing. I don't see even your DH as being obligated to show up for this kind of recipe for disaster.
I sure hope they have someone there that plans to stay sober and take care of the 1 year old.
I vote for only doing what you're comfortable with.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 3, 2016 19:38:09 GMT
At the hizzle?! Fo shizzle?
I'm sorry.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 3, 2016 19:38:15 GMT
I wouldn't want to go either. But, then I would also feel obligated to go and make sure someone sane was watching out for the baby.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 3, 2016 19:39:55 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go. And, to make it even more special, it is a drinking party. Hell no, I would not go. If you think you have to say yes, make fake plans to go and when the day gets here, have some sudden illness...... If DH thinks he has to go, he can go alone, 'cause you are too ill to make the party. |
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Post by gar on Jul 3, 2016 19:43:53 GMT
How classy  |
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Post by JoP on Jul 3, 2016 19:44:48 GMT
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Post by littlemama on Jul 3, 2016 19:58:33 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2016 19:58:46 GMT
 <---- because I can't find the words....not even in my own language.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 3, 2016 19:59:39 GMT
And most importantly, take notes. We are going to need a train wreck story afterwards.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 3, 2016 20:00:01 GMT
I'd be arranging an urgent prior engagement to duck out of that one. I'd be washing my hair or tidying my knicker drawer.
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Post by ten&rose on Jul 3, 2016 20:02:29 GMT
I got invited to a party like this. It was the DDs second birthday and the Dad's 27th. They included gift ideas for the dad as well. We went and took a gift for the baby only.
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Post by cyndijane on Jul 3, 2016 20:04:25 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go. Same here. For family, we'll make an appearance and leave when we feel we need to. I certainly wouldn't stay the whole time. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 20:06:36 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go. Yes!!! Joint party! |
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Post by maryland on Jul 3, 2016 20:09:40 GMT
With language like that in the invite, I wouldn't go, family or friends. But that's just me!
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 3, 2016 20:09:54 GMT
So they are an immature bunch. Go with a gift for the baby and leave when it is "nap time." I doubt the baby will be in any kind of danger. I have gone to parties with my party animal friends and the mom or grandma is always in the right state of mind to care for the little one.
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Post by leannec on Jul 3, 2016 20:10:46 GMT
How classy Klassy with a "K"  I would fake an illness and not attend ... |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 20:11:37 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go. This is probably what will end up happening. I'm still just gob smacked!! And only the baby will get a gift! |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 3, 2016 20:11:48 GMT
You have what my friend called CRAMPS. You have debilitating PMS and can't go out. You just can't. Maybe you have the flu? That works, too. You could have eaten something bad, say a cherry tomato and it was off. Well you can't leave the house without a bathroom nearby. There are good reasons you can't go. Probably the flu works the best. Have hubby Uber it home and you will be good.
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Post by nyxish on Jul 3, 2016 20:12:04 GMT
Oh... my. Well. That's special.
Perhaps they are doing the kid's birthday early and then once he goes to bed the drinking starts? (Not MUCH better than day drinking to celebrate your 1 year old, but...maybe slightly? Ish.) In which case maybe you could just go for a couple hours early and then head home. Either make the excuse that someone is not feeling well, or just come out and wish him a great birthday but say you're not up for getting smashed. It's ok to say no to drinking, especially if you're not staying and you know... have a kid and all or aren't in a frat. Or 20. Or whatever reason really.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 20:13:19 GMT
I'd probably go at some point ahead of the party and drop off birthday wishes and the baby's gift; but nope, nope, nope on the party itself.
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Post by refugeepea on Jul 3, 2016 20:13:52 GMT
I can't. I just can't even. And unfortunately this is DH's brother so the option for us not to go isn't really there. And the date and time has already changed once. Oh, there's always an option! I'm not opposed to celebrating birthdays together in an appropriate way. |
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Post by brandy327 on Jul 3, 2016 20:18:59 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go.  And honestly, I'd probably RSVP right away and say something like "oh we can stop by but we already have plans for whatever so we can't stay the whole time". That way you've put in an appearance, there's reason to NOT drink (you still have another commitment to attend to) AND you can get the hell outta dodge. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 3, 2016 20:21:01 GMT
What do you want to do? Can you send your husband with a baby gift? ANd money for Uber for the ride home?
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(don't even get me started about about the 27 year old's birthday party being tied to the baby's)
<---- because I can't find the words....not even in my own language.
And honestly, I'd probably RSVP right away and say something like "oh we can stop by but we already have plans for whatever so we can't stay the whole time". That way you've put in an appearance, there's reason to NOT drink (you still have another commitment to attend to) AND you can get the hell outta dodge.