Nink
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Post by Nink on Sept 23, 2016 12:52:02 GMT
My mom has Lewy Body Dementia and is in a memory care home in Idaho. DS and I flew in yesterday and are here for a week to see her. When we walked into her room yesterday, she had no idea who we were.
I always knew there would be a time when that would happen and each visit I thought I had prepared myself for it, but now that its happened I'm having such a hard time.
We'll continue to go see her everyday as planned, and maybe today or tomorrow will be better, and maybe it won't.
I hate this disease.
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Post by melanell on Sept 23, 2016 12:58:45 GMT
I am so, so sorry. We lived through that with my grandmother and I know how it feels.  So many hugs and good thoughts for you. |
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Post by lbp on Sept 23, 2016 12:59:22 GMT
My MIL has vascular dementia and is also in a memory care unit and it is so very hard to see her struggling with it. Most days she knows us, some days she says our faces look familiar but doesn't know our names. The worse thing we have to contend with is that she asks for her mom and dad every single day. He go and see her every day because we remember her and how she used to be. It doesn't matter if she doesn't remember us. She likes having the company.
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Post by *sprout* on Sept 23, 2016 13:00:25 GMT
I'm so sorry. I remember the day my grandma didn't know who I was. (((hugs)))
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Post by farmdpea on Sept 23, 2016 13:02:05 GMT
I'm so sorry. I can imagine that's heartbreaking.
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Post by anxiousmom on Sept 23, 2016 13:02:41 GMT
There is no amount of preparing you can do for something like this. I am so sorry.  |
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Post by warrior1991 on Sept 23, 2016 13:03:07 GMT
My grandma had dementia and she didn't know me. She knew my mom still, but no one else. But she loved visitors, so she was always happy to see you. LOVED it when kids would stop in.
It is a horrible disease and affects so many people. I am sorry you are going through this, and I would give you a hug if I could.
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Post by jenjie on Sept 23, 2016 13:03:29 GMT
I'm so so sorry. 😢
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Sept 23, 2016 13:13:21 GMT
I'm sorry.  |
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Post by oaksong on Sept 23, 2016 13:15:03 GMT
I'm so sorry. How heartbreaking.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Sept 23, 2016 13:15:05 GMT
I'm so sorry. We went through that when my Dad had dementia and it was shocking and scary and emotional so I am so sorry that you - well really anyone - has to face this ever of not being recognized or known by their own parent.
Hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2016 13:15:10 GMT
I'm so sorry Nink It must be very upsetting and difficult for you all. (((hugs))) |
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Judy26
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Post by Judy26 on Sept 23, 2016 13:23:06 GMT
Prayers that you can take each day as a gift and that you can find peace and bring some joy into both your time with your mom and her's with you.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2016 13:35:05 GMT
I'm so sorry.
Of course you're having a hard time. There's no way to really know how you're going to feel until you experience it. I hope she has a better day today.
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maurchclt
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Post by maurchclt on Sept 23, 2016 13:39:13 GMT
HUGS, My mom had dementia, I SO understand, It's awful beyond words.
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Sept 23, 2016 13:41:52 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by Linda on Sept 23, 2016 13:44:23 GMT
((((Hugs)))) and prayers. I'm so very sorry
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Post by mom on Sept 23, 2016 13:45:16 GMT
I am so sorry!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 23, 2016 13:45:47 GMT
I am so sorry. My great aunt who was like a grandmother to me had dementia in her later years. It was heartbreaking. I remember how it felt when she no longer recognized me and it hurt. For a long while she thought my DD was me.
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Post by supersoda on Sept 23, 2016 13:50:14 GMT
I'm so sorry. I went through this with my grandmother and I know it must be so much more difficult with a parent.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2016 13:52:38 GMT
I'm so sorry {{{ hugs }}}
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Post by scrappert on Sept 23, 2016 14:06:05 GMT
Oh hugs to you. I haven't dealt with that in my life, so I have no idea what that is like, but I can only imagine the pain it causes. Hoping for a better day today.
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Post by kristi521 on Sept 23, 2016 14:08:50 GMT
I am so very sorry! Big hugs to you!!
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Post by malibou on Sept 23, 2016 14:11:19 GMT
I am truly sorry this has happened.
J
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Post by PLurker on Sept 23, 2016 14:18:14 GMT
Sorry. Such a sad situation, hugs to you.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 23, 2016 14:19:35 GMT
I'm sorry.
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Post by YooHoot on Sept 23, 2016 14:20:14 GMT
Oh that's got to be the worst feeling. I'm so sorry.
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Post by tduby1 on Sept 23, 2016 14:20:20 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by leannec on Sept 23, 2016 14:21:40 GMT
I'm very sorry ... hugs to you!
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Post by shawallapea on Sept 23, 2016 14:31:19 GMT
I'm so sorry |
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So many hugs and good thoughts for you.
