Sarah*H
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Post by Sarah*H on Aug 8, 2014 12:55:33 GMT
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 8, 2014 13:42:49 GMT
Silly cow. I hope she gets done for wasting police time. Whilst she might have been disappointed, a touch of realism should have been factored into the situation.
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Post by alibama on Aug 8, 2014 13:46:26 GMT
Wow! Really. Another person who should pay a fine for wasting a police officers time.
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Post by melanell on Aug 8, 2014 13:47:28 GMT
It amazes me sometimes how differently the mind of one person works as opposed to the mind of another.
I'm typically a "never say never" kind of girl, but really, I think in this case I could go as far as to say that it never would have entered my mind to call the police.
How odd.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 8, 2014 13:50:02 GMT
Does she get arrested for child neglect? I mean, after all, she wasn't watching her 2 yr. old.  |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 8, 2014 13:50:20 GMT
I totally hope that she gets fined for wasting the police's time. That's just ridiculous.
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gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on Aug 8, 2014 13:50:41 GMT
Sounds like she wants to build some sort of case against her son to get him placed out of her home somehow.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 8, 2014 13:51:25 GMT
A 15-year-old interested in porn? Say it ain't so!
Seriously, that mother has a teenager with raging hormones that she can't figure out how to deal with, so she's just abdicating responsibility. It's not the polices job to control your son's TV watching, lady. It's yours. As for the whole, her two-year-old daughter saw it . . . First, I'm wondering what you're trying to cover up by putting that on record. Second, I'm even more concerned about your complete lack of common sense. The girl isn't going to be permanently traumatized by watching a couple of minutes of porn which she probably didn't understand.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 8, 2014 13:59:45 GMT
Poor police-they must put up with a lot of idiots.
I'm feeling sorry for the son-I would have been horrified if police came to my house for looking at porn. I haven't found my son looking at anything (he's also 15) but I certainly wouldn't be shocked or call the police! Kids are curious and the internet/cable tv makes it very accessible.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 14:01:05 GMT
The mindset that the police, teachers, coaches, etc. are responsible for raising children is taking "it takes a village" to the extreme.
I guess it didn't occur to her to discuss this with the child's father, her father, an uncle of any other male role model to discuss this with her son.
How sad that these two children are being raised by a complete moron.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:06:02 GMT
. I guess it didn't occur to her to discuss this with the child's father, her father, an uncle of any other male role model to discuss this with her son. Or, how about she discusses it with him? |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 14:12:05 GMT
. I guess it didn't occur to her to discuss this with the child's father, her father, an uncle of any other male role model to discuss this with her son. Or, how about she discusses it with him? I guess that is always an option. But I think this is a great opportunity for a man this boy respects to talk to him about sexuality, love, respect for women. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 8, 2014 14:13:54 GMT
The mindset that the police, teachers, coaches, etc. are responsible for raising children is taking "it takes a village" to the extreme. I guess it didn't occur to her to discuss this with the child's father, her father, an uncle of any other male role model to discuss this with her son. How sad that these two children are being raised by a complete moron. Gosh, I don't mean to be contrary, but as the single mother of two boys, I have to take issue with the idea that only a man can have this discussion with their teen boys. I have teen boys, and I don't think that I should abdicate my responsibility to anyone else just because they are of the same sex. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 8, 2014 14:16:03 GMT
I guess that is always an option. But I think this is a great opportunity for a man this boy respects to talk to him about sexuality, love, respect for women. I think I am just as capable of having this discussion...probably more so than a lot of men who DON'T share the same opinion of what love and respect looks like with me. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:21:01 GMT
Stupid woman!
If she doesn't want her son to watch it she needs to block if off her TV, computer and whatever else he can access. She needs to take lessons on how to be parent without expecting the police to do her job for her.
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Post by deshacrafts on Aug 8, 2014 14:21:35 GMT
Why do people call the police to discipline their own children? I will never understand that. What a waste of police resources.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:21:53 GMT
Or, how about she discusses it with him? I guess that is always an option. But I think this is a great opportunity for a man this boy respects to talk to him about sexuality, love, respect for women. That's always a good thing, but I don't think needs to be done only because of the context of watching porn. And women are capable of that, too. That would be part of the whole respect picture. I get what you're saying -- but I'm also tired of seeing comments here when this topic comes up (boys and porn, boys and dating) that its the job of some MAN in their life to set them straight. |
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Post by Kelpea on Aug 8, 2014 14:23:23 GMT
I have to agree with the posters above; there's really no reason a mom/aunt/grandma/trusted female friend can't speak to a boy about this; either gender can lend amazing perspectives to a child, boy or girl, about sex and relationships.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:27:13 GMT
I guess that is always an option. But I think this is a great opportunity for a man this boy respects to talk to him about sexuality, love, respect for women. I think I am just as capable of having this discussion...probably more so than a lot of men who DON'T share the same opinion of what love and respect looks like with me. I totally agree with what you say but on this occasion I'm guessing maybe what*pea*ality means is that a man's influence might be useful in this situation only........because the mom has admitted she can't handle the son and is already having issues with him. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 14:39:23 GMT
I never said it was the job of a man or that men were more capable than women to discuss the subject of porn with their sons. In the context of the original OP the mother called the police so she wasn't prepared to have the discussion. I think she had other options.
I also think there are topics that men can also lend great perspective to and that a young man would feel more comfortable in discussing with another male and not his mother. I can't imagine my son comfortable talking to his grandmother about porn.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:41:57 GMT
I also think there are topics that men can also lend great perspective to and that a young man would feel more comfortable in discussing with another male and not his mother. I can't imagine my son in a million years comfortable talking to his grandmother about porn. Well, maybe that's part of the problem. Like, if you can't talk to your mother about porn, then maybe you shouldn't be watching it. DH and I have BOTH had conversations with our daughters about sex. Is it comfortable or easy? No. But it's important. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 14:55:40 GMT
ashley why would you assume that I have never had a conversation with my son about sexual topic or that I would be uncomfortable in doing so? I never said or implied that. So, let's try this again. The mother in the article called the police because she wanted them to deal with talking to her son about porn because she couldn't handle it. I said she had other other options. In this case I suggested maybe grandpa could be a person to call some of you said grandma could handle the porn discussion as well. That may be true, but I think there are some topics a boy might be more comfortable opening up with a person of his own sex. Not that you would be uncomfortable but he might be.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 14:56:36 GMT
ashley why would you assume that I have never had a conversation with my son about sexual topic or that I would be uncomfortable in doing so? I never said or implied that. So, let's try this again. The mother in the article called the police because she wanted them to deal with talking to her son about porn because she couldn't handle it. I said she had other other options. In this case I suggested maybe grandpa could be a person to call some of you said grandma could handle the porn discussion as well. That may be true, but I think there are some topics a boy might be more comfortable opening up with a person of his own sex. Not that you would be uncomfortable but he might be. I wasn't speaking about YOU and YOUR son, just the topic in general. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 15:02:22 GMT
ashley my bad, I thought you were talking to me since you quoted my posts many times in this thread.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 15:03:06 GMT
ashley my bad, I thought you were talking to me since you quoted my posts many times in this thread. I was responding to your posts but not talking about you and your son. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 8, 2014 15:03:39 GMT
I was speaking in generalities as well.
Like I said, I am not trying to be contrary. Nor am I deliberately ignoring the facts of this particular case-which I believe is something WAY more than calling the police about a porn watching teen. The mother wouldn't have insisted in making a formal complaint if there weren't more to it than that.
My personal feelings are also very much based on the fact that I have boys. I have heard more times than I can count over the years that I should let my children's father handle certain topics. In my case, even my children admit that their father isn't the one to go to. He is an intelligent and participative father, but he just doesn't do these kinds of conversations. I don't believe that it is automatically a man that a boy feels more comfortable with, I think it is the *parent* that is open, honest and approachable more than biology.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 8, 2014 15:08:23 GMT
The mindset that the police, teachers, coaches, etc. are responsible for raising children is taking "it takes a village" to the extreme. I guess it didn't occur to her to discuss this with the child's father, her father, an uncle of any other male role model to discuss this with her son. How sad that these two children are being raised by a complete moron. Gosh, I don't mean to be contrary, but as the single mother of two boys, I have to take issue with the idea that only a man can have this discussion with their teen boys. I have teen boys, and I don't think that I should abdicate my responsibility to anyone else just because they are of the same sex. I never said only a man could or should be the primary source of discussion of sexual topics. It was clear she was looking to abdicate her responsibility and I think in the best interest of her son the police were not the best choice. |
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Post by whipea on Aug 8, 2014 15:16:35 GMT
"She stated that when she entered the residence, her 15-year-old son was in his bedroom," reads the police report. "[Her] daughter turned on the TV and porn was on."
What about this perspective. How did the mother know it was the son? Did she see him watching the porn. Maybe it was her husband or some other person in her life. Psycho....
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Post by kikinichole on Aug 8, 2014 15:19:47 GMT
Man, that poor kid.  |
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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 8, 2014 15:56:26 GMT
Seriously who is in charge in her home? She has 3-4 years before he leaves home so she might need to consider not pulling calling the police over something his hers to handle. It is her home and if she doesn't want porn in her home than her right. She needs to be introduced to Norton or some parental systems. Seriously though in todays times it is very hard to block it all. Teens are often one step ahead and if they want to find it they will.
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