scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Oct 16, 2016 1:28:40 GMT
I'm too sad to even cry. My boss died unexpectedly last week. Today was his funeral. I'm not in contact with my family. The election. DH and I being separated. People I work with are already making inappropriate and disrespectful death jokes. The world just seems to be angry.
I'm doing all of the things that normally cheer me up. Nothing is working. I'm so melancholy. Do you ever have these moments?
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YooHoot
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Post by YooHoot on Oct 16, 2016 1:46:40 GMT
Aww. I'm sorry...that does sound like a sad day. Hopefully tomorrow will be better!
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Post by Zee on Oct 16, 2016 1:56:22 GMT
I'm very sorry for the way they're talking about your boss after he just died. Hugs to you, I get it.  I'm sorry about the other stuff, too. About the election, though, I take the humor from it all and enjoy it. What else can you do? Watch Alec Baldwin as Trump on SNL, that might help cheer you up. "SHE'S A FOUR" has been cheering me up for a straight week. |
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Oct 16, 2016 1:57:28 GMT
I haven't had one of those moments in a long time. I'm sorry you're sad, it's not something you can just shake off.
It will get better, though. It takes time.
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Post by txdancermom on Oct 16, 2016 1:58:51 GMT
I am sorry. when you have had a lot of sadness in your life it sounds like - and I know after my dad, some days just got the best of me, and all I wanted to do was hide and cry.
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Post by mom on Oct 16, 2016 1:59:32 GMT
I am so sorry you are having a rough time. I've been there, and well? It sucks.
I will be thinking of you and hope a smile is just around the corner!
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Post by leeny on Oct 16, 2016 2:02:05 GMT
I am sorry to hear this. I say go with it, cry, mope, whatever you need. I always say to myself that it will be temporary.
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Post by newfcathy on Oct 16, 2016 2:15:42 GMT
I think sometimes we all just need to admit we are sad and be sad. Not try to push it away, but feel it.
You lost a friend, a boss, a mentor. That person is gone. And you are under stress due to the separation. Now things at work will be sad, unsettled, you will have to adjust to a new person and it's not fair.
You might be sad, angry, frustrated for all these extremely valid reasons. And that is ok.
Be sad, today, this week, don't expect not to be. It will pass but today be sad, someone you cared about is gone, it is to your credit that you feel the loss.
(((((((Hugs))))))). Wish I could be there with tea and tissues.
But don't get me started on the elections.....these will be the most annoying few weeks of recent memory😖😡😠👿😫😡.
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Post by femalebusiness on Oct 16, 2016 2:20:45 GMT
It is nighttime where I am and I like to go outside and look up into the universe. The stars are so awesome that I realize how small I am and that the universe is unfolding just as it should. (((Hugs)))
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Post by peasapie on Oct 16, 2016 2:23:26 GMT
I'm sorry. It's especially hard when so many things seem to come together at once. All you can do is allow yourself to grieve in your own time. Some people have unusual ways of doing that -- even making odd jokes. The sun will shine again.
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Post by tinydogmafia on Oct 16, 2016 2:27:05 GMT
(((Hugs)))
I get it, I've had days like that.
Be gentle with yourself.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Oct 16, 2016 2:29:24 GMT
I'm so sorry. Huge hugs. That's a lot indeed
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Post by *sprout* on Oct 16, 2016 2:32:06 GMT
That is certainly a lot to deal with all at once. (((hugs)))
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 16, 2016 2:36:09 GMT
Sadness is a perfectly healthy emotion and one that you'd expect to feel while going through all of the things that you're currently faced with (the whole nation should be weeping with you in terms of the election). I know that when I'm especially sad it can also manifest in physical pain, so I understand wanting to feel differently, but you will get there. You have a lot to process and having a wave of sadness makes sense. Best wishes to you.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 16, 2016 2:36:40 GMT
awww....I totalllly understand why you feel this way!! You have a lot of difficult things going on!  I'm sending you lots of (((( Hugs )))))!! |
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Post by shescrafty on Oct 16, 2016 2:37:23 GMT
Yes , some days more than others. Most of my days are more sad than happy. Don't know if that will ever change.
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Post by reedina on Oct 16, 2016 2:46:42 GMT
Yes, I have, for far less reasons than you have to feel sad.
Sending hugs.
Hunker down and hang in there.
A book recommendation that might make you laugh: Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson. She talks about her depression in a hilarious way. A lot of what she said resonated with me.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 16, 2016 3:08:25 GMT
Yes, I do have those days. I think it's normal, especially under these circumstances.
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand - my mentor died of a heart attack at the office years ago.
Hugs, dear Pea friend.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 16, 2016 3:10:25 GMT
Oh I am so sorry
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Post by eastcoastpea on Oct 16, 2016 3:19:17 GMT
Hugs to you, you have a lot to adjust to.
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Post by marimoose on Oct 16, 2016 3:25:59 GMT
This sucks for you and I am sure most of us can relate to a just sad day. You have much going on, too much of it on the extreme sad side and I think your body is finally catching up and giving you permission to just take the day off. It will get better, hopefully tomorrow is an improvement but just know that it will. Allow yourself this time to just absorb it aand if you need a big ole cry, do it. {{hugs}}
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Post by originalvanillabean on Oct 16, 2016 3:31:45 GMT
Hugs to you. I'm sorry.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 16, 2016 3:52:39 GMT
I think you have every reason to be sad. Honor your feelings and grieve right now.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2016 3:57:19 GMT
I'm sorry. I hate those kind of days.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Oct 16, 2016 4:04:56 GMT
Yes. I do have those days. The struggle to escape those feelings just makes it worse to me.
Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and allow the sadness to wash through you. Feel it.
Remind yourself you won't always feel this way, but right now you do and that's ok.
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Post by utpea on Oct 16, 2016 4:17:05 GMT
I have really sad days too. Sometimes a nice warm shower and a good night's sleep makes everything a little better. Hope tomorrow is a brighter day for you. (((hugs)))
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Post by jenjie on Oct 16, 2016 12:47:35 GMT
Yes. I can't say it better than what's already been said. You have multiple very legitimate reasons to be feeling sad. It's ok to feel the feelings. Big hugs to you.
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Post by annabella on Oct 16, 2016 15:55:38 GMT
I'm sorry you're having a sad day. I hope you cheer up soon.
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Post by hanushka on Oct 16, 2016 17:43:45 GMT
Aw, I'm so sorry. Big (((hugs))) to you! Please be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to feel all the feelings that you are going though. I'm hoping today will be better for you!
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Post by luvnlifelady on Oct 16, 2016 19:06:22 GMT
Yes, I am there too. DH and I have been separated for 2 months and I'm still reeling when by all accounts, he's doing just fine (the split was his idea). I've been off work for 3 days with major tooth pain so bad it's making my face swell. I finally had the tooth pulled yesterday but I feel awful. Both kids are busy right now but hopefully DD can come over later to help me. My sister lives with me but is leaving for 4 days. Great timing. Ugh.
I have school tomorrow night so need to study somehow today and it's getting harder and I can't afford to get behind in a 6 week class. I have all but ignored any election stuff. I love baseball but have not even watched any of the playoff action. I am so sad, not because I miss him so much but realizing all the family relationships on his side and friends that I will no longer have in my life.
I am invited to Thanksgiving (just his sister that I am close to and her family along with his parents) but not sure I have the emotional energy to go. The kids want me there so we'll have to see. I just wish this whole thing would go away. I'm supposed to be getting the house ready to sell but it's just one emotional landmine after another since we've been here 11 years. I might end up hiring someone to come in and help. I am dreading the holidays at this point and am semi-glad I will probably be working them. However, I'm off by about 1 p.m., so that leaves the rest of the day to fill. Maybe we'll hit a movie or go out to eat. Ex wants to keep our traditions but I just don't see how that's possible.
Hang in there OP-I'm told it will get better at some point.
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