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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:10:42 GMT
Our nephew passed away four and a half years ago. Our niece, our nephew's widow, is remarrying this Saturday! We are beyond excited for her and her fiance! I was part of the bridal party for our nephew and niece's wedding and I am also part of the bridal party this time! Our nephew and niece have two children together, our great nephews which are nine years old and eleven years old. I have a card and gift card that I would like to give each of them on the wedding day. I want them to know we are thinking of them on this special day too! I am having trouble with what exactly to write in each of their cards. I also want to word each card a bit differently from the other.
All of you came to mind when I was stuck!
I thank you in advance for your help!
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:27:10 GMT
Oh my goodness! Now I am beginning to panic! 65 people have read this and don't have a drop of advice for me?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2016 21:30:57 GMT
This really isn't a gift giving occasion for the children.
Really I would just have a couple of tens or twenties to stash in their pockets when they give your a hug. They don't need a card.
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:31:25 GMT
Would it help to know that the boys love their future step-father?
Maybe if I share what I am thinking of writing, you can help me from there? Something along the lines of...
Thinking of you on this very special day.
That is all I have right now. Other than adding that we love them of course!
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Nov 9, 2016 21:32:27 GMT
I would say something along the lines of how happy you are that their family circle is growing and that while you love and honor the memory of their father, you know their lives will be full and blessed with the addition of their stepfather
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:33:19 GMT
This really isn't a gift giving occasion for the children. Really I would just have a couple of tens or twenties to stash in their pockets when they give your a hug. They don't need a card. I don't intend to sound nasty when saying I wasn't asking about whether or not giving them a gift or card is proper. I want to do this to let them know I am thinking of them on this day. What would the difference of a gift card versus cash be by way of a gift? |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2016 21:34:42 GMT
The only way I would give them a gift is if the step dad was adopting them on the same day.
You could take them shopping to buy a gift for their parents, if there was time for that.
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:34:46 GMT
I would say something along the lines of how happy you are that their family circle is growing and that while you love and honor the memory of their father, you know their lives will be full and blessed with the addition of their stepfather That is absolutely beautiful. I was afraid to mention their father for this occasion though. They know we will never forget their father. Ahhh why does this have to be so difficult? Thank you for helping me!!!! |
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Post by craftykitten on Nov 9, 2016 21:35:19 GMT
Kind of awkward, because I guess you don't want to be too maudlin. Why don't you write what you wrote here - that you are thinking of them on this special day. You'll always love their daddy and you know they will too, and their love as a family will grow also?
Sorry, I replied so you had a response, but I'm not sure it's a very good one!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2016 21:35:26 GMT
Kids like cash!
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:36:00 GMT
The only way I would give them a gift is if the step dad was adopting them on the same day. You could take them shopping to buy a gift for their parents, if there was time for that. No, there is not. The wedding is out of state. They left this morning, we leave tomorrow and the wedding is Friday. The thought to do this came to me when I was buying the wedding card. I didn't want it to be a big ordeal. Simply something to let them know they are being thought of as well. |
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Post by craftykitten on Nov 9, 2016 21:36:31 GMT
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Post by krc11 on Nov 9, 2016 21:37:34 GMT
I'm not sure why the kids need a gift. If you are worried that they feel badly because the couple is getting gifts (which they shouldn't) then give a family activity present and say something about creating memories with the new family.
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:37:58 GMT
Kind of awkward, because I guess you don't want to be too maudlin. Why don't you write what you wrote here - that you are thinking of them on this special day. You'll always love their daddy and you know they will too, and their love as a family will grow also? Sorry, I replied so you had a response, but I'm not sure it's a very good one! NO apology needed! I appreciate you sharing your thoughts! I truly do!! I do not feel your response is not a good one either!!! Thank you!! |
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Post by annabella on Nov 9, 2016 21:37:58 GMT
Oh my goodness! Now I am beginning to panic! 65 people have read this and don't have a drop of advice for me? I had the read the OP numerous times to understand the relation. Niece and nephew sounded like siblings to me. I was just confused, maybe others were too. |
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:38:34 GMT
These boys LOVE iTunes gift cards!!! |
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:39:24 GMT
Oh my goodness! Now I am beginning to panic! 65 people have read this and don't have a drop of advice for me? I had the read the OP numerous times to understand the relation. Niece and nephew sounded like siblings to me. I was just confused, maybe others were too. Thank you. I thought about that as I was typing it. Sorry for the confusion!! But, I do refer to our niece-in-law as our niece. |
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Post by Jockscrap on Nov 9, 2016 21:40:27 GMT
Oh that's lovely. I'll have a bash - if they have all been living together up until now, you may want to add 'officially become a family' and 'start life as an offical family' instead.
Dear N1, what a joy for us to see you all become a happy family on this most special of days. Congratulations and much love from Auntie and Uncle
Dear N2, we couldn't be happier to see you all come together on this special day as you start life as a family. Congratulations! Much love from Auntie and Uncle.
edited to add: what kid doesn't like a present?! I think giving them a gift or cash would be lovely.
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Post by refupea on Nov 9, 2016 21:43:42 GMT
Oh that's lovely. I'll have a bash - if they have all been living together up until now, you may want to add 'officially become a family' and 'start life as an offical family' instead. Dear N1, what a joy for us to see you all become a happy family on this most special of days. Congratulations and much love from Auntie and Uncle Dear N2, we couldn't be happier to see you all come together on this special day as you start life as a family. Congratulations! Much love from Auntie and Uncle. Wow! Thank you! Thank you! THANK YOU!!! Thank you for understanding what I would like to do. Thank you for sharing such beautiful wording. I sincerely appreciate your help! I love your Pea name too! |
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Post by llinin on Nov 9, 2016 22:33:21 GMT
I think it is sweet!
Maybe keep it light.
"So happy to be sharing in this special day. Thought maybe you could -all use some ice cream to celebrate! -download some music for the honeymoon trip -get a new game -love, Aunt & Uncle
I wouldn't make it a big serious card!
Again, I think it is sweet of you!
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Post by NanaKate on Nov 9, 2016 22:46:35 GMT
"So happy for you and your family on this special day!"
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 9, 2016 23:18:37 GMT
I think you could say something about how proud their Dad would be of them, and how much he loved them, and he would be happy to see their Mom happy again.
I think that giving them a gift card is a nice way of recognizing the importance of the evening.
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