StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Nov 23, 2016 18:50:24 GMT
What is your policy/go to for gifts for the people your kids are dating?
Do you do Christmas gifts or not bother with it?
The twins are both 18 and dating. I hate having someone over and not having a gift for them. I've been going back and forth about whether I need to get something or not. Right now I think I'm at 'omg these could potentially be future dil's...In like 15 years. I should buy presents' ha.
Is it more weird to buy something or not buy something?
My brother has a new girlfriend too, so I need to pick something up for her and her son I suppose.
Maybe I should order more kohls blankets. Everyone loves blankets right?
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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 23, 2016 18:56:35 GMT
I always did a small gift card for the girlfriends. Usually sephora-and it seemed like a pretty well received gift. I did $10 because I am poor, but I'm guessing any amount is good.  |
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Post by myboysnme on Nov 23, 2016 19:33:29 GMT
I was the worlds worst gift giver and still am not all that good at it. But if someone is at my house on Christmas morning I am going to have a gift for them. Last year my son's girlfriend was here Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, so I had sleep pants for her when they opened theirs and on Christmas morning I had a stocking with little stuff in it and a few gifts.
I got her a coloring book and a nice set of pencils as her main gift. I also gave her a little crystal on a chain. In her stocking I had lip gloss stuff, cute socks and hair ties plus some candy.
I think cute socks are always welcome by most people
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Post by kate on Nov 23, 2016 19:33:42 GMT
A little box of homemade sweets is usually well-received, and it's not as awkward for the recipient if they haven't gotten you a present. If you show up with a giant wrapped gift, and they've brought you nothing, they may feel weird.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 23, 2016 19:37:22 GMT
I follow my mom's lead and always give something.
34 yr old ds has been dating/living with his gf (I consider her dil) for 7 yrs. So we treat her and her children like family. Including stockings for her and her two youngest (17 and 19). The three oldest get stockings if they are with us on Christmas but they aren't. My entire family (siblings) give both boys gifts like they do their other nephews.
27 yr old dd has been dating the same gentleman for 3 years. He comes over for Thanksgiving and last year for Christmas. He is treated the same as dil. He is in our adult family gift drawing and then me and my mom give him gifts.
17 yr old dd has been dating the same boy for almost 2 yrs. They were friends prior to that so he is also part of the family. He does not spend the holidays with us but we buy gifts for him from dd and we get him something. Can't remember what we got him last year. Probably gift card for something, movies, dinner maybe. We pay for all of the gifts that dd gets him so ours was really just a small something from us.
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Post by Patter on Nov 23, 2016 19:41:51 GMT
DD's boyfriend of over a year (friends for two year prior) is coming for 5 days at Christmas. We will get him something but not sure what yet. I will be watching this thread.
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Post by tduby1 on Nov 23, 2016 19:44:59 GMT
My 16 dd has her first boyfriend and 17 DS has his first girlfriend. They started dating at the same time, mid October and thus far the four have been inseparable, I highly suspect they will be still around at Christmss. I hadn't thought much about Christmas till ds's Gf mentioned what she is getting his younger brother and dd16- they are best friends- and I thought I better get her and the boyfriend something.
I'm getting them movie gift cards. I feel so bad for dd's b/f because I know how expensive their dates are (the four always double date, so we know what ds is spending), so I figure this will give them a date night and he can save some $ and the same with ds's girlfriend, she can treat and take some pressure of DS. My kids will also be getting movie gift cards, so that will actually be two dates.
They always invite DS14 out with them on their dates (and he goes) so he will be getting some, too. To be clear, we aren't the Duggars, they are allowed out alone, they choose this, believe it or not, lol.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 23, 2016 20:00:06 GMT
My 16 dd has her first boyfriend and 17 DS has his first girlfriend. They started dating at the same time, mid October and thus far the four have been inseparable, I highly suspect they will be still around at Christmss. I hadn't thought much about Christmas till ds's Gf mentioned what she is getting his younger brother and dd16- they are best friends- and I thought I better get her and the boyfriend something. I'm getting them movie gift cards. I feel so bad for dd's b/f because I know how expensive their dates are (the four always double date, so we know what ds is spending), so I figure this will give them a date night and he can save some $ and the same with ds's girlfriend, she can treat and take some pressure of DS. My kids will also be getting movie gift cards, so that will actually be two dates.They always invite DS14 out with them on their dates (and he goes) so he will be getting some, too. To be clear, we aren't the Duggars, they are allowed out alone, they choose this, believe it or not, lol. This is what I love about gc for teens, it gives them the freedom to treat each other without having the parents have to do it all the time Or feel like they are always asking parents for $$. |
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Post by trollie on Nov 23, 2016 20:29:57 GMT
I do think everyone likes a warm fuzzy blanket. |
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 23, 2016 20:37:33 GMT
My youngest has been dating his girlfriend for 7 years. I find her very easy to buy for. We spend quite a bit of time together and I know what she likes. I would say try to take notice of what they wear and what they say. I have a scarf (her favorite yarn/color), an ankle bracelet with fish and blue stones, and a sea turtle cutting board purchased. I also think I'll give her a throw (from Kohl's) to put in her car in case of emergency. I also get my son gift cards so he'll be more apt to take her out.
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Post by scraptag on Nov 23, 2016 21:06:51 GMT
We made a fleece tie blanket last year (colors of German flag - he's German) and he's a huge Harry Potter fan so we got him the illustrated copy of the first book. This year he's getting the second book, a gift card, and DD is custom painting a ukulele for him.
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Post by freebird on Nov 23, 2016 21:07:06 GMT
I've tried to treat every single girlfriend like she was my future daughter in law. I also try to gift them like I do my own children. I don't pay attention to how much is spent, but how long will be spent opening gifts so no one is done and sitting there while everyone else is still opening. So if that means one person is opening a big tool box full of tools and the gf is opening up a throw that cost $200 less, it doesn't feel awkward that she doesn't have something.
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Post by deekaye on Nov 23, 2016 23:24:04 GMT
When the girls were dating in high school, I always got the boyfriends a little something, usually something that they could use together, like passes to the movie theater. Now that one DD is married and one is not-married-but-living-together-in-what-may-possibly-might-be-a-committed-relationship (  ), they get regular "family" stuff. |
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Post by maryland on Nov 23, 2016 23:48:53 GMT
Our 17 and 19 yr. old daughters have boyfriends (one is at college, so we met him, but don't see him as much). We want to get the 17 yr. old's boyfriend something as we know him well! He even went on a short trip with us this summer. Maybe get them gift cards for entertainment too. They take turns paying on dates. Our oldest doesn't want us to get her boyfriend anything since we don't know him well and they are older. But we get her gift cards assuming that she will use them to treat him, so that's our sneaky way of giving him something.
The blankets that everyone her loves from Kohl's would make a great gift for the 17 yr. old boyfriend.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 24, 2016 0:26:43 GMT
I would just do something small. Sam's club has ceramic travel cups (with silicone lids). 5 to a package, each has a cocoa packet and marshmallows. Twenty bucks, 5 small gifts. The cups are really cute, too.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 24, 2016 0:41:31 GMT
Are they coming over on Christmas itself? If not, I probably wouldn't gift; if so, I'd do something small. A throw or scarf or something like that (cozy and thoughtful yet relatively impersonal  ) is perfect. I always was dating someone in high school, and none of their parents ever got me a holiday or birthday gift (and my parents didn't buy for them either). The one time one of my friends got a holiday gift from the parents of the boy she was dating, she immediately dumped him because it indicated to her that his family was thinking of her as a potential family member, and she was just dating for fun. That's just my set of experiences, and I think (again, my experience) people are much more apt to exchange gifts these days. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2016 0:47:38 GMT
My husband's grandmother always gave very nice pajamas to all the girls/guys dating her grandchildren. I remember feeling so special when I was included in the gifting.
I have not decided what I will buy my DD21 boyfriend yet. This is their first Christmas and I just do not know him well. I am thinking about giving him a gift card to her favorite restaurant. He has not taken her there yet. haha
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 24, 2016 0:49:51 GMT
I would definitely give them something. It's awkward to have someone sitting there with no gifts.
If you know their personality, try to give something they would like.
Here's some inexpensive ideas:
Girls:
$5 or $10 gift cards
Scarf
Candle
Lip balm
Throw blanket
Favorite snack or candy(Peanut gift tin, Christmas Hershey mini's, etc...)
Socks
Bubbles
Boys:
Tools
Flashlight
Mini Nerf hoop that hangs on door
Squirt gun
Wallet
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Post by Nanner on Nov 24, 2016 2:22:15 GMT
I have always given them something. Usually a giftcard and another small gift or two. And if they spend Christmas morning at our house, they also get a stocking.
I have done the warm fuzzy blanket thing with fuzzy socks thing in the past, and those were well received.
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), they get regular "family" stuff. 
) is perfect.
