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Post by peasapie on Dec 21, 2016 15:37:56 GMT
Calm down. My ex husband used to say this to me when he wanted to marginalize what I felt were very valid feelings, so it has come to really represent a hot button for me. My now husband knows how I feel about this and never ever (ever ever ever) says it. On pain of death.
What expressions bother you?
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 21, 2016 15:39:56 GMT
"They are ___ years young."
It makes me roll my eyes.
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Post by janeliz on Dec 21, 2016 15:43:33 GMT
Has anyone in the history of the world calmed down when told to do so? I agree---that's a bad one.
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Post by Really Red on Dec 21, 2016 15:44:13 GMT
UGH. Both of those expressions annoy me. The former so much, I cannot even say. What an inane thing to say to anyone who is upset!
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Post by kimpossible on Dec 21, 2016 15:44:40 GMT
"Whatever"....I totally feel that someone is disregarding your opinion when you are in a discussion and they respond "whatever". Teens are especially awesome using that!
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Post by anonrefugee on Dec 21, 2016 16:08:36 GMT
Has anyone in the history of the world calmed down when told to do so? I agree---that's a bad one. Our youngest son has picked up this expression, not from us. It's infuriating most times but especially out of the mouth of a teen who's gone off the mark ! |
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Post by smcast on Dec 21, 2016 16:09:31 GMT
"just relax."
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Post by smartypants71 on Dec 21, 2016 16:10:02 GMT
Oh, you look great - for your age. Well, thanks, b&%^h
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 21, 2016 16:11:18 GMT
"Everything happens for a reason"
NO.IT.DOES.NOT. Unless the reason is life sucks sometimes.
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Post by imsirius on Dec 21, 2016 16:13:47 GMT
I hate when people say "Don't worry about it" when I'm upset about something. It doesn't make me stop and go " oh you're right! Silly me!"
I worry when I need to and if I am worried, it's for good reason.
Also, I hate being told "you are overreacting/getting upset for nothing"...if you ticked me off, I'm going to react!
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Dec 21, 2016 16:18:11 GMT
I am probably guilty of saying 'calm down' but I never mean it to marginalize the other person's feelings... I can see how it would come across that way, though.
I don't like the 'whatever' phrase, and I do NOT like 'it is what it is' which to me, is a non-saying. It's like, "well, duh!" It's not SAYING anything! After all, what ISN'T what it is??
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2016 16:19:47 GMT
Calm down - hate it. Ex used to say it to me too.
"You're overreacting" - same as above.
Whatever and Right are also one word statements that bug me. Mostly because my ex would say it with this tone that implies he's dismissing anything you say.
The saying "they're X years young" is just stupid. What's the cutoff? I'm 39 years old, and I am still relatively young but I am not 39 years young.
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Post by craftedbys on Dec 21, 2016 16:20:14 GMT
"No problem ". I think the phrase you are looking for is "You're welcome".
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Post by kate on Dec 21, 2016 16:23:53 GMT
"no worries" instead of "you're welcome"
I wasn't worried; I'm just grateful!
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Post by peasapie on Dec 21, 2016 16:31:42 GMT
Shaking my head in agreement about so many of the above.
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Post by freebird on Dec 21, 2016 16:34:46 GMT
"are you on your period?"
My ex would say that when we were having a fight. Like the ONLY reason I could be pissed off at his dumbass face was because I was having a period.
Maybe I'm pissed off because you're a fucking PITA?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2016 16:43:39 GMT
You can hate the phrase calm down all you want. But if your behavior is loud, obnoxious or threatening, and I am 5 seconds from throwing you out of my office, it is the one warning you get before whatever has you uncalm is about to get worse instead of better. I do not have to be subjected to your lack of calmness. Feelings are an internal object. You can feel whatever you want. But once your behavior is manifest externally and impacts me, I get to have a say.
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Post by anonrefugee on Dec 21, 2016 16:44:04 GMT
"No problem ". I think the phrase you are looking for is "You're welcome". I was about to add this. I especially hate it when the phrase to be used is "Thank you." |
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Post by oh yvonne on Dec 21, 2016 16:46:22 GMT
"No problem ". I think the phrase you are looking for is "You're welcome". YES, I can't stand that response. Well, I'm glad it wasn't a 'problem' for you and ruined your day! I mean, really, just say you're welcome. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 21, 2016 16:48:55 GMT
If I was concerned about something and usually looking for some kind of solution to a problem or sympathy with a stressor my ex husband would constantly say, it is what it is. Drove me nuts. Yeah I get it I have to accept whatever has happened but I'm looking for some feedback, asshole.
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Post by JustTricia on Dec 21, 2016 16:56:52 GMT
"Whatever"....I totally feel that someone is disregarding your opinion when you are in a discussion and they respond "whatever". Teens are especially awesome using that! My father in his 70's went through a phase where this was almost a daily utterance by him. We started out ignoring it, then telling him it was rude (to which his response was "whatever"), to telling him we know what he's implying when he says it, to telling him "you say that to us because you think we're stupid and we're too stupid to understand that's what you're implying" (again, "whatever" was the response), to me flat out telling him "when you say that to me, I interpret it as fuck off and you couldn't give a flying fuck about what I have to say; if that's not what you mean, I would appreciate you telling me what you DO meant because from this point forward, you know that's what I believe you're saying to me". It took saying all of that for five years plus almost losing a fifty years friendship before he finally stopped saying it. Of course, then he just replaced it with something not quite as rude. |
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Post by perumbula on Dec 21, 2016 17:00:03 GMT
"We're pregnant." Unless you are two women who happen to both be pregnant at the same time, no you aren't. The woman gets pregnant. The man is not. You're going to have a baby, but only one of you is going to grow it in her belly.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Dec 21, 2016 17:15:55 GMT
"Just smile, life can't be that bad" from a stranger.
1. You don't know what's going on in someone's life for them not to smile.
2. Who are you to tell someone to smile.
3. Fuck off and mind your own business.
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 21, 2016 17:25:43 GMT
I hate when a speaker can't just end a sentence without adding so.... but not add anymore onto the sentence. It's Ok to end a sentence without leaving it open for you to keep talking. "I was going to go to the store but then I decided it was too late, so......" Do you know anyone who does this at the end of most every sentence?
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 21, 2016 17:42:02 GMT
Wait and see...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2016 17:43:58 GMT
"Just smile, life can't be that bad" from a stranger. 1. You don't know what's going on in someone's life for them not to smile. 2. Who are you to tell someone to smile. 3. Fuck off and mind your own business. This is awful! I used to get told all the time "Smile, pretty lady...." #$(# OFF INDEED! You don't know that my aunt just died or my mom was diagnosed w/cancer or I'm worried about a sibling. I'm sorry my face is set in a way that makes it less than optimally beautiful in your mind - because obviously what you see is way more important than what I'm feeling. The bottom line is PUSH BACK people - push back politely, but do not let people continue to get away w/these assumptions just because "we always did that, we always said that, etc." You know what, humans progress and part of the progress is treating each other better and not putting so damn many assumptions on each other. ps - My other one, that doesn't fry me as much, is 'I'm good' instead of 'No, thank you." Yes, I know you're good. But my question was, would you like more lemonade. |
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Post by ilikepink on Dec 21, 2016 17:44:00 GMT
"have a good one" It used to be have a nice day or something similar - but now, a good what? Usually at a store - what about thank you for shopping here?
I have a friend who says "let me put it this way". And then she will repeat whatever story she just told me. Irritates me beyond belief!
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Post by leftturnonly on Dec 21, 2016 17:50:55 GMT
Has anyone in the history of the world calmed down when told to do so? I agree---that's a bad one. Yeah, I have. Said to me by my ldh and my children with great love and gentleness when I have been very upset. It would be entirely different if it was said in a demeaning manner. Then, that person would either get a stare that would drill right through them, or they might get whooped up the side of their head, or maybe even a combination of both. All options reserved.  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 21, 2016 17:53:50 GMT
It's condescending and dismissive. I hate that expression.
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Post by MorningPerson on Dec 21, 2016 17:53:57 GMT
Oooooooh this is a hot button issue for me. I agree with "calm down," but for me even worse is "relax." I have a person in my life who tells his wife "relax Dear" whenever she has even the tiniest comment about something that he doesn't want to hear. Like if we're in a restaurant and he starts getting overly loud (to the point where people at nearby tables are noticing) and she quietly mentions to him that he's getting loud, his response is a condescending look and a condescending toned "relax Dear." I seriously get irrationally pissed off at him. Seriously, irrationally, pissed off.
Now that I think of it, I guess it's not really irrational THAT I'm pissed off, but the level of my pissed off is irrational.
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