Drop everything -important! Dh with no purse boundaries

Does he carry a briefcase/work pack? Ask him how he would feel if you rifled through it at will and then moved it places without telling him. He should get the clue quickly.

Use a decoy purse

If you've talked to him before with no change in behavior, I doubt any discussing or rationalizing with him will work. He probably needs a good visual. My first thought would be to put a small mouse trap in the bottom of the purse so that he gets a snap when he puts his hand where it doesn't belong. Since that's probably a bit too mean, then you might try getting one of those laptop security cables and locking it to the place you want it kept. Once he sees you really mean business, perhaps he'll knock it off.

How funny!  My DH hates having to dig around in my purse for anything, ever. I only change purses a couple times a year and there's not much in it, but he always complains that he can't find anything in there!

DH is terrified of my purse. If I press the issue, he might (gingerly) bring it to me.

My ex decided to throw a couple of boxes of crafting stuff in the trash one afternoon. Fortunately, I discovered them when I went to put the kitchen trash in the can. I was livid! He claimed they hadn't been opened since we had moved to the new house 10 months before. That was true, but that didn't mean I didn't want them! I was just so busy unpacking and painting and decorating that I didn't have time to play with any craft items. He just didn't seem to understand why I was so angry and hurt.

So to help him feel my pain, I put his skis and snowshoes sticking up out of the trash the night before trash pickup - at the curb! He came home from golfing and saw his skis - which were only a year old - in the trash. He came into the house positively steaming red. I just shrugged my shoulders and said that they had not been used since the previous winter, so I figured it was okay to throw them out. He just looked at me like I was nuts until he remembered throwing my boxes out a few weeks before. He got the message. And in all honesty, I waited until I knew he was about 10 minutes from the house before putting the skis in the trash can, then I sat by the window watching them to make sure someone didn't come along and take them. I just needed to prove a point that my stuff is my stuff and keep your hands off! Always, always, ask me first.

I have lived with DH for 33 years, married 29.5 years, and I think he has put his hand in my purse maybe 25 times. If he needs my keys for something and I tell him they are right on top, he will open it and look, but they normally fall to the bottom, so he brings me my purse. If he moves it for some reason, he tells me where it's been relocated to. He bought me tampons in an emergency when we were 16, just like my DS has done for his sister and now XGF. We don't do girl cooties around here. My DH thing is he is weird about his wallet. Everything has it's proper place. All bills have to be face up and be in order from smallest to largest denomination.  If he asks me to get something out of his wallet, he will say can you get "whatever" it's on the "whatever" side between my "whatever" card and my "whatever" card. It's always exactly where he said it would be, and he has to put it back himself. He is totally disorganized in every other aspect of his life. It's the weirdest thing. He doesn't understand I don't feel the same way about my purse, and have won many a shower game with the crazy crap living in my purse. Well damn, maybe that's why he is afraid of my purse.

I think all these men who won't touch our purses were trained by their mothers that their lives would end if they ever put their hands into the mother's. lol. My dh has four brothers so it's well-ingrained in him. He also will carefully take out the checkbook if he asks me first, but nothing else. Anything else he'll bring it to me. 

Touching my handbag is a hanging offence in this household.

I don't carry a purse, but I do have a little change purse that has my cards and any cash that I might have. DH goes into my wallet all the time and takes the cash. We generally only use cash when going out and about, so he likes to keep "tabs" on what we have in the house. That's fine if he wants to count it, but he freaking needs to stop taking it. I would leave the house thinking I have "x" amount of cash and I get to the store and the wallet is empty. Now I've learned to just grab what I think I will need before even leaving the house. If the other money is still in my purse, great, if not, I'm covered. I've asked him time and time again to stop taking the money out, but he still does it anyway.

I like the idea of a purse decoy. If you are anything like me, there would be plenty to chose from.

For whatever reason, my husband has no problem rifling through my purse if he needs something. Maybe it is from me telling him to look in my purse enough times that he feels he no longer needs permission. And, he doesn't. I don't care.

The only issue I have is when he takes my cash and doesn't tell me. I started hiding cash in my car because I would get somewhere and discover I had no cash when I went to pay for something. Made me so mad. So, now, he just leaves my wallet on the counter if he has taken the cash. I have fished cash out of his wallet, too. However, I always 1. tell him or 2. leave a note so he will know. He found my hiding place in the car, so I can't count on that being there either. Grrr!

For some reason, the boy feels kind of funny about getting things out of my purse. Sometimes he needs a CC for something on line and he is so funny when I tell him to get the card out of my wallet. Otherwise, he's my passenger and as such is responsible for the music, the heat/AC, phones, and getting anything I may need from my purse.

When it comes to your spouse, why be so possessive about your purse? I'm just curious.

LOL! When my best friend is with me, I have her rifling through my purse when I'm driving too. I'll have to ask her if it bothers her. And, Mom (MIL) has put money in my purse before and I discovered it later. It never did bother me to know she was in my purse without permission.

If you can't use a decoy coin purse, use decoy money. Like Monopoly money, or the toy money from the Dollar Tree. Hide the real stuff somewhere else and let DH discover your stash of fake cash.