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Post by zuke on Jan 25, 2017 11:53:53 GMT
My friend's father passed away yesterday. The funeral will be in another state. She will be gone for about 1 1/2 weeks. I want to send something to her and her family when she gets back home. Can you recommend things, other than a fruit basket, that would be nice? Thanks in advance
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jan 25, 2017 12:16:59 GMT
What about arranging to have the house cleaned?
In my experience grief overwhelms us at the most unexpected moments so coming home to clean house or stocked fridge would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by CeeScraps on Jan 25, 2017 12:50:45 GMT
I've sent cheesecakes, pizza, flowers, and fruit.
All have been enjoyed!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2017 13:19:04 GMT
My friend's father passed away yesterday. The funeral will be in another state. She will be gone for about 1 1/2 weeks. I want to send something to her and her family when she gets back home. Can you recommend things, other than a fruit basket, that would be nice? Thanks in advance Some evening call a local-to-her delivery place and have dinner delivered to them. You don't have to be in a town to order pizza or whatever be delivered. You can pay for it over the phone. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2017 13:21:57 GMT
When my dad passed away last year, we came home to a huge basket of snacks, chocolate, and cheese/meat/crackers that our best friends had put together for us. They even included treats for our dogs who had been kenneled while we were gone. It was nice to come to that, just knowing they were thinking of us.
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Post by peasquared on Jan 25, 2017 14:10:16 GMT
I had a friends send a beautiful fur throw with a card that said "Warm Hugs". I loved it.
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Post by pierkiss on Jan 25, 2017 14:13:01 GMT
I don't know, not a bread maker though.
When my dads dad died, my parents best friends sent them a bread making machine. Seriously. It got used twice, and then shoved in the basement on a shelf. Because who wants to eat bread made by the machine you got because your dad died?
It was the weirdest thing.
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Post by worldwanderer75 on Jan 25, 2017 14:43:27 GMT
I have sent dinner before and have done a similar basket of favorite snack foods. I know that both have been very appreciated.
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Post by paigepea on Jan 25, 2017 14:56:03 GMT
Send dinner
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Post by mom on Jan 25, 2017 15:06:35 GMT
I would arrange for dinner to be delivered. They wont have to clean up like they would if you were bringing it/
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Post by littlemama on Jan 25, 2017 15:25:16 GMT
Dinner. Seriously. When DH's dad died, we really needed someone to feed us when we were driving back and forth across the state almost daily. Or ask them what groceries they will need immediately and get them for them or have them delivered.
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Post by terri on Jan 25, 2017 16:00:47 GMT
When my husband's father died (in a house fire) we were grateful for every single kind gesture. We received cards, flowers and food. It just really helped to know we were not alone.
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Post by Anne-Marie on Jan 25, 2017 16:24:18 GMT
I agree with those that said any gesture would likely be very appreciated.
If I were your friend, I would be overwhelmed with returning home after being gone that length of time and needing to unpack, likely do laundry, etc., all while grieving. I recall when I lost my dad that leaving my mom to come back home and returning to reality was difficult. Could you maybe take dinner over when they return or the next night? Or groceries?
When my dad passed away, my office had a ham delivered to my parent's house - that was almost 13 years ago and I remember it well - so yes, I'm sure she will appreciate anything you do to let her know you are thinking of her family.
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Post by getting started on Jan 25, 2017 16:26:16 GMT
Dinner. After being away for so long she'll have a lot to get caught up on. Having dinner ready one night would be so thoughtful.
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Post by Flowergirl on Jan 25, 2017 16:27:05 GMT
I don't know, not a bread maker though. When my dads dad died, my parents best friends sent them a bread making machine. Seriously. It got used twice, and then shoved in the basement on a shelf. Because who wants to eat bread made by the machine you got because your dad died? It was the weirdest thing. This one has left me scratching my head here. I'm trying to think of a scenario where a bread machine wouldn't be a strange expression of sympathy, but I'm coming up short. Or, it could just be the worst case of regifting ever! |
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Post by zuke on Jan 25, 2017 22:51:53 GMT
I don't know, not a bread maker though. When my dads dad died, my parents best friends sent them a bread making machine. Seriously. It got used twice, and then shoved in the basement on a shelf. Because who wants to eat bread made by the machine you got because your dad died? It was the weirdest thing. What in the world  That truly is so bizarre!!! I think that I would have burst out laughing... it would have lightened the mood!!! A cleaning service won't work. The moved in over the summer, re did the entire house and she's always spotless. It's just the 2 of them now. Their kids live up north while she's in the south. They will be staying with her daughter so will probably do laundry there before coming home. I think a nice dinner would work... maybe getting them a gift card though, to their favorite restaurant in the area. Or telling them a plan, letting them look at a menu and I then order over the phone. They really don't snack but I like that idea. I'm 18 hours away so I can't bring her anything in person either. Some people would be so easy to think of things. This couple... they would be grateful with even a card but I know that if I sent something like a snack basket, they would give it away because they aren't snackers and actually don't eat much at all! It makes it a little difficult. When we visit them, we have gone to a certain restaurant a few times already so mabe a delivery or GC will do. Thank you all for your great thoughts. I will use a lot of them for other times when needed. One question... about a snack basket... does anyone have a favorite place to order one of those from? |
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Post by Anne-Marie on Jan 26, 2017 18:50:17 GMT
I don't know, not a bread maker though. When my dads dad died, my parents best friends sent them a bread making machine. Seriously. It got used twice, and then shoved in the basement on a shelf. Because who wants to eat bread made by the machine you got because your dad died? It was the weirdest thing. What in the world That truly is so bizarre!!! I think that I would have burst out laughing... it would have lightened the mood!!! A cleaning service won't work. The moved in over the summer, re did the entire house and she's always spotless. It's just the 2 of them now. Their kids live up north while she's in the south. They will be staying with her daughter so will probably do laundry there before coming home. I think a nice dinner would work... maybe getting them a gift card though, to their favorite restaurant in the area. Or telling them a plan, letting them look at a menu and I then order over the phone. They really don't snack but I like that idea. I'm 18 hours away so I can't bring her anything in person either. Some people would be so easy to think of things. This couple... they would be grateful with even a card but I know that if I sent something like a snack basket, they would give it away because they aren't snackers and actually don't eat much at all! It makes it a little difficult. When we visit them, we have gone to a certain restaurant a few times already so mabe a delivery or GC will do. Thank you all for your great thoughts. I will use a lot of them for other times when needed. One question... about a snack basket... does anyone have a favorite place to order one of those from? I love Pittman & Davis - they have fruit (their pears and grapefruit are amazing), nuts, candies, meats, etc. and the quality has always been excellent in my experience. |
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Jan 26, 2017 19:51:36 GMT
I don't know, not a bread maker though. When my dads dad died, my parents best friends sent them a bread making machine. Seriously. It got used twice, and then shoved in the basement on a shelf. Because who wants to eat bread made by the machine you got because your dad died? It was the weirdest thing. That is bizarre and hilarious. "That bread smells fantastic. Hey, remember when dad died? We were so sad. Pass the butter." |
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Post by lucillebluth on Jan 26, 2017 20:08:41 GMT
For two people, I'd send flowers. They're likely eating out a lot while they're away, and may be ready to settle back into their routine when they get home. But the house might be a little quiet--flowers are a little pick me up for a week or so.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2017 23:28:49 GMT
Breakfast. Arrange for breakfast.
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That truly is so bizarre!!! I think that I would have burst out laughing... it would have lightened the mood!!!