if abortion is become illegal

First of all, I really don't believe it will become illegal.

If it did happen, I'm too old to adopt.

HOWEVER, in my lifetime I've known many, many people who have adopted or who have seriously considered adopting. In most cases the wait has been quite long, and the cost is often prohibitive. 

I'm not willing to adopt in either situation because I am perfectly content with the size of my family and don't really think I'd do well with a larger family. So the legality of abortion has nothing to do with it to me.

However, I was just discussing with DH how the slogan "adoption not abortion" works much better on a bumper sticker than in real life for a myriad of reasons.

Abortion is not going to become illegal.

Yep, I've seen that.   I just truly don't think that will happen, but I guess time will tell.

Anita

I don't believe abortion will become illegal.  Sadly.

But I'm going to be 60 in a few months so no, I am not willing to adopt.  However, given the large number of foreign adoptions, I think a bigger pool of infants in this country will result in more adoptions here.

This.

..I don't believe in abortion.
..i don't believe it will become illegal
..i'm a bit old to adopt - my friends from grade school have grandchildren my kids age
..i would have loved to have adopted, and started the process but it reached the point I was getting too old, it was too expensive, and we had been through so much loss and upset, it was not the right choice for us.

Congrats on the grandchild. That old adage is so true: "If I'd have known grandchildren were so much fun, I'd have had them first""

The vast majority do want infants for a variety of reasons. That doesn't change the reality that the US already has thousands of children without permanent homes and families. there are not families lining up to adopt these children.

I don't dispute that.  However, even thought people are aborting infants, isn't making those looking to adopt choose these other children.   Murdering one group of babies is not benefiting those in foster care. 

It's hilarious how many of you think it will not be outlawed. I am old enough to remember the fight to legalize abortion, and old enough to remember women getting illegal abortions. Ultimately, the goal is to outlaw all abortions. They will start with more restrictions and keep narrowing it until the right is gone altogether. The really ironic thing is, by defunding Planned Parenthood, they will cause more women to become pregnant. Then they don't want to help the woman after she has the child. They should call it what it is, the pro-birth movement since one that little bugger is outside of the woman nobody wants to help raise it.

It could lead to more children being in foster care in a round-about way.  If abortion was not an option, I think more women would keep their babies than put them up for adoption.  I think one of the reasons that women have abortions is so that nobody has to know they were pregnant.  If they have to carry the baby to term anyway, everyone knows and they could also be getting pressure/guilt from family and friends to keep the baby.  If the person is not able or willing to care for the baby throughout his/her childhood, the child could get placed in foster care.  

IMO, there is a big difference between being anti-abortion and pro-life.  Most people seem to be staunchly anti-abortion but after the baby is born, the thoughts of "personal responsibility" and "you made your bed, lie in it" apply.  My thoughts are that if you want to reduce the frequency of abortion, look at the reasons why people have them in the first place, and look at ways to reduce unplanned pregnancies.  It's easy to make PP the enemy rather than do the work to actually make progress in reaching your goal.  In the meantime, defunding PP would hurt women and could actually lead to more unplanned pregnancies.  

I just can't wrap my head around the idea that personal responsibility is such an anethema (sp)that murdering your baby is preferable.

I agree with all of this.

I agree that we will see more children removed from homes because people who knew they weren't ready or able to have a baby will do so anyway.  And like someone said elsewhere, when you wait 9 months and you're handed a sweet infant, you may think that you'll go ahead and try this.  And in many cases that may work out beautifully. 

BUT, just as you said, we need to look to see who is having abortions and why.  Those in poverty, those in abusive relationships, those with mental health or substance abuse issues---in those cases it may not always work out as well.  In some of them, sure.  The baby could be the catalyst for them to make changes.  But the baby could become the next horrible news story you hear about a child abandoned, abused, neglected, or killed. 

If we, as a nation, are going to make abortions illegal, then we better change the way we support mothers and their babies before we start telling mothers that they have no choice but to give birth; or else we're going to compound an already heartbreaking problem.
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