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Post by Dixie Lou on Feb 15, 2017 12:45:07 GMT
6 years or so ago I had one of our teacher aide's daughters in my class (second grade.) The teacher aide is a gruff woman yet sugar talks the parents and is sweet to certain children. She has three biological children and this girl is one of three adopted children. One afternoon her daughter comes to me and tells me all of these things that her mom does to her and her brother. They were terrible things that couldn't be made up. The little girl was afraid to go home that day and begged me not to make her. Well I don't have that kind of power but I did report it to the nurse who checked her out and yes she did have bruises. I reported it to CPS who went to their home the very next day. I was seriously worried for this girl's safety. Now this girl had told me here and there throughout the year that she wanted to go back to her biological mother, that wasn't possible. She had never met her and was given to her now legal mother as a foster child when she was newborn. The girl said to me that she wants a white mom. The girl is white and the teacher aide mom is black. I never got into a conversation with her about that but I did listen to her when she would mention it. I mean, I didn't just brush her off but I never encouraged that in any way. The year before I had her brother who had a lot of emotional/mental diagnoses and to me this little girl seemed to as well. She always seemed unhappy, i recall now looking back.
After calling CPS that time the mother was understandably very upset with me. The children finished out the school year and then she moved them to her neighborhood school. I never saw them again.
Yesterday i find out that she is still gossiping about me. Back when this happened the principal had to speak with her more than once about threatening and bullying me. She told her to stop talking about it. i don't care that she is gossiping about me, I really don't. My personal opinion of what happened is not into play here and I never talk about it. What does bother me is that she is saying that i turned her daughter against her (I did not) and now the child is in a mental hospital. I feel terrible that this little girl is still suffering! i am not a part of that story except that i was the one the little girl first reported to. I just pray she is able to find some peace in her life.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 15, 2017 13:13:24 GMT
I can't believe she was still employed as a teacher's aide if the principal had to speak to her about bullying you! That sucks! Is she still at your school? And how did she find out you were the one who reported her to CPS?
Maybe you could have a lawyer send her a cease and desist letter. What she is doing is harassment.
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Post by destined2bmom on Feb 15, 2017 13:31:15 GMT
Have you thought about getting an attorney to send a cease and desist letter.
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Post by jenb72 on Feb 15, 2017 14:28:42 GMT
I'm curious how she found out that it was you that reported her. In my personal experience, CPS (at least in my area) doesn't divulge that information to the person they're investigating. But regardless, I hate that the girl is still suffering and that she can't seem to let it go and is still gossiping about you. That speaks volumes about her character. Jen ETA: That the woman is still gossiping - sorry - my post made it sound like I was referring to the girl. Darn grammar.  |
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Post by freebird on Feb 15, 2017 15:19:20 GMT
I'm curious how she found out that it was you that reported her. In my personal experience, CPS (at least in my area) doesn't divulge that information to the person they're investigating.But regardless, I hate that the girl is still suffering and that she can't seem to let it go and is still gossiping about you. That speaks volumes about her character. Jen ETA: That the woman is still gossiping - sorry - my post made it sound like I was referring to the girl. Darn grammar. The parent probably made the child tell her who she told. |
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Post by mom on Feb 15, 2017 15:22:27 GMT
Oh wow. That is horrible that she is acting that way! You had no choice but to report what you heard.
I am guessing her daughter told her mom who she reported the information to?
I am actually surprised she is still working as a teacher as she appears to have some character issues.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 15, 2017 15:54:35 GMT
6 years or so ago I had one of our teacher aide's daughters in my class (second grade.) The teacher aide is a gruff woman yet sugar talks the parents and is sweet to certain children. She has three biological children and this girl is one of three adopted children. One afternoon her daughter comes to me and tells me all of these things that her mom does to her and her brother. They were terrible things that couldn't be made up. The little girl was afraid to go home that day and begged me not to make her. Well I don't have that kind of power but I did report it to the nurse who checked her out and yes she did have bruises. I reported it to CPS who went to their home the very next day. I was seriously worried for this girl's safety. Now this girl had told me here and there throughout the year that she wanted to go back to her biological mother, that wasn't possible. She had never met her and was given to her now legal mother as a foster child when she was newborn. The girl said to me that she wants a white mom. The girl is white and the teacher aide mom is black. I never got into a conversation with her about that but I did listen to her when she would mention it. I mean, I didn't just brush her off but I never encouraged that in any way. The year before I had her brother who had a lot of emotional/mental diagnoses and to me this little girl seemed to as well. She always seemed unhappy, i recall now looking back. After calling CPS that time the mother was understandably very upset with me. The children finished out the school year and then she moved them to her neighborhood school. I never saw them again. Yesterday i find out that she is still gossiping about me. Back when this happened the principal had to speak with her more than once about threatening and bullying me. She told her to stop talking about it. i don't care that she is gossiping about me, I really don't. My personal opinion of what happened is not into play here and I never talk about it. What does bother me is that she is saying that i turned her daughter against her (I did not) and now the child is in a mental hospital. I feel terrible that this little girl is still suffering! i am not a part of that story except that i was the one the little girl first reported to. I just pray she is able to find some peace in her life. The child was removed from her biomom at birth which is automatic if the mom was using drugs. There is likely much more to this story than you know. |
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Post by MerryMom on Feb 15, 2017 20:48:50 GMT
OP,
I work in child welfare and not all information relayed by children is always accurate or can be proved. But I am not sure what your principal can do about the teacher's aide's statements that are made to others outside of work. I am not sure who she is "gossiping" to. If she is saying it to people at work, then I would go to the principal again.
Trust me, the vast majority of people she is "gossiping to" probably have a good sense of what she is about OR they are thinking "Why are you telling me this?" and don't lend it any credence.I am sure they can figure out that someone making a report to CPS and the child's admission to an inpatient treatment facility several years later are not really related.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Feb 16, 2017 0:49:32 GMT
Yes, bio-mom was into drugs and lost custody of all of her kids and this little girl was a newborn. The adoptive mother adopted three of the kids that she lost.
The teacher aide doesn't bother me like she used to, and she does still work at the school. We speak on occasion but mostly just ignore each other. Fortunately she doesn't work in my grade level. In the past years she has given me hateful looks, tried to have a stare-down, trying to scare me when no one else is around. The principal told her to knock it off a few times. The T.A. will say 'i will do this for you but not for Mrs. L" to others. She has a little following at school. I am not intimidated by her. I did tell the principal that she is still gossiping about me. Oh, and the gossiping is happening at school with other teachers whom she likes, other aides and probably with the parents that she feels comfortable with.
She is probably talking about me to others outside of school. Who knows.
i don't care except I feel so sad for this child.
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