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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 17:54:03 GMT
Dd (14) has Aspergers. Puberty has hit hard and we have noticed brain changes.
She is having trouble with crossing midline activities again. And is lying again (dis this at age 7)
What tools have you used to help your teen child on the spectrum see that doing A will cause either B or C depending on your actions?
She, like so many other asd kids, have trouble seeing the consequence of their actions. They only see the present and have trouble predicting the future.
So please let me know what helped your teen. Thanks
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 18:01:46 GMT
About that time we started homeschooling, that helped a lot. And he started taking a high quality fish oil pill.
We had full blood panels done to make sure that there wasn't anything to out of wack.
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 18, 2017 18:16:55 GMT
Now that you mention it, that's when things escalated for my daughter. I think there were a number of other factors. We put her in a public charter school instead of the public middle school. The noise in hallways, bullying, and meltdowns had increased at the former school. I *know* under law, she should have had an IEP, but it never happened until she was at the new school. Even that took until the end of the year to happen. Where she's 14, can you look into Vocational Rehabilitation? I'm in the process of getting this set up for my daughter. It's job training for people with all kinds of disabilities. They have a job coach and learn skills and there are businesses that work with VR. I was told there's even a 6 week internship they do in the summer. Talking to a psychologist who specializes in teens and adults with Autism has helped. We took a break for a while because she's been doing some other things with an agency that does ABA therapy. She'll be seeing him soon again. I think the combo of seeing the psychologist and working with the agency might help her some more. I don't know. It's still a struggle. Last week she sent me text messages because she was furious they moved her seat in class.  ETA: What do you mean by midline activities? I also think what really helped is the flexibility she has of choosing which classes to work on. It can be an intense amount of time on one and then she can work on 2 at a time. As long as all are completed by the end of the quarter. Sometimes I think when Mom and Dad are out of the picture more and there's help from other people, they respond better. |
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 18, 2017 18:29:36 GMT
Maybe having something like this posted where she sees it frequently may help? |
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Post by Linda on Feb 18, 2017 19:01:00 GMT
we found that the puberty years were really hard for both my child who is diagnosed HFA and my child who only has suspected Aspergers but no diagnosis. Socially life ramps up and they were already behind the curve and just fell further. And the whole hormonal changes bit? For one it translated into RAGE and one into meltdowns/sobs. The one with a diagnosis went back on medication for about a year or so (adderall and prozac - but this was some time ago and I'm sure what's out there has changed) which helped level things off a bit so that coping skills COULD be used.
It did get better - mine both went through puberty on the younger side and by 14 or so, we were on the upswing (now 8-12/13 were super rough). My youngest is 10 and not on the spectrum and I'm constantly amazed at how even-keeled she is despite being well on her way into puberty (no cycle yet though). Consistency, reminders, and limiting opportunities for meltdowns are about all that got us through with the others...oh and lots of chocolate (for me)
((((Hugs)))) and prayers.
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Post by Linda on Feb 18, 2017 19:01:48 GMT
Sometimes I think when Mom and Dad are out of the picture more and there's help from other people, they respond better. YES - very much so! Last week she sent me text messages because she was furious they moved her seat in class. I can SO relate to that! |
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 18, 2017 19:17:10 GMT
The one with a diagnosis went back on medication for about a year or so (adderall and prozac - but this was some time ago and I'm sure what's out there has changed) That's what we are doing. I don't think the adderall will ever stop. She is very ADHD. We actually did increase prozac a bit a few months ago. Our doctor is very cautious about medications and increases in small doses or recommends other coping strategies. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 19:26:33 GMT
I greatly appreciate all the info and your lives with asd.
Dd is on gabapentin, risperidone, and tenex. Due to POTS she is on small doses and had bad reactions to SSRI meds.
We also did floor time, play therapy, pcit, and traditional therapy.
Crossing mid line is tying your shoe laces, looking at your written esay on the side of you and typing what you wrote, looking at a math problem on one side of you, and writting it exactly on the other side of you. It is also known as bilateral integration. It is using both sides of the body and brain to.complete a task.
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 18, 2017 20:12:57 GMT
Oh, this one makes more sense. Is it IMPORTANT.  |
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Post by Basket1lady on Feb 18, 2017 23:39:06 GMT
I like that last poster!
My DS has some pretty mild Asperger's. Mostly social issues, with some OCD thrown in. I saw it all come to a HUGE head during puberty. He was younger than your DD--about 6th grade for him. He just couldn't relate to his peers and he was put into classes in higher grades because he was so smart. He needed a teacher in the hall way to monitor him during passing periods, but was still physically assaulted in a class that had a sub in it. That was the final straw for us.
Luckily, we moved. We interviewed several schools and we pleased when one vice principal really rallied to his case. We choose that school (which was public), but it the cost of living was really high there. And I don't regret it for a single moment.
First of all, they made the counselor's office a safe place for him. He didn't need to have permission to go there--he just could get up and go. The first day of school, the counselor introduced him to a table of kids and said, "These are your friends. You can eat with them, sit together at assemblies, attend school events together, ..." It worked well. They boys all had some quirks to them and the kids learned to tolerate each other and to see what others saw in their own behavior."
The counselor also worked well with DS to identify behaviors that caused others to tease and bully them. This may be the biggest factor of our success--that DS directly learned how to get along in the world.
I will say that he outgrew a lot of the big issues by high school. It wasn't unusual for a HS student to be put into a higher level class, there were a lot of higher level classes to choose from and he got involved in football and track. Which wasn't socially great for him, but did give him an outlet for his anger and frustration--it was ok to knock kids down on the field or to throw the shot put as hard as he could. He seemed to find his place in HS and we accepted him more for having only a few close friends. I was always worried that he wouldn't be happy if he didn't have a lot of friends, but came to accept that the relationships that he did have were good ones and enough for him.
DS is a sophomore in college now, 1,300 miles away from home. He is really excelling there, finding his place and seems very happy. He still relates more with adults, but that works now that he is older. He always was an old soul in a child's body.
I wish you the best of luck as you navigate this next step for your DD. Puberty and the teen years aren't easy for a neurotypical kid, much less our Aspies.
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