Stop being so alpha, women

I don't think this idea is too radical. And I do think there is some merit there. I am not married to an alpha male. He is very laid back. He let's me go with my bad self probably95% of the time.  But he is still a man. When he feels strongly about something he speaks up and I give him the respect to listen. He came from a relationship with a stay at home wife. Then he got divorced and met me. For the first five years of our relationship I made more money than he did. I know thus bothered him. He felt like he was a man and so it was his job to be the provider. Now that he makes more money it has improved his self esteem. 

Dr laura says men need to feel like a provider and a protector. And in my experience this is true. She also says that men's needs are simple and you can meet their needs with food, sex, and backrubs. I have found it to be true of my own husband. I think there is a give and take in relationships. I do think we need to accept that men and the male ego are different than women. And I think rather than expecting our men to change their view we need to be gentle with them and nurture them. I think really that's the whole reason men get married. They want to feel loved by someone and in general aren't affectionate with other people the way we are with girlfriends. 

I guess what I am trying to say is that relationships are often unequal. Our needs are different than men's needs. While I am not going to choose to make less money to please a husband, I do see in my own relationship that there is appreciation for when I do things that are specific to my gender role. Do I think this makes me an unequal partner? No I don't. Like I said he pretty much let's me go with my bad self 95% of the time. But I also feel like when he is nurtured he is a better husband. And maybe that's old fashioned thinking. But rather than try to change him I prefer to gently guide him using my femininities. And in turn he appreciates it when I act like a woman. And like I said he is very laid back and calm. And I am not. He deals with my emotions too. 

Anyway,all that to say I think we need to appreciate our differences. 

Ugh, the idea that women are exactly like men in every way and men are exactly like women in every way except for differential genitals is ridiculous.

There's not much I agree with here. The differences between men and women (outside of basic physiological differences) are largely dictated by society. Men feel the need to protect and provide because they are raised with those expectations. Men aren't generally affectionate because they are raised to believe that emotions = female = weakness.

My ego/needs are not dictated by my gender because the expectations and limits placed on me by my parents were not gender-based.