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Post by scrappintoee on Feb 27, 2017 21:30:00 GMT
I've realized lately that 2 dear friends of mine seem to THRIVE on high-stress, they *sometimes* CREATE stress when there isn't any. To clarify---I don't mean they put it onto OTHER PEOPLE---No---they are very kind and giving to their family and friends, but so hard on themselves, and I fear for their health!
There have been times in my life where I DID thrive on stress /deadlines **sometimes**, and it was kind of fun /challenging for a while; but I could NOT deal with it all the time. How about you?
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 27, 2017 21:32:37 GMT
Thrive? No. I don't like stress and I try not to have/create much.
While I don't like it, I do know that my productivity levels go up as my stress increases. :/
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Post by scrappintoee on Feb 27, 2017 21:35:23 GMT
While I don't like it, I do know that my productivity levels go up as my stress increases. :/ Yes, I used to be that way, too!!! *some* stress can be good!
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Post by georgiapea on Feb 27, 2017 21:43:19 GMT
Not a fan of stress. During my working life I felt a lot of job stress so tried to make sure my home lifewas stress free. Then I got a stress causing neighbor. Blaach. Now that I'm retired I'm able to control any stress that tries to enter my life.
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 27, 2017 21:46:58 GMT
I always say I'm allergic to stress. I create as much of a stress free environment as I can. It's wholly unavoidable, but I do not do well with much stress.
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Post by indyrocks on Feb 27, 2017 22:58:11 GMT
I think my RX for Xanax would prove otherwise...I'm allergic to stress--will leave me with a three day migraine if I let it. It sucks
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Post by papersilly on Feb 27, 2017 23:16:44 GMT
no. definitely not. i just deal with it as it comes along. but, i know a couple of people who function at high levels of stress. they are both super nice. one is hyper because of all that she is dealing with at any given time. for the other, it's just another day in the park. i don't know how she does it but she does.
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Post by gar on Feb 27, 2017 23:19:02 GMT
No, I find it hard to focus and be productive when I'm stressed.
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Post by goldenblind221 on Feb 27, 2017 23:20:13 GMT
I'm comfortable with a moderate amount of stress, but prolonged high levels of stress really put me on my ass. I used to work in a pedi ER and there were days when I just couldn't anymore. Now that I'm out of that environment, my BP and blood sugar levels have gotten better and I don't feel so drained all the time.
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Post by leannec on Feb 27, 2017 23:22:51 GMT
Absolutely not ... if I wasn't medicated things would be ugly
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Post by azredhead on Feb 27, 2017 23:26:28 GMT
no! I try to avoid it. My mom was that way though. It does affect your health, but it is easier for me to productive when there is stress or a lot going on. I can't just sit still anyway.
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Post by beanbuddymom on Feb 27, 2017 23:28:01 GMT
No, I don't thrive under too much of as I usually shut down if it's too overwhelming, but a little bit of stress maybe yes - I get an adrenaline rush out of it, so I am beginning to think over the years that I create more problems for myself. We are a mainly ADHD and ADD family so it's not an uncommon trait in the household unfortunately, as much as I think I try to create calm and organization it all goes to shit sporadically.
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Post by colleen on Feb 27, 2017 23:31:39 GMT
I always thought I dealt well with stress. I'm pretty cool under fire. But some serious plumbing issues at home that have been going on for 2+ weeks really hit me hard. I think it was the continuous low level stress that I couldn't seem to resolve that did it.
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Post by Tammiem2pnc1 on Feb 28, 2017 0:35:32 GMT
Thrive? no, but I usually deal with it well. Lately I have had so much stress and no relief in sight that it's causing anxiety and stomach ulcers. I would never purposefully cause stress in my life.
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Post by Judy26 on Feb 28, 2017 0:44:20 GMT
I always say I'm allergic to stress. I create as much of a stress free environment as I can. It's wholly unavoidable, but I do not do well with much stress. My DD is actually allergic to stress. She has an autoimmune disease that causes her to overload on histamines when stressed. She has to really watch so she doesn't get ill if she is over stressed.
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Post by janniepea on Feb 28, 2017 3:10:55 GMT
NO. There's so much stress here right now that I'm losing sleep. Some will be solved soon, other, not so much. Learning to drop it when I can, walk a lot and pray and trust God.
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Post by mom on Feb 28, 2017 3:16:03 GMT
Do I thrive on stress?
NO. I can handle stress, and adapt well. But when I reach my boiling point -- then I go into shutdown mode.
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Post by busy on Feb 28, 2017 3:18:53 GMT
I used to say I thrived on stress, but I've come to realize that's not exactly true. I do manage stressful situations well and am generally very effective when under stress. However, that's not the same as thriving. Ongoing or repeated stress takes a toll on me, even if I'm being productive through it. Stress is unavoidable, but I have learned to be more careful about taking care of myself during times of stress.
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Post by esperanza on Feb 28, 2017 3:37:30 GMT
I think some stress is good and motivating. Even helpful. For example, when I was in school stress about performing well on tests motivated me to study better and smarter. Therefore, I did better on tests. But, in general, I think stress/anxiety isn't helpful or useful. It depends on the kind of stress really.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 28, 2017 4:03:39 GMT
When I had a project due in school I would do it at the last minute because that's how I worked. I did well, too. I just need to do it at the last minute.
I have a project I have to do for Saturday. I have barely started. I will do it when I am ready.
I don't thrive on bad stress like a parent dying. That kind of stress eats alive.
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Post by anniefb on Feb 28, 2017 4:44:04 GMT
No, I find it hard to focus and be productive when I'm stressed. Same here.
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Post by used2scrap on Feb 28, 2017 6:02:50 GMT
I can do incredibly well in the midst of a crisis, making decisions, getting things done and being very reliable. As long as there are decisions to be made and solutions to be had. I don't deal well with long term stress no end in sight holding pattern waiting for some external factor to change the status quo uncertainty. And I don't tolerate or deal well with those who create drama/stress so they can feel important.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 28, 2017 10:43:02 GMT
Thrive on stress?
No.
While I don't shut down, and I continue being productive, I can feel my physical and mental health take a hit.
But it's like running a sprint. You can do it, but not forever. Eventually you have to slow down.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Feb 28, 2017 10:51:05 GMT
Oh my word, no. I am at a worst under a lot of stress. Especially if it goes on for a long period. I think my daily life would be more stressful than some but it is my norm and not overwhelming. Too much stress for days on end... and I am showing my less than appealing sides. A huge dose of extreme stress or an emergency I do well with but it takes a toll and I am usually exhausted afterwards.
I do have friends that seem really like super busy. I can't say I think they thrive on it. Some of the things they choose and other aspects they haven't and are just part of circumstances they can't control.
When I have circumstances I can't control that seem or feel to be too much to me or our family I tend to reel back on then what I can control to bring order, calmness and peacefulness internally and externally.
Over the past year or so we had a lot of changes in our life. We moved to a home that we felt would be a great fit for the next season of our life it wasn't far from our old home but a move nonetheless and a different set up entirely, plus it was an older home so it had a good amount of updates we wanted to do and tried to do most of them before moving in (we had already lived through doing some major jobs after a major water leak at our last home so we knew what would the best fit for the timing on what we could choose) and we still have some projects, we aren't DIY at all. My middle son graduated from high school (he was signed up for the transition program but in the end we didn't have him continue with it due to the goal was employment and he had accomplished that for many months and we hoped it would stay that way) and has been in the processing of working out employment which when you are on the autism spectrum can be a bit of a rollercoaster. He had a job for 10 months and than lost it and after 2 months he is now employed again and in a job that I think will be a better fit plus he has supported employment which he needs or at least needs for now and helped him find the job, interview, get things started on the right track. We had a school change for our youngest which we hadn't planned but after some major sudden changes (at his school and in the direction they were heading) that we weren't sure we were on board with we felt it was best to make a change (and we are so glad we did it was for sure the best change for him and our family) so that was yet another change. Add to that some stressors for my husband, an unexpected vehicle totaled (it was parked so no injury but hit but a large work truck that had less than stellar insurance coverage and was a real bear to deal with) and other things it for sure has felt like a year that had a higher degree of stress than our normal or desired. We rolled with it the best we could. There were still good things, we counted the good and dealt with the hard but didn't let it take us under and knew this too shall pass. There was a lot of great changes and much to be grateful for but just a lot of change in it. Some good, some bad and some just plain hard. In the midst of it I sought to bring order to what I could. Rid of as much as I could because stuff stresses me, organize my closest often because I could bring order there easily, work on personal goals in my life, etc. It felt like a bit of a storm but I would remind myself often of the good and I think we learned to dance a bit more in the midst of the storm. Because some storms don't pass quickly and the worst scenarios rarely happen.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Feb 28, 2017 13:03:20 GMT
I can do incredibly well in the midst of a crisis, making decisions, getting things done and being very reliable. As long as there are decisions to be made and solutions to be had. I don't deal well with long term stress no end in sight holding pattern waiting for some external factor to change the status quo uncertainty. And I don't tolerate or deal well with those who create drama/stress so they can feel important. Me to a T. From a work perspective I like things to be a bit crunched. I work better under pressure with hard deadlines. But constant, low levels of stress over long term things make me physically ill. Personally I can compartmentalize short term stress and get shit done in a very deliberate and organized manner. I'm the go to person in the family when crisis strikes. But don't add to the mess with your own issues or the normal mild-mannered me will chew you the f*** out. Ask my siblings.
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Post by rickmer on Feb 28, 2017 13:12:21 GMT
no. i do not thrive on it.
as a matter of fact, i did a personality profile thing once that said when stressed, i slow down and become slower and more deliberate when completing tasks because i am worried that i will make mistakes.
i hate that feeling...
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 28, 2017 16:11:04 GMT
Ugh, no! I used to work with someone I secretly called Drama Donna. Everything was a crisis. She had no perspective on what was a problem versus what is an annoyance. Her dad having a stroke was the same as McDonalds screwing up her order. It was exhausting. I had to distance myself from her.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Feb 28, 2017 16:20:02 GMT
Short-term, yes. My thinking becomes sharper and faster, my body more co-ordinated and decision-making easier. That's the sympathetic nervous system taking over.
But if the stress continues too long then the adrenals get burned out which is not good.
That's the way we're all supposed to be programmed.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Feb 28, 2017 16:44:28 GMT
Thrive? No. Exist in a constant state of? Yes.
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 28, 2017 17:54:40 GMT
I'm a firm believer that a calm life is a much happier life. I hate stress and I thrive on calmness.
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