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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 13, 2017 18:34:50 GMT
I just thought this might be a neat thread. Peas are very wise, you know.
I'll start:
-Don't make important decisions in anger. Take a day to think it through first.
-Be generous with honest praise. It could truly make someone's day.
-Save money when you can.
-Get an education. Life is so much easier when you have a good education to build on.
-Learn to like vegetables. And exercise.
-Don't post mean things online. Also, don't post overly private or incriminating things online. No nudes, either.
-Always keep your own bank account, with some money in it. Even when you are married.
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Post by ntsf on Mar 13, 2017 18:39:54 GMT
don't shop for entertainment..
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 18:42:50 GMT
Do things that scare you. Don't rub your eyes-that way lies wrinkles! Pet as many cats as you can get your hands on. Read for pleasure. Listen more than you talk. Hoard handbags  Develop a good skin care regime early. Never stop learning. Use a washcloth! |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 18:49:53 GMT
Don't go grocery shopping when you are hungry.  Life is short. Don't waste it sweating the small stuff. Don't rely on others to make you happy. |
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Post by littlemama on Mar 13, 2017 18:56:40 GMT
Tomorrow is a new day, and each new day is a chance for a fresh start.
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Post by flanz on Mar 13, 2017 19:02:49 GMT
Do things that scare you. Don't rub your eyes-that way lies wrinkles! Pet as many cats as you can get your hands on. Read for pleasure. Listen more than you talk. Hoard handbags Develop a good skin care regime early. Never stop learning. Use a washcloth! I'm on board with all but the handbags.  |
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Post by terri on Mar 13, 2017 19:03:45 GMT
Do things you really want to do as soon as you can. I would have never imagined I would develop a serious medical condition that prevents me from doing so much at a relatively young age. I wish I had made my "bucket list" type items more of a priority.
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Post by peano on Mar 13, 2017 19:04:26 GMT
Very few things in life are "always" or "never". The rigidity that comes with black and white thinking does not contribute to your growth as a person. Related to this, cultivate open-mindedness and flexibility with others but ESPECIALLY with your children. Don't make decisions or proclamations that serve to alienate them from you, e.g. "If you do XYZ, we'll never speak to you again." As human beings, they are fallible, will make mistakes and decisions that you don't agree with. This is their right and part of the growing up process. Related to this, let children have enough freedom and space, age-appropriately, to make decisions for themselves, and to let them deal with problems rather than jumping in to rescue them. As much as you can, step back and let them learn to manage their lives so they are prepared to go out and be adults. Be consistent and firm with limits for children. If they are mean to a kindergarten classmate 3x within the space of a week, then they need to be marched over to that classmate's house 3x to make a face to face apology each time, plus a written note of apology to the bus driver, when she got involved. (Something like this may or may not have happened to me in the past  ). It's embarrassing and a major PIA to do this but I never had any other issues with this or anything else. When you are beating up on yourself for something, take a step back and imagine yourself a small child again. Is what you are telling yourself, as a compassionate adult, really how you would speak to a small child? Stay open to new ideas, expose yourself to the world outside your house, your town, your state, your country. Get up out of your BarcaLounger and try new things, meet different kinds of people. This keeps your mind active and young. |
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Post by flanz on Mar 13, 2017 19:06:01 GMT
Great thread. Thanks, LL Lady!
Don't assume people know what you think or how you feel.
Tell the people you love that you love them. Often.
Self care is important, that whole "put on your own oxygen mask before assisting other passengers" is so true. (And yet we women are often such good caregivers and put ourselves last. I'm def. guilty of that at times.)
Facts or alternative facts won't change peoples minds when it comes to politics and social issues. Only heart to heart sharing of stories, connecting on a heart level, might do that.
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Post by flanz on Mar 13, 2017 19:07:46 GMT
Do things you really want to do as soon as you can. I would have never imagined I would develop a serious medical condition that prevents me from doing so much at a relatively young age. I wish I had made my "bucket list" type items more of a priority. , I'm so sorry that you have to deal with huge physical challenges. I have dealt with a lot of chronic illness that has prevented me from doing what I wanted to do on many, many occasions, so I feel a bit of what you are going through. ((((HUGS))) And that was great advice! |
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Post by flanz on Mar 13, 2017 19:09:54 GMT
Very few things in life are "always" or "never". The rigidity that comes with black and white thinking does not contribute to your growth as a person. Related to this, cultivate open-mindedness and flexibility with others but ESPECIALLY with your children. Don't make decisions or proclamations that serve to alienate them from you, e.g. "If you do XYZ, we'll never speak to you again." As human beings, they are fallible, will make mistakes and decisions that you don't agree with. This is their right and part of the growing up process. Related to this, let children have enough freedom and space, age-appropriately, to make decisions for themselves, and to let them deal with problems rather than jumping in to rescue them. As much as you can, step back and let them learn to manage their lives so they are prepared to go out and be adults. Be consistent and firm with limits for children. If they are mean to a kindergarten classmate 3x within the space of a week, then they need to be marched over to that classmate's house 3x to make a face to face apology each time, plus a written note of apology to the bus driver, when she got involved. (Something like this may or may not have happened to me in the past ). It's embarrassing and a major PIA to do this but I never had any other issues with this or anything else. When you are beating up on yourself for something, take a step back and imagine yourself a small child again. Is what you are telling yourself, as a compassionate adult, really how you would speak to a small child? Stay open to new ideas, expose yourself to the world outside your house, your town, your state, your country. Get up out of your BarcaLounger and try new things, meet different kinds of people. This keeps your mind active and young. What a fantastic list! I agree with all of it and try to live my life in this way. (She writes from her "Barcalounger" as she tries to get rid of a bad headache... I need to get up off of this thing, headache or not!) |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 19:11:57 GMT
Don't air your dirty laundry on Facebook.
Don't match your shoes to your bag.
Be honest.
Always engage your brain before your mouth.
Admit to your mistakes.
Eat the chocolate. Denial is bad for the soul.
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Post by myboysnme on Mar 13, 2017 19:18:10 GMT
Surround yourself with people you can depend on but never be dependent on anyone for very long if at all.
Let children be children. Stop having unreasonable expectations from your adult point of view.
Try to learn a second language. Even if you never learn more than a few words, you learn that just because someone speaks a different language it's not something to feared. Languages are beautiful and we can learn a lot if we just listen, even if we don't understand. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 19:20:10 GMT
Don't match your shoes to your bag. Oh oh. Have I been getting this wrong?  I try to match when I can. |
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Post by polz on Mar 13, 2017 19:27:42 GMT
Never play leapfrog with a unicorn
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 19:28:08 GMT
Don't match your shoes to your bag. Oh oh. Have I been getting this wrong? I try to match when I can. If you enjoy matching then that's what's right for you. Maybe I should add 'don't listen to Lainey when it comes to fashion advice' to the list. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 19:29:41 GMT
Oh oh. Have I been getting this wrong? I try to match when I can. If you enjoy matching then that's what's right for you. Maybe I should add 'don't listen to Lainey when it comes to fashion advice' to the list.  |
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 13, 2017 19:39:07 GMT
Always live below your means.
Always look people in the eye when you are speaking to them.
Be very careful about sharing financial information with anyone.
Always treat everyone with dignity and respect.
Don't be afraid to pursue your career goals.
Never ever lie to anyone about anything.
Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 19:50:55 GMT
Smile more often. Most people look better wearing a smile than a frown. It's one fashion accessory that's free!
Choose joy.
And the oldie but goodie - the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So much conflict could be avoided if we all lived by this one.
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Post by anniefb on Mar 13, 2017 20:36:09 GMT
Don't just save things for a special occasion - enjoy them now.
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Post by papersilly on Mar 13, 2017 20:41:17 GMT
peace and happiness can be found in routine. life doesn't have to be a rollercoaster.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Mar 13, 2017 20:57:13 GMT
Oh oh. Have I been getting this wrong? I try to match when I can. If you enjoy matching then that's what's right for you. Maybe I should add 'don't listen to Lainey when it comes to fashion advice' to the list. This made me LOL!! How about: Don't be afraid to develop you own fashion style. If YOU like it wear it!! The clothes that you've spent a lot of money on and are saving for a special occasion, WEAR THEM!! All the time. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2017 21:03:09 GMT
Don't be afraid to develop you own fashion style. If YOU like it wear it!! Absolutely  |
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Post by flanz on Mar 13, 2017 21:03:38 GMT
Smile more often. Most people look better wearing a smile than a frown. It's one fashion accessory that's free! Choose joy. And the oldie but goodie - the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So much conflict could be avoided if we all lived by this one. nice. as for the Golden Rule, there is a different version that I like a lot more. Do unto others as THEY would like done unto them! |
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Post by Linda on Mar 13, 2017 21:06:29 GMT
when people show you who they are, believe them
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Mar 13, 2017 21:19:33 GMT
Give people some grace. You don't know what is going on in their life.
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Post by freebird on Mar 13, 2017 21:23:15 GMT
Don't save the nice things for special days. use them because you have them.
Don't be a doormat.
Stop qualifying all your remarks, speak up and strongly and confidently.. Don't waver even if you're scared.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 13, 2017 21:29:41 GMT
If you have your health then take nothing for granted and live your life to the fullest.
Sometimes you have to learn to love what's good for you.
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Post by seikashaven on Mar 13, 2017 21:39:12 GMT
Don't loan money.
Don't ask people when they're going to have children. It's personal, potentially painful and truly no one's business but the couple in question.
Make your money work for you and BUDGET.
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Post by newfcathy on Mar 14, 2017 18:16:11 GMT
The Golden Rule is an excellent start.
Always treat your dearest ones with your best manners and respect.
Start your 401k asap and fund to the max.
Travel as much as you can, particularly when you are young & healthy.
Stay healthy, I wish I had taken better care of myself.
Live within your means. When we bought our home, we could support it on my salary alone. That allowed me to be a SAHM 2 years later when dh's salary had risen. We were able to keep our home when dh was later laid off. It will be paid off next year!!!
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I try to match when I can. 
