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Post by sues on Aug 20, 2014 21:49:16 GMT
Reading about the Pea who gathered baby things for a family member in need got me thinking about 'no good deed goes unpunished'. I think everyone probably has at least one good story about this. Here's mine: A while back, DH was looking at new cars. His old car wasn't going to get us much in terms of a sale or trade in, so we decided to offer it to a family member, for free. She was financially strapped and definitely in need of a reliable vehicle. When we offered it to her, she was thrilled and said yes immediately. We told her we'd let her know when it was available. A few weeks later she told us she decided her husband needed the car more (Her on again, off again husband- they were always on the verge of divorce.) and she was going to give it to him, instead. DH was mad. He knew she was doing it because her DH pitched a fit and said he wanted the car. We would not have chosen to give the car to him. He was an ass that treated her and her kids badly. Plus- we were pretty sure he wasn't going to be around much longer, and it drove DH nuts thinking of the doof leaving with his car. Soon after this revelation, the family comes to our house for a BBQ (but they were not picking up the car). The husband comes in and tells DH 'Let's go out and look at the car.' They go outside and he walks around the car in circles, surveying it from every angle. He asks about every ding and scratch. He looks inside, looks under the hood. Asks 'what comes with the car' and what will we do to it before we hand it over? Will we have it tuned up? Have the oil changed? How new are those tires? Do they come with a guarantee? If they have trouble with the tires, will I take the car to Costco and pretend we still own it, to take advantage of the warranty? It went ON AND ON- over a decent, FREE, car. He even wanted the license plates- and they were personalized! When he came back into the house he asked me if I found the title (we had just moved in and I hadn't found that box yet). When I said no - he YELLED at me and told me I needed to find it before he would take the car.  DH threw up his hands and said "You know what- forget it. This is more trouble than it's worth." I still can't believe that happened. |
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Post by sharlag on Aug 20, 2014 21:59:11 GMT
I'm SO glad he didn't give the jerk the car!!
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 20, 2014 22:00:34 GMT
That's awful! Glad you kept it! We donated a car once, it became a crazy hassle. The charity uses a company based five states away to pick cars, and their procedure was different than we'd been told to expect. DH said we should have left it in a parking lot with keys, jk
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Post by mountaingirl on Aug 20, 2014 22:01:33 GMT
But why put up with that kind of treatment that long to begin with?
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Post by sues on Aug 20, 2014 22:21:36 GMT
We didn't put up with it that long- and the length of time it went on wasn't because of them. DH was looking at cars and taking his time. We had a couple of conversations with his family member- and then the one with her DH at our BBQ. It wasn't anything long and drawn out.
ETA- the only reason DH didn't tell him 'forget it' when they were out looking at the car, was because he was trying to be patient for the sake of his family member. He didn't want to make things harder for her.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 22:29:35 GMT
I offered to help a single mom by watching her kid. She said she got paid through the state and explained how it worked. Turned out she lied. She told them I watched her daughter more than I did, and FORGED my name on checks. I guess when the checks came to her, both of us were supposed to sign. The one time I was glad I had a traditional name with creative spelling.  The investigator that came had me write my name a dozen times and not once did I print my name either.  Bit$! still owes me $40.00. |
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Post by Sweets McPea on Aug 20, 2014 22:36:27 GMT
See after that "Let us go out and look at the car" demand would take me out of help you mode and more into amuse me with your level of ridiculousness. Pretty sure your husband was right there.
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Post by sues on Aug 20, 2014 22:41:33 GMT
Pretty your husband was right there. I'm not sure what that means. It's not like they were out there for an hour. At first he thought the doof just wanted to see the car- like he was excited about it. The more he went on, the more annoyed DH became. By the time they came back in the house, I think DH was congratulating himself on his restraint. But when the doof yelled at me - that was the end of that. |
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Post by Sweets McPea on Aug 20, 2014 22:45:39 GMT
It's not a slam against your husband. I find your relative just so outrageous that a normal person would fold up their arms and find it all sorts of funny.
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Post by melanell on Aug 20, 2014 22:51:54 GMT
I'm pretty sure I have minor "no good deed goes unpunished" stories every month or so. Either I'm too much of a people pleaser or I have grabby folks in my life, or both.  |
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Post by jj on Aug 20, 2014 22:56:56 GMT
That's awful! Glad you kept it! We donated a car once, it became a crazy hassle. The charity uses a company based five states away to pick cars, and their procedure was different than we'd been told to expect. DH said we should have left it in a parking lot with keys, jk We donated a car once. I was so happy...until I got a bill for $200 in the mail. They were driving it on the toll roads and going through the tolltag lanes instead of the booth lanes. The toll company tracked it back to us by the license plate number. In the end, the toll company waived all the excess fees, but we still had to pay the tolls. |
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Post by compwalla on Aug 20, 2014 23:14:19 GMT
My cousin's son died of a drug overdose and she had no money to bury him so the family took up a collection. I sent in a check for as much as I could afford at the time (I think it was $250) and my aunt told me that at the actual funeral my cousin told everyone my check bounced. She said this (it wasn't true btw; that bitch cashed my check about five seconds after she got it) because she was mad about something that happened 20 years earlier, an incident I don't even remember that had something to do with planning a get-together. My aunt told me why my cousin was mad and I'm 99% sure it wasn't even me and she's just remembering it wrong. But she was butthurt about it enough to interrupt her child's funeral to lie about me to the family. Lovely.
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 20, 2014 23:17:53 GMT
Ugh..we have a car I was thinking about gifting. Seriously making me rethink it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 23:19:46 GMT
I recently bought something for someone, and was excited to give it to her. It was an old clock -- she started collecting old clocks when she took two of them from me when we were antique shopping together and bought them for herself. Anyway, I found this clock for her and gave it to her, and she gave it back to me saying it wasn't nice enough for her collection.  |
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 20, 2014 23:21:45 GMT
JJ that's awful, you had to pay even more!
Compwalla, people amaze me, what ugly behavior.
Eta because Ashley's clock story deserves same comment!
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 20, 2014 23:29:35 GMT
I had a customer whose house burned and she came to me to wash ans style her hair later that day cause it smelled like smoke and she had nothing to wash or style it. I fixed her a bag with shampoo, conditioner, styling products, brushes, combs, pony tail holders. I think I even gave her an old hair dryer. Later that day, my water lines clogged in the salon and caused a drain pipe to burst and made a huge mess. The plumber (and I use that term loosely) that the landlord sent to fix it was trying to dig up septic tank even though I told him it wasn't septic water and hit county water line. So I had no water coming in or going out! Not good in a hair salon.
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 20, 2014 23:33:01 GMT
I recently bought something for someone, and was excited to give it to her. It was an old clock -- she started collecting old clocks when she took two of them from me when we were antique shopping together and bought them for herself. Anyway, I found this clock for her and gave it to her, and she gave it back to me saying it wasn't nice enough for her collection. So RUDE! |
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 20, 2014 23:34:07 GMT
My cousin's son died of a drug overdose and she had no money to bury him so the family took up a collection. I sent in a check for as much as I could afford at the time (I think it was $250) and my aunt told me that at the actual funeral my cousin told everyone my check bounced. She said this (it wasn't true btw; that bitch cashed my check about five seconds after she got it) because she was mad about something that happened 20 years earlier, an incident I don't even remember that had something to do with planning a get-together. My aunt told me why my cousin was mad and I'm 99% sure it wasn't even me and she's just remembering it wrong. But she was butthurt about it enough to interrupt her child's funeral to lie about me to the family. Lovely. Wow! Good enough to take your money and then lie? Crazy! |
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 20, 2014 23:35:12 GMT
Reading about the Pea who gathered baby things for a family member in need got me thinking about 'no good deed goes unpunished'. I think everyone probably has at least one good story about this. Here's mine: A while back, DH was looking at new cars. His old car wasn't going to get us much in terms of a sale or trade in, so we decided to offer it to a family member, for free. She was financially strapped and definitely in need of a reliable vehicle. When we offered it to her, she was thrilled and said yes immediately. We told her we'd let her know when it was available. A few weeks later she told us she decided her husband needed the car more (Her on again, off again husband- they were always on the verge of divorce.) and she was going to give it to him, instead. DH was mad. He knew she was doing it because her DH pitched a fit and said he wanted the car. We would not have chosen to give the car to him. He was an ass that treated her and her kids badly. Plus- we were pretty sure he wasn't going to be around much longer, and it drove DH nuts thinking of the doof leaving with his car. Soon after this revelation, the family comes to our house for a BBQ (but they were not picking up the car). The husband comes in and tells DH 'Let's go out and look at the car.' They go outside and he walks around the car in circles, surveying it from every angle. He asks about every ding and scratch. He looks inside, looks under the hood. Asks 'what comes with the car' and what will we do to it before we hand it over? Will we have it tuned up? Have the oil changed? How new are those tires? Do they come with a guarantee? If they have trouble with the tires, will I take the car to Costco and pretend we still own it, to take advantage of the warranty? It went ON AND ON- over a decent, FREE, car. He even wanted the license plates- and they were personalized! When he came back into the house he asked me if I found the title (we had just moved in and I hadn't found that box yet). When I said no - he YELLED at me and told me I needed to find it before he would take the car. DH threw up his hands and said "You know what- forget it. This is more trouble than it's worth." I still can't believe that happened. I'm glad the jerk didn't get the car either. You probably would have heard from him long after giving him the car when something happened to it as it continued to be used. Sounds like you dodged a bullet on that one! |
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 20, 2014 23:47:17 GMT
Ugh..we have a car I was thinking about gifting. Seriously making me rethink it. Oops. I accidentally hit like instead of quote. We have donated two vehicles and my brother has donated one. It was easy peasy. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 20, 2014 23:58:48 GMT
I sent a friend who was hurting a gift, it was a handmade bracelet fro an etsy shop. It had a positive uplifting quote engraved on it. I knew it was shipped and a couple of weeks went by without acknowledgement. I called to see how she was doing and she mentioned she received it but that was it. We don't live in the same state. She visited a month ago and she did not wear the bracelet.
My feelings were hurt. Then the more I thought about it through the years, I've had struggles too and I can't think of one thoughtful or uplifting thing she has done for me. So, maybe it's time to reevaluate this relationship.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 21, 2014 0:12:54 GMT
my mom sent her niece's daughter a check for $100.00 for her junior high school graduation because she knew they didn't have much money. "someone" turned the number 1 on the $100.00 to a 4 and cashed the check for $400.00. when my mom got the cancelled check back and questioned her niece, the niece said that she didn't know who changed the number on the check and implied it arrived that way. my mom would never, could never, send $400.00 and it was so obvious on the cancelled check that it was altered. if she couldn't afford to pay it back, at least admit to it.
another time, my sister lent the same niece's daughter $300.00 because she called and said she needed the money (I know, stupid). my sister wasn't exactly rolling in the dough but she loaned the money out of courtesy to her 1st cousin (the girl's mom). well surprise surprise, the girl never paid it back. no apologies. no mention of it. I swear, that person has no shame or gratitude. I'm sorry, but she's on my sh^t list for what she did to my mom and sister.
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Post by Olan on Aug 21, 2014 0:26:15 GMT
I was sitting at a red light when I saw this lady collapse in her lawn. I ran over to her and when she started seizing I turned her to her side and tried to kick the sprinkler away. Her husband came running out of the garage and knocked me over. At first I thought it was concern for his wife and just a gut reaction thing but when the ambulance arrived (I called) he said he wanted me arrested because I attacked his wife. He hurled a couple racial slurs again came charging at me and tore the scarf I was wearing. Wet, humiliated and pissed I just waited in my car for the police to arrive. I'm guessing his wife had similar views so I wished I had just waited for the green light and made it to work dry and with my scarf intact.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 21, 2014 0:52:02 GMT
Olan, please don't think that way. I am horrified this happened to you. I bet you would not be able to live with yourself if you had actually driven away.
I will thank you right here and now for being a good Samaritan!
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Post by sues on Aug 21, 2014 1:26:31 GMT
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 21, 2014 1:39:28 GMT
Olan, please don't think that way. I am horrified this happened to you. I bet you would not be able to live with yourself if you had actually driven away. I will thank you right here and now for being a good Samaritan! Absolutely. My story isn't nearly as awful or as personal as you ladies' (your stories really make me wonder how some people sleep at nite) but for some reason it sticks in my craw. I was coming up to a red light and I could tell the car in front of me was hesitating as to which lane to get in. I assumed it was someone unsure of where they were going, so I hung back, allowing them enough room to make up their mind. The light was at the top of a hill, so it was difficult to see oncoming traffic. Car in front of me decides it's altogether wrong and begins making a u-turn. I've left them enough room to back up, but once they're sideways, they can't see the traffic coming the other way. I wave my arms and mouth "Stop!" so the woman won't pull into oncoming traffic and as she does (almost getting into an accident), she looks at me and sticks out her tongue. Really? It's not like I flipped her off or even blew my horn. Like I said, not personal, not the worst thing in the world but I was just like, why? People really can suck, lol. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 21, 2014 1:42:37 GMT
I was sitting at a red light when I saw this lady collapse in her lawn. I ran over to her and when she started seizing I turned her to her side and tried to kick the sprinkler away. Her husband came running out of the garage and knocked me over. At first I thought it was concern for his wife and just a gut reaction thing but when the ambulance arrived (I called) he said he wanted me arrested because I attacked his wife. He hurled a couple racial slurs again came charging at me and tore the scarf I was wearing. Wet, humiliated and pissed I just waited in my car for the police to arrive. I'm guessing his wife had similar views so I wished I had just waited for the green light and made it to work dry and with my scarf intact. I am so sorry this happened to you Olan you are such a sweet lady. |
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Post by hop2 on Aug 21, 2014 1:46:26 GMT
My cousin's son died of a drug overdose and she had no money to bury him so the family took up a collection. I sent in a check for as much as I could afford at the time (I think it was $250) and my aunt told me that at the actual funeral my cousin told everyone my check bounced. She said this (it wasn't true btw; that bitch cashed my check about five seconds after she got it) because she was mad about something that happened 20 years earlier, an incident I don't even remember that had something to do with planning a get-together. My aunt told me why my cousin was mad and I'm 99% sure it wasn't even me and she's just remembering it wrong. But she was butthurt about it enough to interrupt her child's funeral to lie about me to the family. Lovely. I think you told us this story on the bucket as it happened? Else there's more than one person who's done this as I've heard that exact story before. Lol |
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Post by JustTricia on Aug 21, 2014 1:48:23 GMT
The new priest at my parent's parish was hit broadside this weekend and his car flipped. A "Good Samaritan" came over to help, told the priest (I honestly don't know if he was in his collar or regular clothes) that he would call 911, and asked for his wallet so he'd have his name and address for 911. Proceeded to take the $200 from his wallet the priest was on his way to the bank to deposit from collections, handed him his wallet back, and took off.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 21, 2014 1:50:18 GMT
That's awful! Glad you kept it! We donated a car once, it became a crazy hassle. The charity uses a company based five states away to pick cars, and their procedure was different than we'd been told to expect. DH said we should have left it in a parking lot with keys, jk Never a good idea. As long as the car is on your name , you can be held responsible. We were actually questioned when a car we donated was used in a crime. The charity signed the car over to someone who never bothered to register the transfer! Thankfully, we had paperwork!! |
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The investigator that came had me write my name a dozen times and not once did I print my name either. 
Bit$! still owes me $40.00.
