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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2017 14:58:59 GMT
I found this section interesting in light of scrapping - especially telling our own stories, not just our children's stories. And even if we don't have children, how important it is to tell our own stories for our own sakes. "When children grow up with a strong understanding of their family’s history — where their grandparents grew up, what their parents’ childhoods were like — they have better coping skills and a stronger sense of mattering and belonging. Jamie Pennebaker, a psychologist at the University of Texas, has found that expressing painful memories can be uncomfortable in the moment, but improves mental and even physical health over time." www.nytimes.com/2017/04/24/opinion/sheryl-sandberg-how-to-build-resilient-kids-even-after-a-loss.html?smid=pl-share |
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 30, 2017 20:29:49 GMT
I guess because of my upbringing, I have a different view. Family history was huge, so big that I felt at times it was more important than what is happening now and dismissive of current circumstances. If your pioneer ancestor can walk across the plains, then surely you can get over your insignificant problems in school. They had to walk or they would die.  I hate to pull the but she's not the parent of a teenager card, but I will. I think what she is doing with her kids is amazing. Once adolescence begins, parents are generally no longer cool, they don't know what they are talking about,.... Then there's genetics. That's when it's good to know about family history. If there is a history of mental illness. I hope what she's doing works. Sometimes kids will still think they don't matter. ETA: I guess that's why I don't care about my story being told. I haven't done anything significant. I've had an average life. It's hard to think of something my kids can learn from me because I was raised with all the modern conveniences. It's hard to think of a good life lesson beyond the amusing stories of differences in cars, phones, music, etc... |
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Chinagirl828
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Post by Chinagirl828 on May 1, 2017 9:41:13 GMT
That was an interesting article, thanks for sharing it. I think she's doing a lot of great memory keeping with her kids and I particularly enjoyed reading about recording family and friends recalling memories of Dave, particularly so her kids can see their own memories vs the shared stories. This is a great reminder to include different viewpoints in our story telling.
I have read before of the links between knowing your family history and the increased sense of belonging. I recall some similar info around children who grow up with printed photos of themselves vs those who have only the digital images.
The piece about expressing painful memories is interesting given the sunshine and roses view of the world so many of us take in our albums. I know I am guilty of rarely scrapping anything of the harder times with only three pages coming to mind over 15 years of creating.
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Post by dasmith2 on May 1, 2017 10:18:56 GMT
The piece about expressing painful memories is interesting given the sunshine and roses view of the world so many of us take in our albums. I know I am guilty of rarely scrapping anything of the harder times with only three pages coming to mind over 15 years of creating. There are particularly painful memories I choose not to scrap, so I guess it just depends what kind of memories there is. I know it would be good therapy to get it out, but I have not scrapbooked my divorce and the difficulties of abuse. I scrap family albums and really those are for my kids. I wouldn't want them to see things like that. |
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Post by marg on May 2, 2017 0:22:20 GMT
The piece about expressing painful memories is interesting given the sunshine and roses view of the world so many of us take in our albums. I know I am guilty of rarely scrapping anything of the harder times with only three pages coming to mind over 15 years of creating. I have no problem recalling my painful memories or the hard times my family has been through, so I don't scrap that stuff. I don't want to relive it. I want to focus on the good things, the happy times, so that is what I scrapbook. I want my child to look through photos of his birthday parties and see what he did for activities and games, what cake he had, which friends were there. I want to remember Christmas with my big family and all of the food, presents, and laughter. That's the stuff I like to think about and remember, and pore over the photos of. I've lived through the hard times, I've discussed them as I was going through them with my husband, my parents, and my friends. I've thought about them at night, I've processed them in my own way, so I have no need to record them for the future. For instance, I'll do a scrapbook page about how strong my son is for having gotten through a horrible illness, but I won't record my fears or depression about it - I don't need to recall those feelings and he doesn't need to feel bad about how hard it was on me, because that shouldn't be his burden. |
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