Would you change your name back?

No, I would not! LOL! I don't have quite an unfortunate maiden name as that, but my name is rather unique. So, I kept my married name mainly because of my children. So I'd have the same last name as them. If I didn't have children in that marriage, I might have changed it back.

But no way would I have changed it back to Slutsky even if I didn't have children!

I'm going with a hard 'No' on that one.

That's a tough one.  I know for me, I feel like when a man asks you to marry him it is an honor and a privilege to be his wife, so I do feel like I should take his name. And when I divorced, I no longer felt honored or privileged to be his wife so I did not want his name.  It was the one thing I decided before anything else about my divorce was even decided.  I knew I wanted to change my name.  Luckily for me, neither name was terrible. 

On the flip side, I wonder if you were marrying a man with the name Slutsky.  Would you take his name?  Give it to your kids?  

If I had that as a maiden name, I'd have changed it at 18!

After a divorce, if I didn't want to keep the ex's name, I'd change mine to something else. Surely there's a nice, boring family name somewhere in the genealogy. (Or pick a random one!)

Millions of women change their last name every day. I don't see why it "has" to be only for marriage/divorce. If you have a last name you don't like, pick another one. It's no more of a hassle to change it because you dislike your last name than to do it because you got married.

FTR I never changed my last name, even when I got married 34 years ago. DH has a perfectly nice last name, but I never planned to change my name when I married.

It's not? For some reason, I thought there was a difference in fees/hassle.

It most states it IS a much bigger hassel the change it "just because"  They are set up for an easy change at adoption, marriage and divorce. But any other time is an expensive wad of paper work and public notification.

no, never, even if i hated my ex husband i would not go back to the old name unless that was even worse.

Definitely not! 

I did change my name after I got married, and though 'regret' is a strong word, if I were to do it over again I wouldn't have changed it at all. I had a somewhat unusual maiden name that leant itself to teasing as a kid, and really couldn't wait to lose it. Now, I think it's kind of cool. I have considered changing it back but there's really no reason to go through the hassle of it at this point. My dh knows I feel this way and he gets it. 

So, if I were marrying someone with the last name 'Slutsky', I definitely would not take it, and I'd not want to saddle my children with that name, either. The name I grew up with has nothing on that one! As someone who experienced a fair amount of name-related teasing and embarrassment, I would not want to put my children through that. But then again, the older I get the less bound I feel to the usual traditions. I don't think it's necessarily important that kids have their father's last name. They just need to have a last name. 

I would hope he would decide to take my name.   An aquaintance kept her last name and gave that to her children as her husband's last name isn't something she felt comfortable having (and they have girls, so it's really good that they don't have the dads last name).

This has nothing to do with this thread, but my husband's cousin and her husband kept their own last names.  They had 4 girls.

1st - mom's last name
2nd - dad's last name
twins - one has mom's last name and one has dad's last name

My name was normal and I'm leaning towards not changing it back. Too many of 'me' with my maiden name. Less than 10 of 'me' with my married name ( per google, FB & that website )

If my maiden name was not good I would not switch back!! Might have saved $$ to change it at 18 if it was that bad!

The recent thread here gave me somethings to think about like taking my maiden name back as a second middle name. Still pondering.

But definitely no slutskys or whoreskys or Butkis here, not even a Focker

No I would not have. I didn't want to change my name in the first place but DH was all butt hurt over it. If his name was weird or embarrassing I certainly would have stood my ground much better. He had no concrete reason he was just wanting me to change it and didn't care about my thought on how my professional degrees would not match my name. Looking back, it really should have been my fist red flag about how it all would go that he wouldn't even listen to my what I felt were valid reasons vs his just do what I want.

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Nope.

Absolutely not.  In fact, I would have been begging my family to change it from the very day I learned what it was. 

Bwahahaha!  No, more like Sluetske-Brown.  I'd change the spelling so no one would even want to deal with it and just call them Brown.