StephDRebel
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,666
Location: Ohio
Jul 5, 2014 1:53:49 GMT
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Post by StephDRebel on May 6, 2017 18:55:04 GMT
Argh, if nothing else they'd realize that they will never get away with anything because I've been there, done that, smoked the bowl, and got the t-shirt. On one hand, I'm glad they're not smart enough to outsmart me, but on the other...damn, step up your game!
Teenagers-evidence that hamsters are brilliant for eating their young.
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Post by Sam on May 6, 2017 19:03:08 GMT
Argh, if nothing else they'd realize that they will never get away with anything because I've been there, done that, smoked the bowl, and got the t-shirt. On one hand, I'm glad they're not smart enough to outsmart me, but on the other...damn, step up your game! Teenagers-evidence that hamsters are brilliant for eating their young. I bet at least one of your parents said the exact same thing some years ago!! It's one of the most predictable merry-go-rounds parents and children and children and parents get on!! You need a new T-shirt with a very obvious slogan so the get the message!
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 6, 2017 19:11:41 GMT
I'm parenting two teens right now. My dad was so strict and it just made me sneaky. I still got into every bit as much trouble as the next kid. My DH sometimes thinks I'm too permissive with my kids. Keep in mind his are younger than mine so he hasn't gone through it and he's a weekend visitation parent. But I just feel like kids do stupid stuff. My goal as a parent is to minimize the stupid. I don't over react and I don't over punish. Tonight is prom night. I just went in to discuss plans with DD and her boyfriend. My talk went something like this...if you plan to drink please don't drive. You can always call me for a ride. They assured me there will be a breathalyzer at the prom tonight and they are not planning to drink. And then I pulled DD aside and made sure she had some condoms. I know I'm not mother of the year but so far my kids are doing pretty well.
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Post by gar on May 6, 2017 19:34:59 GMT
They don't actually believe we were teenagers....honestly, they just don't:laugh:
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Post by littlemama on May 6, 2017 19:39:41 GMT
I'm parenting two teens right now. My dad was so strict and it just made me sneaky. I still got into every bit as much trouble as the next kid. My DH sometimes thinks I'm too permissive with my kids. Keep in mind his are younger than mine so he hasn't gone through it and he's a weekend visitation parent. But I just feel like kids do stupid stuff. My goal as a parent is to minimize the stupid. I don't over react and I don't over punish. Tonight is prom night. I just went in to discuss plans with DD and her boyfriend. My talk went something like this...if you plan to drink please don't drive. You can always call me for a ride. They assured me there will be a breathalyzer at the prom tonight and they are not planning to drink. And then I pulled DD aside and made sure she had some condoms. I know I'm not mother of the year but so far my kids are doing pretty well. We have always told ds that if he is going to drink he is to spend the night wherever he is, or call us to come get him. We've also told him to drink in moderation. He didn't follow that one on prom night, but the puking cured him of any urges to over-indulge since. Dh also pulled Ds aside before prom to be sure he had a condom. Ds patted his pocket and said "Dad, I'm always packing". Lol We need to be realistic about the things they may do and give them guidance. Sticking your head in the sand leads to drunk driving, binge drinking and teen pregnancy.
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StephDRebel
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,666
Location: Ohio
Jul 5, 2014 1:53:49 GMT
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Post by StephDRebel on May 6, 2017 20:07:18 GMT
I'm parenting two teens right now. My dad was so strict and it just made me sneaky. I still got into every bit as much trouble as the next kid. My DH sometimes thinks I'm too permissive with my kids. Keep in mind his are younger than mine so he hasn't gone through it and he's a weekend visitation parent. But I just feel like kids do stupid stuff. My goal as a parent is to minimize the stupid. I don't over react and I don't over punish. Tonight is prom night. I just went in to discuss plans with DD and her boyfriend. My talk went something like this...if you plan to drink please don't drive. You can always call me for a ride. They assured me there will be a breathalyzer at the prom tonight and they are not planning to drink. And then I pulled DD aside and made sure she had some condoms. I know I'm not mother of the year but so far my kids are doing pretty well. We're definitely on the same wavelength. We're very real with them and they know the only thing I'll likely lose my shot over is driving under the influence when they can easily stay over or call one of us. That wasn't today's situation thank goodness, but today we just had a reading case of the dumbs.
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Post by maryland on May 6, 2017 21:10:37 GMT
I'm parenting two teens right now. My dad was so strict and it just made me sneaky. I still got into every bit as much trouble as the next kid. My DH sometimes thinks I'm too permissive with my kids. Keep in mind his are younger than mine so he hasn't gone through it and he's a weekend visitation parent. But I just feel like kids do stupid stuff. My goal as a parent is to minimize the stupid. I don't over react and I don't over punish. Tonight is prom night. I just went in to discuss plans with DD and her boyfriend. My talk went something like this...if you plan to drink please don't drive. You can always call me for a ride. They assured me there will be a breathalyzer at the prom tonight and they are not planning to drink. And then I pulled DD aside and made sure she had some condoms. I know I'm not mother of the year but so far my kids are doing pretty well. We're definitely on the same wavelength. We're very real with them and they know the only thing I'll likely lose my shot over is driving under the influence when they can easily stay over or call one of us. That wasn't today's situation thank goodness, but today we just had a reading case of the dumbs. We have three teen daughters, and they really are great kids! So we trust them and they have a lot of freedom. They know that they could lose that freedom, and they don't want to, so that keeps them on track. And the thing that would make us the most upset is drinking and driving. We are much like you! They know that they can always stay over (same thing if they are too tired to drive) or call us for a ride, no questions asked.
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Post by Really Red on May 6, 2017 21:34:03 GMT
Argh, if nothing else they'd realize that they will never get away with anything because I've been there, done that, smoked the bowl, and got the t-shirt. On one hand, I'm glad they're not smart enough to outsmart me, but on the other...damn, step up your game! Teenagers-evidence that hamsters are brilliant for eating their young. Seriously, your post could not have come at a better time. My 16yo son... Well, enough said. I told him today that there world would stop being populated if kids came out teenagers instead of babies. He did not find that humorous at all.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 7, 2017 1:05:37 GMT
I'm parenting two teens right now Me too. Sometimes I really don't think they believe that I could have ever been a teen, or had the same thoughts they did,or did the same things.... Like I was born "old" or something.
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Post by 950nancy on May 7, 2017 1:54:54 GMT
We're definitely on the same wavelength. We're very real with them and they know the only thing I'll likely lose my shot over is driving under the influence when they can easily stay over or call one of us. That wasn't today's situation thank goodness, but today we just had a reading case of the dumbs. We have three teen daughters, and they really are great kids! So we trust them and they have a lot of freedom. They know that they could lose that freedom, and they don't want to, so that keeps them on track. And the thing that would make us the most upset is drinking and driving. We are much like you! They know that they can always stay over (same thing if they are too tired to drive) or call us for a ride, no questions asked. My youngest was practically perfect. We always said that if they ever needed a ride because of drinking we would give them one and there wouldn't be any consequences. I just wanted them safe. We went to all-inclusives that served our kids alcohol (since they were 14!) We tried not to make alcohol a big deal, but there is a lot of alcoholism in my family and they needed to know that. For prom, my son asked if he could stay at a friend's ranch (on 30 acres) and hang out with the guys. There would be drinking, but everyone was staying the night and keys would be locked up. It was so hard for me to say yes, but I did and it went fine. Later this month we are taking him to Vegas for his 21st birthday. He isn't a big drinker, so we will see how that goes. Kids try stupid things because most likely they are getting away with some of them. Not likely that we catch everything that they do. OP hugs to you on raising teens.
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Post by laureljean on May 7, 2017 1:56:39 GMT
You gotta admire their spirit, though!
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mlana
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by mlana on May 8, 2017 5:26:33 GMT
My kids never stood a chance, bless their hearts.
My little brother got into everything you could think of and then some. He ran my poor mom ragged.
When my son was little, I could pretty much guess his every move. He'd sneak off to do something forbidden and I'd be waiting there when he arrived. He's try to sneak out and I'd be waiting under the window. He got a ticket when he was 17 and I was waiting in the driveway when he got home ( I didn't know about the ticket, just happened to be outside, but he didn't know that!) I could tell by the look on his face he had done something wrong and I could see the ticket thru the window. To this day he is convinced I'm a member of the Mom Mafia - we have members EVERYWHERE! LOL
DD never even tried. She just told me what she wanted to do and asked what the punishment would be. She'd think about it, then tell me if she still going to do it. Damnedest kid! Luckily it was never anything awful, just things I'd preferred she not have tried. She took the punishment without complaint, though.
You'd think that, given the stinker he was growing up, my brother would have had karma get him back in the form of sons as hard to deal with as he was but, no, not him. His 3 boys are awesome. They said it was hard to get into trouble because usually their dad was right there in the middle of it with them. He's a great dad even though he's his boys favorite hang out buddy.
Marcy
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