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Post by ktdoesntscrap on May 7, 2017 13:38:22 GMT
No, I have a 17 yr old daughter who would love to go but due to missing so much school the last couple of years and having no energy for activities etc, due to illness, has no real friends left and nobody to go to prom with, not even girlfriends. So today is prom and she's hanging out at home with us. I made a nice dinner and in a bit we're going to watch some movies. It will have to do. Maybe next year I'm so sorry. I hope she has a better year next year. Being ill really sucks.
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Post by AnotherPea on May 7, 2017 13:41:35 GMT
Mine. She didn't want to go last year and I told her she had to this year. She's a senior. She put up a fuss a bit when her friends were starting prom chatter but I told her she didn't have a choice. I was forcing her to go. FORCING HER! Geez. Who has to force their child to do such things?
Hers was last night and she seemed to be having a good time. She still hasn't come home so it couldn't have been too bad.
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Post by tracyarts on May 7, 2017 14:18:23 GMT
I didn't want to go, but my overbearing mother browbeat me into it.
My school had a rule that you could only bring another student as your date. Didn't have to be another senior, just another student who was (at the time) currently enrolled and in good standing. Unless you were married. If you could produce a valid marriage certificate, you could bring your spouse.
My boyfriend had already graduated, so I couldn't have him as my date. I didn't want to go alone, it was a couples oriented event and the school didn't even sell single tickets.
But since it was my mom's shitshow, I let her pay for the tickets and the godawful formal dress and went with a few friends who didn't have dates either. I only stayed long enough to get the portrait my mom wanted of me in my dress, then bailed out of there, changed clothes in a fast food bathroom, and went to dinner and a dance club with my boyfriend.
I changed back into my dress before I went home and my mom was none the wiser. She got the prom experience expectation fantasy that she bought and paid for, and I didn't have to deal with actually enduring it. Win-win.
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Post by annie on May 7, 2017 14:31:29 GMT
Mine! Two of my kids were/are way into prom and the like. My middle kid (now a senior) has zero interest. Zero! Fine with me! I would never make her do something of this magnitude that she didn't want to do.
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Post by Rachel on May 7, 2017 16:17:28 GMT
My DS didn't go. He had no interest whatsoever. He's 29 now and doesn't cares in the least that he missed it. Dd was a completely different story.
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Post by myboysnme on May 7, 2017 20:58:48 GMT
I have two sons and neither went to prom. The younger one said he regretted not going after the fact. For a mom with a collection of prom scrapbooking stuff it kind of made me sad.
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Post by bc2ca on May 7, 2017 21:25:13 GMT
DD went to every school event and wouldn't have missed a Homecoming or Prom. She didn't care it she had a date or went with a group of friends, she loved every minute of the shopping, primping, dance and after events. DS only attends school events that involve rock music band competitions/shows. Dances are not his thing.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 7, 2017 21:32:32 GMT
I have a DD who is into all things school related. She goes to proms and homecoming and plays sports and is popular. She never lacks for a date. And I have a son who is a freshman this year who is her complete opposite. I am doubtful that he will ever want to go to a prom. And that's ok. As long as he doesn't have regrets I am fine with who he is.
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Post by tduby1 on May 7, 2017 22:51:56 GMT
My almost 18 yr old hates school and most things related. When he graduated you will probably all hear my with of relief no matter where you live! His "might as well be" girlfriend wanted him to go to prom and he didn't want to. She went with a friend. Prom is tonight and he is seeing pics and I think he secretly wishes he went! Especially since she is so beautiful! Anyone else's kid not want to go? My son is 18 and a senior. Their prom os JR/Sr. He didn't go to either. (Friday was this years). He lost his girlfriend over not going last year but he was upfront and honest with her over having no interest in going before they ever got together. I think she thought she could change his mind. He went to one school dance, his freshman year, and swore them off. He is heavily involved in athletics and all the athletes and all his friends go. Was told he was going to be nominated for homecoming court and prom court and refused the nominations. All of his friends love dances/ proms. It baffles me. The one dance he went to, the girl asked him with a big promposal and he accepted but they went with another couple, who ended up fighting and the girls paired off. DS ended up hanging out with some other friends but said the whole thing wasn't his thing. His girlfriend now, goes to a different school that only does SR proms. She is a JR. Much to our suprise he sis tell her he'd go to hers next year if she wanted but none of the other dances. They are more serious then the girl he was with last year.
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Post by my3freaks on May 7, 2017 22:59:40 GMT
I've got 2 that didn't go because they have no interest in dances or any of the outside of school activities. My son is 21 now and has no regrets about not going. He didn't hate school, and enjoyed his time there ok, but just didn't care about proms, or anything. My daughter is a senior and wouldn't have any part of it. She says she wouldn't go to graduation of she didn't have to, but her Grandparents are flying across country to be here for it, and it's been rough getting through these 4 years with her, I'm not missing out on seeing her walk! Graduation is non-negotiable, and she's never pushed it, so she doesn't really object to it. She would have carried on about it all year if she did. Mary Kay Lady My brother graduated 5 years before me, and one of his friends was at my junior prom because he was dating one of my classmates. It was super awkward. When I was in high school prom was our junior year and we had a senior semi-formal. I had a blast at prom, after prom, and that whole weekend actually, but I enjoyed all that stuff. I don't sweat it that my kids don't, they definitely take after their father that way!
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Post by tiffanytwisted on May 8, 2017 19:05:08 GMT
Probably going to get flamed for this but . . . my husband & are of the belief that the prom is meant for couples. And our boys are aware of our feelings. So when a good friend of my older son's asked him 3 months ahead of time if he wanted to go w/her as friends, he said no. I didn't forbid him, of course. Just didn't encourage. All worked out in the end because about a month later, he ended up dating a girl from another school. Would have been a little awkward for all concerned if he had gone to his prom w/someone else. They did end up going to her prom.
Younger son has no interest. He hasn't gone to any of the school dances, so that's probably the main reason, but he also subscribes to the family belief that it's a couple thing. Since there's no significant other in his life, he's not going.
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Post by Dalai Mama on May 8, 2017 19:10:53 GMT
Mine's not going. It's not that he hates school but he finds a lot of the traditional social stuff that goes along with it, ridiculous.
The kid's a cynic. Apple, tree, whatever.
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Post by iluvpink on May 8, 2017 20:13:36 GMT
No, I have a 17 yr old daughter who would love to go but due to missing so much school the last couple of years and having no energy for activities etc, due to illness, has no real friends left and nobody to go to prom with, not even girlfriends. So today is prom and she's hanging out at home with us. I made a nice dinner and in a bit we're going to watch some movies. It will have to do. Maybe next year My dd is in a teen/young adult support group for cancer patients. I am not assuming your DD has cancer, but maybe there is a group at her hospital for her illness. This group has the most amazing prom. It is way, way better than any prom at a typical high school. It has everything a typical prom has plus activities designed just for sick kids. There are lots of table games, i pads, roaming magicians, facing painting, etc...etc.. for patients that do not feel up to or can't dance. They have quiet rooms to rest and get away from the music. They have amazing themes and over the top decorations and even a red carpet walk in. They have foods, candies, dip n dots, you name it for the kids.. There are also celebrities.. NFL & NBA players, pro cheerleaders, TV personalities, etc...etc... etc.. that escort, take prom pictures, and hang out with the patients. They provide limos, dresses, tuxedos, shoes, jewelry, make-up and hair services to those who need it. The patients are sent home with a "swag bag" including their prom pictures already printed and framed. There are nurses and doctors there if needed. At her high school, after being diagnosed, she could not find a date for homecoming or prom (even though she was homecoming queen and on the prom court).. Nobody wants to go with the sick girl!! Many teens just can not handle the life/death fact of it all and just want to have fun and be oblivious to hard things like cancer. She had to take a girl cousin from another school to homecoming and SHE asked 2 or 3 boys to prom before finding a date. But at the prom for cancer patients.....they are all so supportive and just have a great time!!!! I hope you find something like this near you so she can have a prom next time. hugs to your DD.. Thank you. My daughter has a few different issues but the big one right now is juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. That's the main reason she's missed so much school but also type 1 diabetes, IBS and anxiety. This year and much of last year she's just had so many issues with pain and/or meds conflicting with one another and reactions to them. Her IBS was also REALLY bad until we figured out her food triggers. We do have something like that in our area but dd had no interest as she wouldn't know anyone or have anyone to take. HOWEVER she is actually doing something today! She's been Snapchatting with a girl from school. She's known her since 6th grade and they hung out a little in middle school and have sometimes sat together at lunch in high school. I've tried to encourage dd to hang out with this girl but she's been hesitant as though she likes this girl, the girl is EXTREMELY shy and quiet and dd has found it hard to have a conversation. However she says the girl is getting better, and they made arrangements today to take their dogs to a dog park. So it's something and I'm beyond thrilled. She is *knock wood* doing a lot better the last few weeks and I hope it continues. It's much easier for her to be social and put herself out there when she is feeling well. She also has ADHD and some mild learning issues that cause her to be a tad immature which I think makes it difficult. Plus she is not athletic and enjoys more solitary pursuits like reading, cooking, crafts etc that aren't so popular with high schoolers or at least don't lend themselves to meeting others who do. I hope your dd is doing better. Thank you for the encouragement.
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Post by Tamhugh on May 8, 2017 21:39:26 GMT
My oldest went to every formal/semi formal in high school and both of his proms. If he didn't have a girlfriend, he went with a friend. He loved them.
My youngest wanted nothing to do with them. He went to Homecoming freshman year with a large group of friends and hated it. His senior year, he was asked by a friend's sister to go to Homecoming as her date and he went, but was miserable. He did not go to either of his proms or any other dances. I was disappointed, but he was not, so it was all good.
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