Does anyone else hate Mother's Day?

I am sorry.

(ps why is her account attached to yours? How does that even happen without your permission?)

I don't 'hate' Mother's Day but since my mum passed away (1989) I have no joy celebrating it. 

When MIL was still with us we celebrated with her and I have DS who lives overseas so I don't see him but he will phone and DD lives local to me but is busy with her own three children - which I'm good with - the day just doesn't do anything except feel sad that my mum is not here. 

I will get through it as usual and Monday will be another day.

Hugs to all the mums, daughters, sisters that will celebrate Sunday. 

Yes I hate Mother's Day too. I don't recall ever feeling affection or love towards my mother, capped off by last year's admission that "yes I knew he was abusing you but I didn't say anything because he made our lives easier" stepfather. Trying to find the obligatory card in the sea of perfect, loving mother hallmark cards is virtually impossible. So for years I just sent flowers. Of course now she has moved to my area, and will most likely fill her Facebook with woe is me ungrateful daughter posts. Thankfully I've blocked her for almost a year, and will have spouse take the kids to take grandma a card and gifts and that will hopefully tide her over so she doesn't show up here.
I'd just like a quiet day at home, I don't like to disparage holidays as "Hallmark" or fake, there are special meanings and history behind them. I think when relationships struggle year round though, special events often amplify the disconnect. And for someone who has a love language of quality time or gifts especially, other people's lack of effort or thought can be especially painful.
Oh my MIL will be upset that spouse doesn't send a card or anything, she will either call him or have FIL angry call him. They haven't made an effort to see him in 8 years, not even before/after multiple Afghanistan deployments or when I reached out for their help during a medical crisis. But he darn well better be an obliging son on Motger's Day--and he won't, so she will blame me. Yeah he's a thoughtless gift giver, trained up by you, not my job to cover for him or try to retrain a grown ass adult.
My sister is struggling with infertility and multiple miscarriages, and the day will be painful for her as well.

I'm sorry. That sucks and I get it. Hugs.

I love that idea!

I wouldn't say I hate it, but I'm not hung up on it either. I've actually told my husband I don't want/need anything. If the kids want, a bouquet of grocery store flowers will do just nicely. I appreciate anything they do, but I'm not really "attached" to this particular holiday. I know my dh will make a nice steak dinner for us tomorrow and I'll "relax" a bit. I'm sorry you're disappointed and sad about Mother's Day. I hope your family surprises you.

I'm the daughter of a good mom and the mom of great daughters.

But I still get what you mean about the happy-happy served up as the norm when in fact there is much heartache around motherhood and daughterhood for many.

Try to find some joy in the day and with your kids - in whatever way you can. Accept the good and the shortcomings in us all.

I'm sorry...it sucks to be disappointed by those that we do so much for. It's never very predictable at my house, either, and some years I really struggle with that.

Mother's Day is a day because somebody decided to make it a day and put it on the calendar. Personally I think there are WAY TOO many of these made up days and people get WAY TOO bent out of shape if expectations aren't met. Celebrate or don't, but for heaven's sake please don't base your motherhood on whether or not your children did enough to recognize the day with you.

I don't love or hate Mother's Day. I don't deserve to be honored. All my kids have issues. I prefer to celebrate my mom and try to forget about my messed up family.

I think we all deserve to be honored. No little baby came into this world to mess it up.  But stuff happens and things can go badly.  Still, I think we deserve honor.

I honor you. I am glad you are here.

You deserve honor and respect! Be gentle on yourself! We are all just doing to best we can.

Call me crazy but I thought the idea of your one DD coming over to make breakfast was actually sweet. It shows she is making time for you when in fact she could have totally blown you off. Idk maybe I'm looking at the best in this situation and there is more to the story.

I like Mother's Day because I fought like hell to become a mom and for so long this day was a reminder of what I couldn't have. I am lucky enough to have a DH who spoils me with little indulgences like hot coffee and a sleep in. I don't really care about gifts.

My mother and MIL will get a card and a phone call (we live far away). Its a gesture. I'm happy to recognize their roles and thank them for being instrumental in our childhoods. If they would like more than that then I feel their spouses can do that. If I lived closer, I would try to go for lunch or a pedicure with my mom. To be honest, I need this holiday more than them. I'm in the season of raising tiny, demanding humans. I need a break and a pat on the back more than they do right now.

Your post comes uncross pretty angry. If my mom was judging how I spent my time and money the way you are, I'd probably give up. If the gestures I made were ridiculed or rejected because they weren't the right ones I would stop trying. Trying to read someone's mind and give them precisely the right kind of affection is exhausting. Look for the good. If you can't appreciate the good parts of who they are and the little efforts that they do make then you'll always be disappointed.