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Post by peachiceteas on Jul 22, 2017 16:54:30 GMT
Okay, potentially a weird question, or one people might find odd, but there must be people out there like me, surely?! I have a slight fear (for a lack of a better word) for telling people about my hobby and love for scrapbooking. The only people who know I scrap besides my partner, parents, parents in law (my MIL is a crafter too) is my best friend. I bought my house a year ago and I have a dedicated scrap space but when people come around to visit, I brush off my craft room as 'my office'. I don't have much out in my room apart from a few supplies and nobody has questioned them yet. I seem to be too afraid to tell people that I scrapbook, even though these people feature in some of my pages! I think the fear stems from potentially being judged for something that other people find lame, but I really love. And I never want to be made to feel uncool for something I really enjoy. My two close friends visited me today, and I couldn't find it in me to mention about how my office is actually a craft space and potentially show them my albums if they asked. Even though I documented one of their wedding days in my project life! Anyone else like me, or do I happen to be some sort of secretive odd ball?
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 22, 2017 17:05:47 GMT
I understand your question. I have two sets of friends in this way. One group that shares the love of paper goods, and another that are regular friends (work, parenting, etc).
Some of my regular friends scrapbook, and understand saving a ticket or item to include in a book. Our kids are the same age, born during the boom years of social gatherings and crops. We don't really talk about it though.
My regular crop group is suffering from attrition, moves and changes in families or work has diminished the group, but we still plug away, just not as often. We don't have a lot in common other than our love of the hobby but they're nice women to spend time. The ones who were intent on teaching or being "known" have drifted on to other pursuits, so it's more peaceful now.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 22, 2017 17:13:34 GMT
Once in a while, I feel like people are judging my choice. I have had a relative say she wishes she had time to scrapbook. Her daughter has also mentioned several times she wishes she could make books for her kids. But other than a rare few cases, no one says much. If anyone looks at my books, they do like them and have specific comments why. I guess I don't worry about it much. I wouldn't hide it, OP. Let your paper freak flag fly!
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Post by msliz on Jul 22, 2017 17:18:06 GMT
I keep it to myself too, because I know there are people in my life who will judge me. To make it even worse, I'm a SAHM. To be unemployed and enjoying a hobby is the ultimate in sloth, so yes, I definitely keep it to myself.
I might sometimes tell someone I work on my photo albums, because they can relate to those words, but I would never use the word scrapbook. And I don't have a scrap room. Instead, *we* have a *craft* room. And actually, that's becoming more of a true statement recently as my DDs have invaded the room to work on their own projects.
So, yeah, scrapbooking is my dark shameful secret, but my DH and kids think it's awesome and their opinions are the ones that matter to me.
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Post by justjac on Jul 22, 2017 17:20:00 GMT
If hobbies comes up in conversation, I mention it. I keep hoping to find people who always wanted to scrapbook that I can "convert" and thereby increase my number of scrappy friends. I show my albums to family and friends. It helps that my husband has his own hobby (model trains) and totally gets it.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 22, 2017 17:20:04 GMT
No everyone knows I don't give a shit what any think of my stash etc. Hubby's spends 10s of thousands on hunting trips they can judge me all they want. I'm sure his beotch of a mom judges me alot I hope it irritates her lol.
I think most are puzzled over the amount of crops I go to and how far I travel for them.
I say mind your own business lol.
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Post by grammadee on Jul 22, 2017 17:41:27 GMT
Like justjac , I bring it up if people are discussing hobbies, and certainly attempt to start a side conversation later with anyone else in the group who mentioned scrapbooking as a hobby. I have found that someone saying they scrapbook does not mean the same to scrapbooker. Some do only PL, some do really fancy many layered pages worthy of the scrapbook hall of fame; some use the same system they learned from CM days, feel proud that they are doing the job of the family historian, and kind of look down on the artsy people. I like to tell stories, and I use my scrapbooks for that. I also love the creative release it gives me. Non scrappy friends often save me things like tickets and programs to put in my books. My dh doesn't really get having a hobby, but he tolerates mine because he gets the need for tools and supplies, and he has seen the reactions of kids and grandkids to their pages. This year he has been suggesting photos for the family calendar. I ignore any comments from friends or relatives about "I wish I had that much time on my hands", or "that seems like a waste of a lot of money". To each his own.
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Post by mom on Jul 22, 2017 17:44:50 GMT
I keep it to myself too, because I know there are people in my life who will judge me. To make it even worse, I'm a SAHM. To be unemployed and enjoying a hobby is the ultimate in sloth, so yes, I definitely keep it to myself.
I might sometimes tell someone I work on my photo albums, because they can relate to those words, but I would never use the word scrapbook. And I don't have a scrap room. Instead, *we* have a *craft* room. And actually, that's becoming more of a true statement recently as my DDs have invaded the room to work on their own projects. So, yeah, scrapbooking is my dark shameful secret, but my DH and kids think it's awesome and their opinions are the ones that matter to me. My thoughts, exactly.
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Jul 22, 2017 18:04:23 GMT
I'm so averse to discussing it with people outside of my immediate circle that even when I hear people say they scrapbook (or infer from something they say that that's what they mean) that I convince myself that I surely must have heard them wrong. It has a stigma around it. When I worked at M's, I just thought it was ridiculously expensive and didn't see the appeal...but I still think the outside world sees it as an old fuddy duddy's hobby (Grandmas pitching an idea on Shark Tank even made fun of the hobby saying they weren't just going to sit around and scrapbook just because they were old ladies and grandmas). I certainly KNOW better given the younger crowd who are bigger names in the industry, but it's still there. Considering nothing I ever do or have an interest in is considered 'trendy' or 'in fashion' it's just one more thing that I do that makes it so I don't fit in. Now, if I said I was a planner, that would probably be the exact opposite of what the general public thinks of scrapbooking...so of course, I have no interest, lol.
If I DO mention it, I say I'm a memory keeper, not a scrapbooker. Somehow, I feel like rebranding my hobby makes it sound less like the stereotypes.
But, I love it. My kids love to look at the photos spread out on my desk as I'm working on a project and point out who they know and where they were if they remember or recognize the destination. My husband is supportive of it and sees the value (even if that opinion was before my space became the overflowing hoard of stuff that it is now). I just don't need to hear what strangers think if their opinion is that I'm wasting my time.
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Post by peachiceteas on Jul 22, 2017 18:17:03 GMT
I keep it to myself too, because I know there are people in my life who will judge me. To make it even worse, I'm a SAHM. To be unemployed and enjoying a hobby is the ultimate in sloth, so yes, I definitely keep it to myself. I might sometimes tell someone I work on my photo albums, because they can relate to those words, but I would never use the word scrapbook. And I don't have a scrap room. Instead, *we* have a *craft* room. And actually, that's becoming more of a true statement recently as my DDs have invaded the room to work on their own projects. So, yeah, scrapbooking is my dark shameful secret, but my DH and kids think it's awesome and their opinions are the ones that matter to me. I am so glad to know I am not alone. My partner is so supportive of it, and he enjoys looking through my albums more than he lets on. That's all I need - his approval and interest. I completely agree with the 'photo album' sentiment. A friend at work asked why I order so much photo paper and ink from Amazon, I told her it's for my photo albums. I got a 9x12 album delivered to work too, she asked what it was, I told her a photo album. She said that I am 'so good' for continuing to print out my photos as nobody bothers anymore. That worked for me, I didn't feel the need to continue and let her know about all the paper and stickers that go with it.
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Post by breetheflea on Jul 22, 2017 18:18:21 GMT
I keep it to myself too, because I know there are people in my life who will judge me. To make it even worse, I'm a SAHM. To be unemployed and enjoying a hobby is the ultimate in sloth, so yes, I definitely keep it to myself. I might sometimes tell someone I work on my photo albums, because they can relate to those words, but I would never use the word scrapbook. And I don't have a scrap room. Instead, *we* have a *craft* room. And actually, that's becoming more of a true statement recently as my DDs have invaded the room to work on their own projects. So, yeah, scrapbooking is my dark shameful secret, but my DH and kids think it's awesome and their opinions are the ones that matter to me. We might be related...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2017 18:53:02 GMT
If they ask. Very few do. Even if they come to my house and see my room, all the albums or even go in my room and sit on the couch, very few people ask. We have bible study group here every week and the room where we meet is full of albums in baskets and no one has commented on them. I don't ask people about their hobbies either, though, so I guess it's something that doesn't come up between casual friends. My family is very supportive, though.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 22, 2017 18:54:59 GMT
Yes I tell people that I scrapbook. And I have found that most people are actually pretty awed by it. They may not ever chose to do it for themselves but they can appreciate how I've taken care to document our life.
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Post by jamiebohbamie on Jul 22, 2017 19:12:27 GMT
I don't have an issue casually mentioning it but I don't really bring it up often with people. We did recently start a monthly craft night and I was shocked by how many of the women were interested in taking up the hobby. It's encouraged me to be more open about it on our event page (Facebook) and to be more excited to share with them when I get new products. As for other people, I'm not sure they all understand what scrapbooking really is so I just don't usually mention it.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 22, 2017 19:25:56 GMT
jamiebohbamie that's cool, you're helping the hobby grow. msliz I laughed a little reading your post about SAHM and sloth hobby. No one raises an eyebrow at my friends who must spend way more on their weekly golf or tennis coaches and leagues. It must be because they come away with better looking shoulders and biceps.
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Post by dancingwithpaper on Jul 22, 2017 19:41:37 GMT
Oh my gosh, yes this is me! I never, ever tell people I scrapbook (I usually say I "paint," which is also true but not the whole truth) except for one friend who also likes to craft. She's the only one who's seen my albums as well. I think the shame is in part the amount of money I spend--of course, other people spend similar amounts on make-up or video games or concerts (none of which I do), so that shouldn't really matter, but still. I'm also in my mid-20s so the number of people my age who also scrapbook is slimmer than in other age groups. And then there is the one judgmental comment made by my mom years ago which has stuck with me, "are you just going to keep making albums? what are you going to do with them when you're done?" I wish that I didn't care what people think of this hobby of mine, but I do... and I would rather not have them poo-poo it or question it. So I keep it to myself and enjoy my time alone.
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Post by PaperAngel on Jul 22, 2017 20:07:56 GMT
I rarely talk about myself, but have no problem listing scrapbooking as a hobby when it comes up in conversation. Every page is made with love for our son. Also a SAHM, I'm neither ashamed nor concerned with anyone's opinion of how I chose to spend my time.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 22, 2017 21:11:48 GMT
I do bring it up when hobbies come into the conversation and most of my friends know I scrapbook. People at work also do because that's where I have all my parcels delivered
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 22, 2017 21:19:30 GMT
I keep it to myself too, because I know there are people in my life who will judge me. To make it even worse, I'm a SAHM. To be unemployed and enjoying a hobby is the ultimate in sloth, so yes, I definitely keep it to myself.
I might sometimes tell someone I work on my photo albums, because they can relate to those words, but I would never use the word scrapbook. And I don't have a scrap room. Instead, *we* have a *craft* room. And actually, that's becoming more of a true statement recently as my DDs have invaded the room to work on their own projects. So, yeah, scrapbooking is my dark shameful secret, but my DH and kids think it's awesome and their opinions are the ones that matter to me. My thoughts, exactly. First of all, mom, is that your dog? How adorable is that picture... and secondly, your hobby isn't just about you, it is preserving your family memories and experiences. Pictures saved on a cell phone just aren't the same thing. I am glad you both have supportive families, but I wish you didn't feel that way about what you love to do. Who the flip is to say what you do when you are a stay at home mom? Please tell people who try to make you feel this way to suck it. .
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 22, 2017 21:23:12 GMT
My friends/acquaintances who scrapbook love to bring their SO to my scrap room to show them what a "collector" really looks like. Each time they say they aren't a s bad as I am, and then I point out that my husband has a boat and the docking fees per month cost more than what I pay for my hobby. Conversation ended. It is a win-win.
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Post by jtmom on Jul 22, 2017 21:29:02 GMT
I keep it to myself, anytime I have ever mentioned it to someone I seem to get a negative reaction unless they do it too.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 22, 2017 21:45:19 GMT
I tell them. I don't have any shame in doing something I enjoy. I've only had a few people laugh and then I ask them what their hobbies are. That kind of sobers them up.
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Post by mom on Jul 22, 2017 22:01:52 GMT
First of all, mom, is that your dog? How adorable is that picture... and secondly, your hobby isn't just about you, it is preserving your family memories and experiences. Pictures saved on a cell phone just aren't the same thing. I am glad you both have supportive families, but I wish you didn't feel that way about what you love to do. Who the flip is to say what you do when you are a stay at home mom? Please tell people who try to make you feel this way to suck it. . Ha! Yes! This is my dog, Roscoe!
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Post by Elsabelle on Jul 22, 2017 22:02:57 GMT
I haven't had many negative reactions when I've mentioned scrapbooking. Some blank stares maybe but no negative comments. Although, I guess I don't talk about it that much because I assume people don't want to hear about it. I've been surprised by how many of my friends have either said they've tried it but I got the sense they didn't know how to really get into it so they gave up. One friend scrapbooks regularly and her face lights up when she talks about it. It's really sweet. One of my friends has bought supplies but says she has no time. I know her well enough to know she has time to watch telenovelas. I don't feel any judgement about that. It's just that we all choose what we want to spend our time doing. I have almost zero interest in tv.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 22, 2017 22:27:55 GMT
I do tell people when they ask about my hobbies and interests, or if they ask about my weekend plans, etc. I just say, I love scrapbooking and I do it as often as I can. If someone doesn't know what it is I say I put my photos, memorabilia and journalling all together in albums.
Anyone who knows me more than by site knows that about me if they know anything at all. People who really know me will save things for me, especially memorabilia.
My mom was watching my friend and I go through our purchases from CKC and she got so overwhelmed she had to leave the room. She said, "Now what do you do with all that?" She knows I scrapbook and she even has her entire childhood scrapbooked, but she just could not fathom how I could possibly use all I had bought.
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Post by FurryP on Jul 22, 2017 22:34:13 GMT
I feel the exact same way OP. That is why I never say scrapbook, I say that I do papercrafting, because really, that is what I do. I also enjoy making cards, stamping, mini albums, home decor, almost anything with pretty paper.
But still I only say this to a close circle of people. I don't feel judged by them and I don't have to explain to them that I have time for this because I make time for it. Much like they make time for sitting on the couch to watch sports, or shopping at the mall.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 22, 2017 23:09:25 GMT
No.
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Post by kelly8875 on Jul 22, 2017 23:23:14 GMT
All my people know I scrapbook. Why would i not tell them? That's who I am, so unless I'm ashamed of it why keep it a secret? I don't think anyone judges me for it, and if they do, I don't care. It's my hobby, my thing. My time, my money. My memories.
Sure, I've had people in my life not understand it....until they see some of my work. Like my BF for example... he had no idea what it was, what it means to me. Then I made a small book of his fishing and gave it to him. Waterworks...he was instantly crying. No one had ever taken the time to record his life for him. He totally gets it now, and never complains when I'm taking pictures.
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Post by scrappyem on Jul 22, 2017 23:40:40 GMT
Reading through some of these, I feel lucky my friends, coworkers and my partner is so supportive. Most of my friends & my boyfriend love looking at my albums because they see photos of stuff we've all done together and think it's really cool. I tell my clients sometimes since work is a big part of my every day life and I'll include them in photos for my albums. So pretty much everyone knows I'm going to want pictures so I can scrap them. I'm the crafty person in the office, so I get to help with birthday decorations and that sort of thing which is fun. I often encourage others to at least try the Project Life app and/or print photo books so they'll have something physical in their hands. I've converted a couple to our team. I do think it's weird our hobby gets judged more than say quilting or fly fishing. And as others have pointed out, our hobby is significantly less expensive than many other hobbies out there in the world. I still remember an episode of Paperclipping Round Table when Izzy was like Noelle will never spend as much on an scrapbooking order as I do on a single piece of video equipment.
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Post by pancakes on Jul 22, 2017 23:43:04 GMT
I'm in my late 20s so i really don't know people who share my hobby. I'm a big crafter in general. However, I don't mind telling people.
They either think it's cool and I'm super creative OR they think I'm an old lady. And I don't care if they do.
No one's ever been so judgey, though, to say condescending things. I'm sure that day will come, but I'm more than happy to throw it right back.
My close friends and husband think it's cool (some more than others).
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