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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 25, 2018 5:37:53 GMT
Loved the update. I am excited for Spencer! Please take the meds.
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Jul 25, 2018 7:20:12 GMT
What a roller coaster you have been on. Please don’t apologise for not posting sooner, although we are concerned and love updates you don’t have any obligation.
The group home sounds wonderful. I really hope that is works out because it sounds like a wonderful opportunity for Spencer.take care of yourself too x
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Post by wellway on Jul 25, 2018 7:40:15 GMT
Good to hear from you but don't make updating us another thing to worry about. Great to see Spencer out and about and enjoying himself.
The new opportunity sounds great, I hope it works out for you all.
You have been under stress for such a long time that it it no surprise that you are out of sorts now. Be so kind to yourself, always pick sleep when you have the option. ((hugs))
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Post by scrappintoee on Jul 25, 2018 7:42:03 GMT
What a WONDERFUL update about Spencer !!! I'm sending up prayers that things will continue to go well for him, AND---that YOU will get the much-deserved help you need for your depression, PTSD, sleep issues, etc! Many ((( hugs ))))
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 25, 2018 9:57:48 GMT
What a great update.
I so hope Spencer getting into the group home goes quickly and smoothly. It sounds like a fantastic fit for him.
Love the pic of him at the mall. He has such bright, happy eyes.
And so many ((((Hugs)))) to you. You've had to deal with so much for so long. I will echo for you to continue to make yourself a priority, and continue to take your meds, even though you don't really want to. You deserve to be healthy.
Thank you for updating us. Don't worry about the time between updates. We post, to let you know we are thinking of you, and to give you support. We don't expect replies on demand.
And lastly, I'm happy that you have your hands back in your photos of your boys. It can be therapeutic to have a hobby or project to work on.
You are a wonderful mother. We are all so proud of you.
Big (((((Hugs)))))
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Post by valincal on Jul 25, 2018 10:23:24 GMT
Thanks for the update! Looks like good things are in store for Spencer! Now, take care of yourself and please don’t feel any stress or guilt whatsoever if you aren’t up to posting here. Big hugs.
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Post by grammadee on Jul 25, 2018 11:35:14 GMT
Thanks for the update. Fingers crossed that all goes well for Spencer’s funding and transfer to the group home.
Hopefully knowing things are moving ahead for Spencer will help you as well. Your fatigue is very understandable with all the stress of the past year. Hoping the scrapbooking is good therapy, too.
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Post by peace on Jul 25, 2018 11:45:10 GMT
hugs and love to you- and Spencer. Brighter days ahead.
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Post by mom on Jul 25, 2018 12:10:36 GMT
Thank you for the update!! I'd say things are moving in the right direction!
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 25, 2018 12:23:10 GMT
Great update on Spencer. But, Kathy, you MUST take care of yourself at the same time.
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Post by purplebee on Jul 25, 2018 13:50:27 GMT
Great news about Spencer - thanks for the update, we were worried. Hope you can find some additional help for yourself, you deserve some TLC. Hugs...
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Post by kels99 on Jul 25, 2018 14:37:28 GMT
Spencer looks great! I love that you got to take him out a bit. I'm sure he'll get less anxious about trips as time goes on.
The group home sounds like a great opportunity and I can tell how relieved you are to have a plan set up.
As others have said, please take care of yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but you have been through so much stress the last year, give yourself some time to heal and relax. It's ok.
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jul 25, 2018 16:00:22 GMT
As many have said, Spencer looks terrific!!!! I'm so happy things are going in such a positive and life affirming direction for him. As you alluded, this does appear to have a silver lining which is wonderful.
I'm sorry everyday life for you is still so difficult. Everything you are doing is so much beyond the day to day life and I really pray you get a chance to find peace with it all and move to a better phase of life soon. I feel you are brave for seeing a therapists. I need to see one about several life-altering situations with my children and I can't get past the idea that I will just be a crying mess and not be able to articulate my feelings and thoughts. I will work on being strong enough like you to accomplish that.
Please don't feel you have to post when you don't feel like it. That is totally understandable. I was just wanting to make sure that things hadn't taken a bad turn. The peas can be very uplifting in times like these. Please take care of yourself.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 25, 2018 16:59:54 GMT
So relieved that you came here and updated us. We were worried about you and Spencer!
The group home sounds wonderful! I am looking forward to reading updates when he gets in there!
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Jili
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Post by Jili on Jul 25, 2018 17:03:16 GMT
He looks so much better! I think this group home is a fantastic opportunity for him and I hope that all goes smoothly in terms the application/funding process. Hang in there!!!
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Post by kikitwo on Jul 26, 2018 1:11:09 GMT
It's so great to hear from you regarding Spencer. I hope everything goes well you all of you.
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scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Jul 26, 2018 1:32:55 GMT
Thank you for the update. Please don't apologize when you need a break. We all care and we will all be here when you want to talk. With everything you're going through it is perfectly understandable. Just please take care of yourself.
And Spencer looks great!
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Post by theshyone on Jul 26, 2018 2:02:20 GMT
Your update made me cry. I completely understand the roller coaster of emotions our special kids give us.
My ICD surgery is sept 28 at foothills, maybe you and spencer won't even be there.
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Post by ntsf on Jul 26, 2018 2:29:32 GMT
hugs and hugs.. we all think of you and don't mind waiting for an update.. we should not be a burden.. (or an expectation).. take care of yourself.
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Post by teddyw on Jul 26, 2018 2:35:57 GMT
Wow so glad for your update. Hugs!
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 28, 2018 3:34:15 GMT
As many have said, Spencer looks terrific!!!! I'm so happy things are going in such a positive and life affirming direction for him. As you alluded, this does appear to have a silver lining which is wonderful.
I'm sorry everyday life for you is still so difficult. Everything you are doing is so much beyond the day to day life and I really pray you get a chance to find peace with it all and move to a better phase of life soon. I feel you are brave for seeing a therapists. I need to see one about several life-altering situations with my children and I can't get past the idea that I will just be a crying mess and not be able to articulate my feelings and thoughts. I will work on being strong enough like you to accomplish that.
Please don't feel you have to post when you don't feel like it. That is totally understandable. I was just wanting to make sure that things hadn't taken a bad turn. The peas can be very uplifting in times like these. Please take care of yourself. Thank you so much!! Please seek the therapy I can say with no doubts that it has helped me so much in not only dealing with the stress of the past year but also with my relationship with my husband and other kids. Gosh as far as the crying in front of the therapist goes I do a lot of it but I find it cleansing and she has helped me so much. They are great at getting to the root of stuff even thru the tears! I hope my story and experience will give you the encouragement to contact a therapist you won't regret it. I hope you are able to mend the issues with your kids.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 28, 2018 3:37:52 GMT
Your update made me cry. I completely understand the roller coaster of emotions our special kids give us. My ICD surgery is sept 28 at foothills, maybe you and spencer won't even be there. Awe thank you and yes they sure do! Please text me as the date gets closer even if he is out by then I would love to come visit you if you would like!
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 28, 2018 15:33:13 GMT
Glad to read your update, Spencer looks great! It's nice to see him in a setting outside the hospital. Take care of yourself.
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Post by jenn on Jul 28, 2018 15:46:41 GMT
So glad to read the update! How's your grand baby doing?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2018 15:55:21 GMT
Thank you for the update canadianscrappergirl. Don’t ever feel bad about needing a break. We peas give a gentle nudge sometimes because we care and Spencer, you and your family are often in our thoughts and prayers. I’m excited for Spencer and this new facility. Keeping fingers crossed that it’s all smooth sailing from here. Good luck on your upcoming surgery theshyone. Post before so we can be sure to send P&PT for an uneventful surgery and quick recovery.
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Post by katlaw on Jul 28, 2018 15:59:32 GMT
As I sat in that room I thought maybe this is why. If this hadn't happened he'd still be at home isolated and living a life so not in tune with what he needed. Last summer before this happened we saw how isolated he was becoming. He was becoming more and more withdrawn. Living where we are we would never have had a chance at a home in Calgary. Thanks for the update. Spencer looks great, love that picture at the mall. I highlighted this part of your post to mention something similare happened to a dear friend of mine. Her sister had a brain injury at birth. When we were all kids she was one of the kids but once everyone grew up she had less opportunities for interaction and became very isolated at home. Her parents had an opportunity to move her into a group home and even though they were frightened of giving her care over to someone else they did it. And it turned out amazing. She had such a great life with her new friends. This group home in Calgary sounds like it will be so wonderful for Spencer. And you can enjoy visiting him and not worrying as much about him. Take care of yourself Kathy. Don't worry about checking in or typing an update, do what you need to do. We are always here for you.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 28, 2018 16:01:16 GMT
Spencer has come so far since this whole thing started. That he has a place to go to that will be so supportive with people he can enjoy is a really positive thing. If you don't like your med side effects work w/your doctor to play w/the dosage or find meds that you can tolerate. That's an important part of your self-care. If you're not crazy about your new therapist can you switch to someone else? I don't know how that works with your healthcare system. Don't wait on this stuff. You need the release and the support.
Yay for Spencer as he improves. It sucks that he may not be able to eat solids, but he'll handle it well, because he's a strong and amazing young man. He's come so far. I'll think good thoughts that he gets the housing and is happy in his new home.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 29, 2018 0:58:10 GMT
So glad to read the update! How's your grand baby doing? Thank you! She's doing really well! She had a bad fever a few weeks ago and had to stay in the hospital for a few days and had an IV there was a concern it was meningitis but thankfully it wasn't! My son is bringing her and his fiancee out for a short visit at the end of August I'm so excited to finally meet her!! Spencer is really looking forward to meeting her too!
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 29, 2018 1:05:19 GMT
As I sat in that room I thought maybe this is why. If this hadn't happened he'd still be at home isolated and living a life so not in tune with what he needed. Last summer before this happened we saw how isolated he was becoming. He was becoming more and more withdrawn. Living where we are we would never have had a chance at a home in Calgary. Thanks for the update. Spencer looks great, love that picture at the mall. I highlighted this part of your post to mention something similare happened to a dear friend of mine. Her sister had a brain injury at birth. When we were all kids she was one of the kids but once everyone grew up she had less opportunities for interaction and became very isolated at home. Her parents had an opportunity to move her into a group home and even though they were frightened of giving her care over to someone else they did it. And it turned out amazing. She had such a great life with her new friends. This group home in Calgary sounds like it will be so wonderful for Spencer. And you can enjoy visiting him and not worrying as much about him. Take care of yourself Kathy. Don't worry about checking in or typing an update, do what you need to do. We are always here for you. Awe thank you so much! I know he will love it but yes it's really hard to give up that role as caregiver. He has been so isolated too and my husband really worried he was becoming depressed. It sounds like he can be really busy if he wants to. He loves his music therapy and the therapist so I'm going to pay to get him private therapy with her. She's a lovely person and it really helps him with his speech and his anxiety. It must have been so awesome for your friend to know they had made the right choice! This Friday we are going back for another visit to meet his roommates he's really excited!
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 29, 2018 1:10:21 GMT
Spencer has come so far since this whole thing started. That he has a place to go to that will be so supportive with people he can enjoy is a really positive thing. If you don't like your med side effects work w/your doctor to play w/the dosage or find meds that you can tolerate. That's an important part of your self-care. If you're not crazy about your new therapist can you switch to someone else? I don't know how that works with your healthcare system. Don't wait on this stuff. You need the release and the support. Yay for Spencer as he improves. It sucks that he may not be able to eat solids, but he'll handle it well, because he's a strong and amazing young man. He's come so far. I'll think good thoughts that he gets the housing and is happy in his new home. Thanks so much! I will ask about another med if I can't get past the side effects I had an appointment finally with my new therapist the other day she was actually good. The only bad thing is she is gone on vacation until early September.
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