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Post by #notLauren on Aug 31, 2017 18:55:36 GMT
Just a vent. Sometimes he asks my opinion, repeatedly, about something and then goes right off to do exactly what I told him he should not do. I have told him umpteen times to address his financial questions to our financial manager and not our accountant. The accountant is great at taxes; sucks at financial planning. In the last 5 days, we've had this discussion 5 times. So what do I get today? An email from him forwarding a response from the accountant to the financial planning question he asked him yesterday.
Then, he can't understand when I say, "please don't waste my time; just do whatever it is you want to do".
Vent over.
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Post by mom on Aug 31, 2017 19:27:13 GMT
ha! yeah, sometimes DH is frustrating! I'd suggest not giving an opinion for awhile and see if he notices. When he asks why no opinion, tell him he is going to ignore it anyway so why should you bother giving one.
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Post by #notLauren on Aug 31, 2017 19:28:22 GMT
The problem is, I don't "offer" opinions. He makes a point of sitting down to "discuss" it with me, whether I want to or not. LOL
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2017 20:20:21 GMT
With my ex I learned to never mention the "don't"
Repeat, repeat repeat the "see the financial planner, see the financial planner, see the financial planner" Just one 3 second whiff of don't see the accountant is like a dandelion seed was planted that was all he could hear.
If he brought up a "don't" I think I'll talk to the accountant I knew the conversation was over. He had already made up his mind and everything I said would be a waste of breath.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Aug 31, 2017 20:21:33 GMT
With my ex I learned to never mention the "don't" Repeat, repeat repeat the "see the financial planner, see the financial planner, see the financial planner" Just one 3 second whiff of don't see the accountant is like a dandelion seed was planted that was all he could hear. If he brought up a "don't" I think I'll talk to the accountant I knew the conversation was over. He had already made up his mind and everything I said would be a waste of breath. The dandelion comment made me laugh out loud |
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 31, 2017 20:36:31 GMT
Oh gosh...I have the same issue with mine. Yesterday he said he would go online and take care of registering dd/paying for all the bits and things needed for this school year. I specifically told him (via text) that he needed to go to both the school and PTSA site. Dd went to registration today and he had only done the school fees.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 31, 2017 20:42:38 GMT
This sounds like my ex husband. Then, after I left him, he said, "Why didn't you ever tell me how you felt?"
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Post by marimoose on Aug 31, 2017 20:57:05 GMT
Add me to this vent. I could write a book on all the ridiculous conversations we have that seemingly go in one ear and just as rapidly out the other AND then he doesn't get why I am annoyed. It all seems like such a waste of time.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 31, 2017 21:12:51 GMT
I feel like I am really responsible. However my husband can run circles around me. We are really good about dividing and conquering with money and chores. He does pull me into money discussions with our financial guy and I am always a bit out of it compared to my husband. I could survive just fine, but it isn't in my DNA to think about money every day. Our biggest disagreements came with raising the kids.
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Post by Zee on Aug 31, 2017 21:46:27 GMT
Today's #FWP winner! 😃😃😄
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Post by mariemily on Aug 31, 2017 22:45:26 GMT
Same here. A while ago I've started saying: Then why do you ask for my opinion if you intend to do as you please anyway? Just do what you want then!
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