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Post by Fidget on Sept 20, 2017 10:50:27 GMT
I can't say that we've ever actually talked about it. My DH typically works 55-60 hours per week, while I work a standard 40 hour week. Kids are grown and out of the house. I do the banking, bill paying, grocery shopping and majority of the indoor housework, including cooking and laundry. He does the outdoor work, cutting the grass and clearing snow. If we are having company over, he will help me get ready indoors. I love the way he vacuums so he will do that once a week for me as well. He also loads and unloads the dishwasher. He's a good man and will do anything I ask, but based on his work schedule (6 days a week) I try not to ask too much.
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Post by littlemama on Sept 20, 2017 11:17:46 GMT
I do errands and cook, dh cleans.
When ds is home he empties the dishwasher and takes out the trash. When he isn't, dh and I split those.
We both do laundry as needed.
We don't have very much outdoor stuff, but we both do what we have.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Sept 20, 2017 11:33:00 GMT
My dh does the cleaning (I do the picking up), laundry, ironing, grocery shopping, taking my ds to practices (dd is at college but he took her most places as well) pretty much everything but regular cooking.
I cook, pick up, do deep cleaning, chauffer the kid(s) when dh can't, initiate yard work and then have dh finish it. I recently went back to work full time from 4 days a week and I also have a separate business so I am always working.
My kids have never had regular chores. They do what they are told. Empty the dishwasher, clean their rooms, vacuum, walk the dog (ds does this every afternoon without being told). My ds is much more agreeable to doing them than my dd ever was. While I understand the responsibility of regular chores, I resented them as a kid so we don't "make" our kids do them regularly but when we ask, they do them.
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Post by melanell on Sept 20, 2017 14:45:36 GMT
We just did stuff. We didn't have any sort of system.
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Post by justkat on Sept 20, 2017 14:49:26 GMT
I no longer work due to health issues. When I was working we had a cleaning lady come in every other week. In between I did all the house type things (cleaning, laundry etc). My husband did all the maintenance, car, garbage etc things.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Sept 20, 2017 15:43:25 GMT
We don't have a list or anything we have just sort of fallen into a pattern after 21 years. DH does laundry. I put it away. I dust and vacuum, he cleans the floors ( we have way more flooring than carpeting) I do the meal planning, we call grocery shopping our date night. I prep dinner but he does most of the actual cooking on weeknights because he is home at dinner time. I do most of the dishes but mostly because Dh is so slow doing them, it drives me crazy so I do them rather than complain. He does the outdoor work but now that ds is a teen he does the mowing and shovelling. I do the big indoor jobs like windows, walls or baseboards. We each have a bathroom to clean. He keeps the rec room clean because it is his and ds's man cave now that dd is away at school. I deal with my craft room We pretty much split 50/50 but more out of habit than detailed lists. His mom taught him well and it has been this way since we met, no training required. Same for us as we've been married 20 yrs. We just have a pattern too, no list or anything formal. For us the person that cooks doesn't do the dishes. Dh does a lot because of his ADHD and need to stay busy. It also helps that he works nights so he's awake during the day while I'm at work. So he does the yard stuff and RV maintenance. We all take care of the dogs, except dh picks up the poop and dd and I do the grooming and training. |
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Post by Anita on Sept 20, 2017 17:59:43 GMT
DH enjoys cooking, so he does 90% of it. I clean up the kitchen (or my daughter does). I do most of the rest of the household chores because DH is disabled and it's too painful for him. DD does most of the yard work for now. We have agreed that when DD moves out, we are hiring help for house cleaning and hiring out the yard work. Neither of us has the energy or the physical ability to do it all and work 40+ hours per week.
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Post by marysue63 on Sept 20, 2017 21:36:30 GMT
My husband travels for work and is gone about half the time. So the days he is here he does most everything, and the days he is gone I do most everything. But we do have a housekeeper and he does all the outside work and repairs.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2017 12:16:11 GMT
Easy. DH keeps his 5'x10' room in Afghanistan clean and tidy, and I do every damn thing else here in WA (with help from the four kids)  . I work seven days on, seven off, so I have a full week every-other week to get things done, including yard work. On the weeks I work (10-hour night shifts) just the basic chores by the kids get done, and I pay my oldest son to do the family laundry. I'll make dinner every-other night before I leave for work, otherwise the kids are on their own for food. When DH is home, we also fall into more traditional roles, though he tends to do more laundry. He likes doing it, I don't. I can relate. Sounds like our life in the last few years before DH retired from the Navy. I also worked night shift back then. I'm pretty independent, but that was a tough time for me. Big hugs to you! |
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