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Post by delila on Sept 22, 2017 20:01:26 GMT
To her ex husband. She is having an affair with her ex-husband, Lou, who left her for a woman 35 years ago, Susan. Lou was an abuser, he abused my husband as a child & abused my mother in law, Patty Pattys 3rs husband died 4years ago & I knew she would find another man but I never thought it would be her married ex-husband who abused her. My DH told her that it was either Lou or him; she said that she loves Lou & picks him! We are just sick over this. Never saw this one coming. She's always been a handful but this a craziness. Lou's wife Susan does not know about this affair yet, it's just a matter of time.
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Post by KelleeM on Sept 22, 2017 20:08:46 GMT
I’m so sorry. What a crazy situation.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2017 20:16:26 GMT
Any chance this is a revenge "romance" hurt Susan for being the other woman, then dump the ex as he dumped her?
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Post by Olan on Sept 22, 2017 20:18:11 GMT
What do they do together? How do they find the time assuming they are all retired?
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Post by peabay on Sept 22, 2017 20:20:26 GMT
Wow. She sounds really off her rocker.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2017 20:21:39 GMT
Wow, talk about going full circle! Hope your DH's father is no longer an abuser, but it sounds like these cheaters all deserve one another.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 22, 2017 20:22:49 GMT
I wonder if she sought out Lou or he sought out her. Very sad.
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Post by malibou on Sept 22, 2017 20:22:50 GMT
Ahh, the tangled webs we weave.
So sorry this is splitting your family. I feel so badly for your husband, he must feel so betrayed.
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Post by delila on Sept 22, 2017 20:24:50 GMT
Not a revenge thing, I thought that at first too.
They don't even live in the same state but he apparently is making arrangements to move into her house bc he's broke. Her dead husband left her with a bit of cash, he's a broke dick.
It's a crazy ass situation & we just can't make heads of it. Just last month Patty was making arrangements to sell her home & move to our home town, 300 miles closer. That won't be happening now.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 22, 2017 20:29:14 GMT
Not a revenge thing, I thought that at first too. They don't even live in the same state but he apparently is making arrangements to move into her house bc he's broke. Her dead husband left her with a bit of cash, he's a broke dick. It's a crazy ass situation & we just can't make heads of it. Just last month Patty was making arrangements to sell her home & move to our home town, 300 miles closer. That won't be happening now. delila Wait, what? Is he leaving his wife behind? So he's using her since he's broke? What an ass. |
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Post by flute4peace on Sept 22, 2017 20:38:02 GMT
Sounds like he's still got his abuser's hooks into her. I know your husband gave an ultimatum, but I would do everything in your/his power to make sure this doesn't happen. it is SO hard to get out from under that abuser's umbrella/mentality. I'm so sorry, what an awful situation!
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Post by Scrapper100 on Sept 22, 2017 21:03:27 GMT
It sounds like he is grooming her kind of like a child predator. He is just using her for the money obviously. I don't know what your husband can do but be ready to pick up the pieces because there is no way this will end well. Sorry as this just sounds like such a mess and your husband must feel so betrayed and rightfully so.
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Post by amom23 on Sept 22, 2017 21:21:01 GMT
Maybe you and your DH should just slow down and take a deep breath. Try talking to your MIL and see if you can make some sense of what is really going on. I'm guessing she is likely lonely and this guy is back in the picture as a player and she is getting taken advantage of.
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Post by Zee on Sept 22, 2017 22:01:13 GMT
She's not really the other woman in this case, to me. She's the OG. Too bad for Susan.
Is this the woman who bought a brand new car without meaning to? I can't remember whose MIL that was, forgive me if I'm wrong. If this is the same woman she sounds like she doesn't have very good judgment with or without this worm.
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Post by christine58 on Sept 22, 2017 22:05:21 GMT
Zee I think her MIL is the one that is a liar and spent a ton of money after her last DH died???
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Post by Zee on Sept 22, 2017 22:06:43 GMT
Zee I think her MIL is the one that is a liar and spent a ton of money after her last DH died??? Ok thanks Whose MIL bought the car? |
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Post by Marina on Sept 22, 2017 22:09:58 GMT
How horrific. I'm so sorry for your husband. She sounds like she is not a very healthy person to welcome an abuser back who robs her of her son and most likely her financial security. Any way to calmly talk over this with her as to why she thinks he is now a good choice? And if she goes forward how to protect her assets?
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Post by delila on Sept 22, 2017 22:14:30 GMT
My mother in law is the liar & spends money like crazy!!!
We are concerned that she has no money left from the life insurance.
Yes, he is a user & it's her problem not ours. This is not DHs father, they divorced when he was 3 & she then married Lou.
It's such a sad situation. So sad to watch unfold. I feel so bad for my DH. Both his parents were shit. So sad....
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Post by christine58 on Sept 22, 2017 22:20:26 GMT
My mother in law is the liar & spends money like crazy!!! We are concerned that she has no money left from the life insurance. Yes, he is a user & it's her problem not ours. This is not DHs father, they divorced when he was 3 & she then married Lou. It's such a sad situation. So sad to watch unfold. I feel so bad for my DH. Both his parents were shit. So sad.... delila I feel bad for your DH also. Does Lou's wife know yet?? |
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Post by scrapaddie on Sept 22, 2017 22:25:09 GMT
Sounds like she has been a train wreck all her life and is co ringing the same pattern! So sad, because it doesn't sound like she can ever be happy.
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Post by mollycoddle on Sept 22, 2017 22:26:40 GMT
Yikes! You poor thing. That is a lot of crazy to deal with.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Sept 23, 2017 1:29:06 GMT
Do you think there is a chance she is starting to have dementia?
I'm sorry you and your DH are going through this.
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Post by destined2bmom on Sept 23, 2017 1:41:10 GMT
I feel bad for you and your DH. Do you have kids or does your MIL have other grandchildren who are going to be exposed to this situation? Do they know about the abuse? How do you think they will take it? Does Lou have any children with Susan? Sorry I think it's going to get harder before it gets easier. That is, if it lasts.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Sept 23, 2017 1:58:16 GMT
Do you think there is a chance she is starting to have dementia? I'm sorry you and your DH are going through this. I was wondering the same. |
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Sept 23, 2017 2:10:16 GMT
Do you think there is a chance she is starting to have dementia? ^^^^^ this was my thought too SaveSave |
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Post by peasapie on Sept 23, 2017 3:46:03 GMT
I’ve known a few people who were very afraid if being alone as they got older. I wonder if that is behind her very bad decision to go back with this cad.
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Post by used2scrap on Sept 23, 2017 4:13:48 GMT
What a very sad, messy situation. I'm sorry for your husband. Strength to you both wading through this mess!
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Post by anniebygaslight on Sept 23, 2017 6:16:23 GMT
Leave her to it and don't be there to pick up the pieces when it goes tits up.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 23, 2017 8:57:32 GMT
That sounds like one of those made-for-tv plots that couldn't possibly be true... only it is. I'm sorry your husband has been put in such a bad place by his mother.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 23, 2017 12:11:40 GMT
I'm sorry. What a train wreck.
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