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Post by delila on Sept 23, 2017 15:28:48 GMT
Thank you for all the kind words.
A bit of background. I think Patty is the type of woman who has to have a man with her, even a shitty one like Lou. I told my DH when Pattys DH died that it would not be long before she had a man & I was right but we never expected it to be this one. For the past 30 years Patty has talked nasty about Lou, wishing death on him etc so her telling us she loves him is so strange. We do think she has the beginning of dementia but this woman is so wacky it's hard to tell what is wacky Patty & what is dementia!! 35 years ago I saw her open a jar of mayo in the grocery shop, taste it & put it back on the shelf. Patty is the reason why we now have that plastic ring around the Mayo bottle!!!!! She is not normal at all.
We did find out today that Lou is packing up the few belongings he has & is on his way to Pattys house to live!!!! They moved fast on this one. One hurdle is still Lou's wife.....
delila
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2017 15:39:51 GMT
I'm sorry she's doing this. As hard as this is, your DH needs to walk away. Her bad choices/decisions need not keep effecting your family and it would probably be better for your DH's sanity to not know about her comings and goings.
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 23, 2017 16:42:39 GMT
Good thoughts to your husband, this is heartbreaking.
I reallly wish we had a test and license before becoming parents. It seems like the bad ones are like the poor drivers who manage to stay on the road. They don't stop causing harm. I'm sorry.
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Post by aljack on Sept 23, 2017 17:27:17 GMT
Wowzers! That is a cluster with your husband and Susan taking the brunt of it. I hope this will take a miraculous turn for the better.
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Post by leftturnonly on Sept 23, 2017 18:34:04 GMT
Not a revenge thing, I thought that at first too. They don't even live in the same state but he apparently is making arrangements to move into her house bc he's broke. Her dead husband left her with a bit of cash, he's a broke dick. It's a crazy ass situation & we just can't make heads of it. Just last month Patty was making arrangements to sell her home & move to our home town, 300 miles closer. That won't be happening now. delila He's still abusing her, then.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2017 19:13:03 GMT
I hope somebody has told susan to freeze everything and get a divorce lawyer.
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Post by Leone on Sept 23, 2017 20:33:42 GMT
Well, something fairly similiar happened in my DHs family. His sister had two kids at 29 with an old married creep who was 59. He finally divorced wife of 34 years and married my SIL. Marriage lasted a year or so. divorce and he gets back with old wife. And that poor woman had to play stepmother every other weekend to the two kids. I have told DH if he ever thinks I would do that, he is crazy. And the two girls wonder why the poor woman never acted like she liked them. BUT old duffer started getting social security at age 62 so my SIL got SS money for the two girls and even some as their mother until they turned 18 so she never got a real job all those years. Second child just turned 18, money no longer is coming in and suddenly she actually has a job which of course, she hates. She is now with husband #4 who she thought had money so married him while he was in prison for 22 years...but he didnt really do anything bad...
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Post by delila on Sept 27, 2017 19:49:05 GMT
I think my relationship with Patty is done. I've spoken to her on the phone & she has told me that she is done with me, her son, our son (her only grandchild) & our grandson. She would prefer the company of the man who abused her son for many years & she sat back & watched it. I am only sad bc I know that Patty must have something wrong with her & she needs help & we would be there to help her, Lou won't be. I'm sad for my DH who is mourning the loss of his mum. We hope one day she will come to her senses & hopefully she won't have burned all her bridges by then.
Thanks for all the kind words Peas. What a messed up situation this one is!!!!!
delila
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Post by Prenticekid on Sept 27, 2017 20:16:40 GMT
I have nothing to add, but did want to say thank you for giving all the players a name, and using the names in your all your posts.
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Post by used2scrap on Sept 27, 2017 20:23:58 GMT
What a sad update. Sorry for your DH and son/grandson.
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Post by azredhead on Sept 27, 2017 20:34:05 GMT
Oh gosh I'm so sorry It must be really hard your Dh and family! HUGS!
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