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Post by shamrock on Sept 27, 2017 23:56:35 GMT
So we finally made the decision to move to get our kids in a school district that would be a better academic fit for them. It is a local move. We are moving about a mile away, just to get over the district boundary. Nothing changes other than house & school. We are in the process of building our dream house & it should be done in early December. The boys started their new school at the beginning of the year. That's going well. Our current house is on the market- and that market has totally stopped selling. Ugh. Stress.
As all this is going on a big tech company is heavily recruiting DH. They'd talked to him off and on over the last 5 years but nothing ever came of it. He figured it was going nowhere. Then about 2 months ago they called again. This time they've already flown him out (to a state we love to visit) for a round of interviews. He heard today that they want to move forward with him. So more interviews. If he was to get an offer it'd be a job he'd be really excited for and the money would probably set us up very well. But it'd mean moving states, leaving my parents & 100-year-old grandma. I've lived here all my life. DH has been here over 30 years. This is home & roots.
My pros and cons list are about equal LOL!
I'm anxious, stressing, freaking out.
Help! I'd love stories sharing your experiences, books to read (I love to read- mindless romance/chic lit & more self-help, make your life better type stuff) Anything to talk me out of this anxiety fear filled space. My wonderful doctor already has some meds for me to take when I start having a bad attack, like um tonight!
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Post by gsquaredmom on Sept 28, 2017 0:02:33 GMT
I would focus on what I have NOW, not the maybe of the future. If that job does not pan out, you will have fretted for nothing. IF he gets an offer, it has to be the right one, as well.
It sounds like your current move is a good one. Focus on that.
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AmeliaBloomer
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Sept 28, 2017 0:02:46 GMT
Netflix.
Binge setting.
Remove brassiere first.
In other words, worry interruptus.
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Post by Zee on Sept 28, 2017 0:09:59 GMT
I did exactly this four years ago (I can't believe outs been four years already!). DH was recruited and accepted a job 900 miles away. I had to stay behind and sell our house, which included getting a lot of projects done first. I took about 9 months to do all that but I sort of dragged my heels because I didn't want to leave my job, friends, family, or house. I never wanted to leave but it was best for him and much better for us financially.
It sucked and it was so stressful and I drank so many beers over it all, lolol. I gained weight and was surly. But when I finally made it here it was all worth it.
My DS moved in the middle of his freshman year and he actually did really well with the change. DD stayed behind but eventually joined us (she was 18, stayed behind with grandma).
I wish I could offer more diversion but honestly it was so, so stressful. But it can be really rewarding. Our marriage is better than ever. I miss my friends and family but we have Facebook so I don't miss them nearly as much as I might have done. Mainly I miss my job.
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Post by smginaz Suzy on Sept 28, 2017 0:14:22 GMT
I just watched Table 19 while on a plane and enjoyed it. Love Anna Kendrick, though.
I've also heard great things about Personal Shopper but have not seen it yet.
Read Sophie Kinsella's latest. And speaking on Anna Kendrick, her Scrappy Little Nobody memoir was entertaining.
Jenny Lawson's books are wonderful-Furiously Happy, for example.
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Post by shamrock on Sept 28, 2017 0:41:22 GMT
I just watched Table 19 while on a plane and enjoyed it. Love Anna Kendrick, though. I've also heard great things about Personal Shopper but have not seen it yet. Read Sophie Kinsella's latest. And speaking on Anna Kendrick, her Scrappy Little Nobody memoir was entertaining. Jenny Lawson's books are wonderful-Furiously Happy, for example. Table 19 was a fun movie. Saw it with a friend when it came out and we really enjoyed it- but we both love Anna Kendrick too. I'll have to check out her book. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2017 1:35:49 GMT
It would help to know the area where the job , to give you an answer.
A company really could not pay us enough to move to the Seattle area. It is rainy and gray and very congested.
San Francisco , San Diego same thing without the rain.
New York, my family is there. That's a hell no to get involved with their drama.
China. Nope everybody we have talked to said stay away.
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Post by samantha25 on Sept 28, 2017 2:22:08 GMT
Sounds like situation I may encounter. We need to move to make sure we are in a better school in two years. My dh just applied to a job in state but would require change. Change is hard. Glq
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2017 2:27:41 GMT
I just watched Table 19 while on a plane and enjoyed it. Love Anna Kendrick, though. I've also heard great things about Personal Shopper but have not seen it yet. Read Sophie Kinsella's latest. And speaking on Anna Kendrick, her Scrappy Little Nobody memoir was entertaining. Jenny Lawson's books are wonderful-Furiously Happy, for example. We think table 19 would make an excellent tv show. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2017 2:57:50 GMT
I don't know, I moved around most of my life and quite enjoy the adventure! It's all what you make of it.
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Post by betty on Sept 28, 2017 5:41:13 GMT
We did it. 10 years ago. Moved about 900+ miles from all out family and friends for dh's job. Best thing we ever did for our marriage!!  We are a unified unit at Holiday and family gatherings vs the old way. lol The area is totally different so we decided to live like tourists ...we took it as a challenge. See and do all you can in a new environment. As a couple we originally agreed to try it for 2 yrs...then we reassessed and said 5 years... It is hard when you don't have anyone to put down on the school forms as an emergency contact or anyone to keep the kids for an hour or two but you make it work. The worst thing we did was still owning our home in the far away state and renting it to relatives. They stopped paying 8 months later, the market tanked for sellers, and we now are long distance landlords on a house we should have sold yrs ago. My biggest tip would be RENTING in the area you are considering first, before buying a home. We rented for 14 months and then bought in the same neighborhood to keep the kids in the same schools and with friends. We don't Love the HOA and neighborhood but for the kids this was a good place to stay for a while. Look at it as an adventure! |
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Post by momto4kiddos on Sept 28, 2017 11:06:06 GMT
I would focus on what I have NOW, not the maybe of the future. If that job does not pan out, you will have fretted for nothing. IF he gets an offer, it has to be the right one, as well. It sounds like your current move is a good one. Focus on that. This is good advice, try not to stress and get too ahead of yourself. Take it one day at a time and try not to stress about what could happen. I've got some stuff going on and I just reminded myself this morning that I need to stay in the day and not get ahead of myself. |
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Post by shamrock on Sept 28, 2017 13:15:45 GMT
It would help to know the area where the job , to give you an answer. A company really could not pay us enough to move to the Seattle area. It is rainy and gray and very congested. San Francisco , San Diego same thing without the rain. New York, my family is there. That's a hell no to get involved with their drama. China. Nope everybody we have talked to said stay away. New area would be Colorado. We love Colorado- we've visited it in the summer & winter a number of times. I spent many family summer vacations there growing up. I know visiting is MUCH different than living. I love visiting California, but I'd never live there. Colorado has always been on the very short list of places we'd consider if the job was right. DH's family is states away from us and don't factor into this decision at all. My family is local- my parents come to all our kid events. They are involved- in a good way. They, especially my mom, love Colorado too. They knew the company talked to DH years ago, but I haven't mentioned this go around. That's gonna happen soon probably because the possibility is getting more real. I like the idea of the opportunities the move/new job could bring. But I LOVE this house we are building. And of course, everything I know is here. Ugh, I hate uncertainty |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2017 13:25:27 GMT
I could do Colorado.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 28, 2017 15:30:47 GMT
I always say "Don't borrow trouble" but if he gets this job you will be trying to move while owning 2 houses? That would keep me up at night. I couldn't buy a house before selling the first one. I'm extremely risk adverse when it comes to real estate. Seen too many people burned.
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We are a unified unit at Holiday and family gatherings vs the old way. lol
