my3freaks
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,206
Location: NH girl living in Colorado
Jun 26, 2014 4:10:56 GMT
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Post by my3freaks on Sept 29, 2017 17:45:40 GMT
I don't drink beer, wine (except the occasional moscato) or tequila. I am a fan of fruity, girly cocktails though. I like mojitos, especially if they do flavored ones like mango, pineapple or strawberry, but I'll take a plain one too. Midori sours are good (and I don't like any sour foods/candies normally, but the drink is good) and they're pretty! Fruit flavored martini's or cosmos's are usually good too. I will try a vodka or rum based drink that sounds good on a menu. It's true that people seem to find it crazy if you don't order a drink, and think they need to talk you into something. I've found it to be especially true at concerts. It's like some people are convinced that I can't enjoy music if I don't have more than 1 drink. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/confused.jpg.gif)
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 29, 2017 20:20:47 GMT
I'm with the others - don't feel pressured about it. Drink what you want.
I like margaritas occasionally, but they are often too strong. I am not embarrassed to ask for 1/2 the normal alcohol.
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Post by mrssmith on Sept 29, 2017 20:21:02 GMT
I do drink alcohol, but even if I'm at a bar, I order nonalcoholic drinks if I'm not drinking that night, etc. Order what you like. It will be fine.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Sept 29, 2017 22:44:13 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school. I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. My 18 yr dd old doesn't drink soda, one of my sisters has made it her mission to figure out what dd can drink. Yes, she really does worry that this is an issue. Of course my sister is also an alcoholic so she is always pushing others to drink. She was always worried about my now 28 yr old not drinking either. I only drink once a year or so and some times not even then. I don't care for beer or wine or hard liquor. And I also don't like carbonated drinks. So I like to order a regular iced tea, not a long island iced tea ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by Scrapper100 on Sept 29, 2017 22:49:07 GMT
If you don't like to drink don't. I would also think if you don't normally drink than even a drink with light alcohol might effect you and make it so you shouldn't drive. I used to be in a Bunco group and boy could some of them drink - well they drank and often I thought it was way too much but they had rides so at least they were safe. Drink what you are comfortable with and don't worry about what someone else thinks. I would rather see someone perfectly sober than drunk even if I am drinking - drunks are no fun at all to be around. I never thought anything of someone not drinking in a bar or at Bunco - if you want to try something though that is a virgin drink I love virgin Pina Coladas - so yummy and the one virgin drink that I never really missed the alcohol in.
I hope you enjoy your book club.
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Post by hop2 on Sept 29, 2017 22:52:48 GMT
Ok, like the wearing WTF you want. Your an adult, drink WTF you want and anyone who has a problem with it can just st mind their own business.
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Post by leannec on Sept 29, 2017 23:20:48 GMT
I no longer drink alcohol ... my choice when I go out is a cranberry juice with club soda
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Post by leannec on Sept 29, 2017 23:26:25 GMT
I'm in a book club with a bunch of real boozers and I'm getting over a bout of gastritis so I can't have any alcohol at all (even before, I was a nurse one beer kind of drinker. I drank enough in college to last my whole life.) I just drink water. And just say "no thanks" about 100 times a night when they try to pour me a glass of wine. You don't owe anyone an explanation or have any reason to feel embarrassed. Just practice "no thanks. Water is fine." Let them wonder if you have some dark history with alcohol or are still nursing a hangover from the night before or whatever. I host a Book Club every month ... I don't drink but there is always wine available ... about half of my ladies drink ... no pressure at all I love the "dark history" slant
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Post by burningfeather on Sept 29, 2017 23:33:24 GMT
Of course my sister is also an alcoholic so she is always pushing others to drink. She was always worried about my now 28 yr old not drinking either. I'm pretty sure that the person that does the most insistent pushing in my social group is an alcoholic and doesn't feel comfortable unless everyone has a drink in their hand.
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Post by burningfeather on Sept 29, 2017 23:37:07 GMT
Ok, like the wearing WTF you want. Your an adult, drink WTF you want and anyone who has a problem with it can just st mind their own business. And that's really easy to say and even do in some social groups, but I consider myself a pretty strong personality and I have been in situations where one person will make a HUGE spectacle of the fact that I'm not drinking. I never let it pressure me into drinking if I don't want to (I'm not against it, but I really just don't have a taste for alcohol unless it's the occasional margarita with tacos or something like that). But I really don't like having all of the attention on me in that way and I'm not going to go Super Bitch on someone that I am neighbors with or see socially often so it gets uncomfortable from time to time.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 30, 2017 0:31:01 GMT
Let them wonder if you have some dark history with alcohol or are still nursing a hangover from the night before or whatever. I host a Book Club every month ... I don't drink but there is always wine available ... about half of my ladies drink ... no pressure at all I love the "dark history" slant If my non-drinking ever comes up in conversation and I mention that I haven't had an alcoholic drink since 1989, part of me is worried that the person might think there's 'dark history' and that I'm a recovering alcoholic, but a small part of me gets a little kick out of leaving them wondering! ![:grin:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/TKS2q_7siLiFtq0xPQvx.jpg) No-one has ever asked me outright though.
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Post by shaniam on Sept 30, 2017 1:10:08 GMT
So I went and ordered water. Honestly I just didn't feel like anything else. I knew if I had one drink I would be sleeping before 8:00 and I didn't want to be feeling that hazy feeling. It's not that I don't ever drink alcohol. I enjoy a frozen strawberry margarita occasionally. It wasn't much of a book club either. It was in a bar and pretty loud. No one really even mentioned books. I was the only one there without an alcoholic drink.
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Post by bunnyhug on Sept 30, 2017 1:14:35 GMT
I'm not "not a drinker", but I hate beer and wine, so that makes it tough at parties sometimes. I like 'fruity' drinks, and if I go to a restaurant or bar and don't have a strong hankering for a particular drink, I often just ask the server to surprise me with a girlie drink--something that comes with an umbrella and hopefully fruit on a stick--and I usually have pretty good luck with that! I like the hard iced teas (as long as they aren't a malt based drink, which goes back to hating beer, lol!) and lemonades. I like a Singapore Sling or anything with grenadine in it. I love the pineapple flavoured Malibu (even straight on the rocks, but it's good mixed with 7-Up, too), and I like the regular Malibu/coconut rum. Amaretto is good on the rocks--as long as you're sipping! I make my own *most amazing* raspberry cordial/vodka, which is my fave! Mostly anything that contains 7-Up/Sprite, rum/vodka, some kind of sugary liquid (juice, grenadine) and maybe some fruit is hard to go wrong with . . . So what is your raspberry cordial/vodka drink? ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) 4 cups raspberries, 3 1/4 cups sugar, 3 1/3 cups vodka--mix together and let stand on counter for 3 weeks, stirring/turning daily--strain through double cheesecloth 🙂 Tastes yummy with 7-up and on its own ... and makes it easy to see how Anne got Dianna hammered without realizing what was happening 😄
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