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Post by shaniam on Sept 29, 2017 2:05:08 GMT
I have been invited to participate in a book club with some folks I work with. We will be meeting in a bar. I am not a drinker. I don't really care for the taste of alcohol and most of the alcoholic drinks I have had in the past. I typically just drink water almost all of the time. I think others take me as a prude though. I haven't been working with these folks for long. I like the frozen fruity drinks all right. Thought I would ask here if there is a drink I can order that isn't a strong drink or tastes a lot like alcohol. Thanks!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2017 2:06:51 GMT
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Post by scrapmaven on Sept 29, 2017 2:07:22 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school.
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Post by Belle on Sept 29, 2017 2:13:33 GMT
The book club I was a part of met in a pub and I am not a big drinker so would order mint tea or 7-up.
To answer your question, you might try a white wine spritzer - White wine, ice and bubbly water. Usually pretty refreshing and tasty.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Sept 29, 2017 2:15:00 GMT
Thought I would ask here if there is a drink I can order that isn't a strong drink or tastes a lot like alcohol. Thanks! Soda. You're welcome. Seriously, drink what you want, no explanations necessary. |
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Post by mcscrapper on Sept 29, 2017 2:16:43 GMT
If you want water, just order water.
Honestly, if you aren't a regular drinker and you are out having a drink and then driving home, I'd have a bigger problem with that than with someone ordering a water. I drink but if I don't have my first drink until after 7:30 pm, I'll be awake ALL night long. If someone persist, just reply that you aren't drinking tonight or that alcohol keeps you up all night.
Personally, if they are going to give you a hard time about not drinking then I'd find other friends.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Sept 29, 2017 2:17:58 GMT
My book club is filled with the booziest women I know but none of us would bat an eyelash if someone wasn't drinking. Well, we'd probably wonder if she was pregnant but we'd be too polite to say anything. I can't imagine feeling forced to drink at Book Club.
Having said that, I'd get a sweet wine like Riesling or moscato and cut it with soda water
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Post by scrappychick on Sept 29, 2017 2:19:30 GMT
One of my sisters is like you, and for a couple years I would always try and find her a drink that she would like. I gave up a long time ago. If you truly don't want to drink, you don't have to! Otherwise, it might be fun to tell your coworkers what you've said here, and see if they have any suggestions. I think you might like a Dirty Shirley:)
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 29, 2017 2:21:05 GMT
I didn't drink for about 20 years. When my kids could drink at the all inclusives, I joined them. I never cared if other people drank, but yes, there are some people who really get snippy if you don't drink with them. It was weird. I never said a word about their drinking and got some rude comments. My friends all got it though and appreciated that I could drive them home and make sure they were safe. I would say if you don't want to drink, have a soda. If you do, go for a pina colada and just sip slowly. You can even ask for a virgin one and look like everyone else.
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Post by Zee on Sept 29, 2017 2:23:08 GMT
You could always go with virgin mocktails. I really can't tolerate alcohol anymore for the most part so I just drink seltzer (which is disgusting, you know you're a grown-up when you order this shit and drink it like you WANTED a salty fizz that tastes like tree bark) with lime or something. Or water with lemon or lime so you look fancy in front of your new friends. Let them get drink while you sip that tea like it's none of your business and take notes... goo.gl/images/2bs3nJ |
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Post by bunnyhug on Sept 29, 2017 2:29:16 GMT
I'm not "not a drinker", but I hate beer and wine, so that makes it tough at parties sometimes. I like 'fruity' drinks, and if I go to a restaurant or bar and don't have a strong hankering for a particular drink, I often just ask the server to surprise me with a girlie drink--something that comes with an umbrella and hopefully fruit on a stick--and I usually have pretty good luck with that! I like the hard iced teas (as long as they aren't a malt based drink, which goes back to hating beer, lol!) and lemonades. I like a Singapore Sling or anything with grenadine in it. I love the pineapple flavoured Malibu (even straight on the rocks, but it's good mixed with 7-Up, too), and I like the regular Malibu/coconut rum. Amaretto is good on the rocks--as long as you're sipping! I make my own *most amazing* raspberry cordial/vodka, which is my fave! Mostly anything that contains 7-Up/Sprite, rum/vodka, some kind of sugary liquid (juice, grenadine) and maybe some fruit is hard to go wrong with . . .
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Post by pondrunner on Sept 29, 2017 2:31:55 GMT
I don't drink alcohol. If people think I'm a prude then well - that's on them. I don't look at drinkers and say ooh what a lush, is there really something so wrong with just do you that a person who doesn't like alcohol needs to drink it to be socially accepted?
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Post by burningfeather on Sept 29, 2017 2:32:15 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school. I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. |
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Post by padresfan619 on Sept 29, 2017 2:33:47 GMT
Order a club soda with a lime. It will look like a vodka soda.
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Post by padresfan619 on Sept 29, 2017 2:35:03 GMT
And if you get there early and explain to the bartender or waitress that you want to make it look like you're drinking, but you're not even better. I've had friends do this in early stages of pregnancy when we would go out but they weren't ready to announce yet.
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Post by Loydene on Sept 29, 2017 2:37:52 GMT
First - if you don't want to drink, then don't. You shouldn't let anyone "shame/tease/force" you to drink.
If you want to do something that "look like" you fit in - ask for a "virgin" something - a virgin tequila sunrise (which would be OJ and grenadine - and pretty sweet!), or a virgin Bloody Mary (tomato juice). Or seltzer or tonic with lime.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 29, 2017 2:38:48 GMT
I'm a non drinker in a world of drinkers and there is no way I would order an alcoholic drink just because I thought others would see me as a prude. If I want to get into the spirit of things (no pun intended) I would either order a mocktail (if I wanted to spend $10) or something like a ginger beer. Fun fact: I read just this morning that the new buzz term for mocktails in 2017 is Temperance Cocktails!  |
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Post by Loydene on Sept 29, 2017 2:39:59 GMT
First - if you don't want to drink, then don't. You shouldn't let anyone "shame/tease/force" you to drink.
If you want to do something that "look like" you fit in - ask for a "virgin" something - a virgin tequila sunrise (which would be OJ and grenadine - and pretty sweet!), or a virgin Bloody Mary (tomato juice). Club soda, seltzer or tonic with lime. Or sangria ... or wine spritzer.
But ... really ... coke or ice tea or coffee or water is just fine -- you can always be the "designated driver"!
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Post by laurasw on Sept 29, 2017 2:40:47 GMT
Amaretto Sour
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Sept 29, 2017 2:50:19 GMT
It's no one's business but yours what's in your cup. Go for a club soda with a lime and pretty much no one will give it a second thought. Or 7up and Orange Juice. (Put orange juice in anything, it looks like a cocktail.)
But if you do want an alcoholic beverage, I'd recommend something with vodka as the main spirit (least alcohol tasting, IMO). Vodka lemonade pretty much tastes like lemonade.
If you are at a decent bar (and not, say, Applebee's), you could go for something like a midori and orange juice or midori and lemonade. Midori is a melon flavored liqueur... though sometimes it's a little pricey.
A pina colada usually tastes pretty much like pineapple and coconut.
Or a grasshopper is usually creme de menthe (mint) and creme de cacao (chocolate) liqueurs. My aunt likes Kaluha (coffee flavored liqueur) and cream. Or Chambord (raspberry liqueur) and cream.
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Post by scrapApea on Sept 29, 2017 2:51:32 GMT
Ask for a ginger ale or club soda or sprite with a lime Makes it look like you've got something more potent if you feel the need to fit in that way.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 29, 2017 2:53:15 GMT
Thought I would ask here if there is a drink I can order that isn't a strong drink or tastes a lot like alcohol. Thanks! Soda. You're welcome. Seriously, drink what you want, no explanations necessary.  I don't drink by choice and haven't for over 20 years. Every once in a while someone will give me grief about it and I'm just like, "Really?"  I have no real reason other than that I've never really liked it plus I'm really, really cheap when it comes to spending money on something I really don't want or enjoy. I used to order a Sprite when I drank pop or sometimes a lemonade in the summer, but now I'm too cheap to even spend the *calories* on that when I could have chocolate instead so these days all I ever drink is water. If you want the impression of having a "drink" without actually having one, get sparkling water with a twist of lemon or lime or a shot of grenadine. Done. People who don't know you very well who are giving you crap about not having an alcoholic beverage are just being jackholes. For all anyone knows a person could be a recovering alcoholic, taking medication that shouldn't ever be combined with alcohol, it could be against their religion, etc. and it's just rude to pressure anyone else to drink just because YOU are drinking. |
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Post by milocat on Sept 29, 2017 2:53:23 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school. That that so that! Screw the peer pressure or what the cool kids think. I don't like beer or wine. I like frozen fruity drinks but rarely feel the urge to order them. I'd order water because I don't drink pop. I'd prefer to have dessert for the calories  You could order a virgin fruity drink. |
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Post by Rhondito on Sept 29, 2017 2:56:19 GMT
I wouldn't even order something that looks like a cocktail if I wasn't going to drink.
Have a spine! If you don't want to drink, then don't drink.
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Post by bc2ca on Sept 29, 2017 3:18:06 GMT
My book club is filled with the booziest women I know but none of us would bat an eyelash if someone wasn't drinking. Well, we'd probably wonder if she was pregnant but we'd be too polite to say anything. I can't imagine feeling forced to drink at Book Club. Having said that, I'd get a sweet wine like Riesling or moscato and cut it with soda water This made me LOL. There was a time in my life this was true.  shaniam, I'd make friends with the bartenders and order at least one drink but don't worry about it being alcoholic. A sparkling water or juice is just fine. If you do just get tap water, and are getting table service, you should tip IMHO. The bar is a business and I'm sure wants your book group to come in, spend money and have fun. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2017 3:23:30 GMT
A virgin pinacolada. ding ding ding winner!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2017 3:25:55 GMT
I have been invited to participate in a book club with some folks I work with. We will be meeting in a bar. I am not a drinker. I don't really care for the taste of alcohol and most of the alcoholic drinks I have had in the past. I typically just drink water almost all of the time. I think others take me as a prude though. I haven't been working with these folks for long. I like the frozen fruity drinks all right. Thought I would ask here if there is a drink I can order that isn't a strong drink or tastes a lot like alcohol. Thanks! When I run into that judgemental feeling I just laughingly explain I don't normally drink and as a consequence half a beer will put me under the table asleep because that is for truth what alcohol does to me. I plan to stay awake and enjoy the party so no alcohol for me! I don't want them to have to carry me home! I order my soda, or a virgin fruity frozen drink, and have a grand time. It is key to not make them feel judged FOR drinking. If you don't drink much you may not be aware of your alcohol tolerance and end up in trouble on the drive home. |
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Post by JustKim on Sept 29, 2017 3:25:58 GMT
It is ok to be a non drinker!! Have tea, coffee, water, soda etc. I would not judge you. People need to accept you for who you are. We never know anyone's past history. I wish you a great evening  |
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 29, 2017 3:36:33 GMT
Drink what you enjoy. If it helps, you can assume you are assisting someone else who needs to give up drinking and needs external support... You might be enabling some good...
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 29, 2017 3:39:10 GMT
Never ever feel obligated to drink!! Do not let anyone pressure you.
I don't drink, have never! I learned early on to always have a glass in my hand though, of course that was over 50 years ago when drinking was more accepted.
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I don't drink by choice and haven't for over 20 years. Every once in a while someone will give me grief about it and I'm just like, "Really?" 
You could order a virgin fruity drink. 
