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Post by **Angie** on Oct 16, 2017 4:06:31 GMT
I feel like every single day I'm either doing something incorrectly or not doing enough or doing too much or blahblahblah. From everyone family-wise. And God forbid, I mention my MS because that's just my go-to excuse.
Except my ds. He's 14 and I don't know if he has matured or what, but he's become a really great person over the past few months. I can't wait to see what the future holds for him - he's the only person I'd willingly give my last *insert item here* to.
I seriously would like to take off for a couple of months. Just travel the world. Hell, I'd be fine with staying home if it meant I didn't have to go anywhere or do anything with family. But I can't.
*sigh*
I wonder if I can convince my kid to go on a road trip. Let everyone else deal with everything for a while.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2017 4:13:17 GMT
Yup and really feeling it today.
I have two medically complex, autistic kids with other stuff going on. And a dh wh works. A lot. He is a teacher, site tech coach, department chair, mentor teacher, and has 2 student teachers.
Some days, like today, I got nothing done because dd had a ton of work to catch up on. She has executive processing disorder so she needs more help than a typical 14 yr old. And ds is sick.
I just want to pull my hair out and run away. But alas I cant...
It sucks when you have so many people depend on you...
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2017 4:19:09 GMT
You know those asperger's kids that are obsessively clean, organized and are great achievers.
Mine is not one of them.
We are lucky that he can drive and has a job. But I don't think he will ever have a great(good) relationship.
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Post by miranda on Oct 16, 2017 10:51:44 GMT
Yup, I could definitely take a break from most of the family. I've had a very difficult year with my Mom and sister to the point being around them is uncomfortable. Hubby lives in his own self-absorbed world (it kind of works because in that world he can be the smartest person he knows and be right all the time  ) Thankfully my kiddos, who are young adults now are some of the best people I know. They are hard-working, nice, funny human beings who I love to be around. |
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Oct 16, 2017 12:18:51 GMT
Yup, count me in. I just want to run away to somewhere else, another setting, different environment, like a new beginning. I feel pretty stuck right now and I am just tired of everything, everyday stuff.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 16, 2017 12:28:56 GMT
I understand. My DH doesn't have a clue how much of the load I carry, due to his illness. It would be nice if he'd show a little extra appreciation once in a while.
I know I am the "go-to" person for everyone in our family and it gets tiring.
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Post by ILoveToScrapPea on Oct 16, 2017 12:41:52 GMT
Yes, for me it’s my mom and MIL. I love them dearly but I have complicated relationships with them. And dh doesn’t always help me out when I need him to. We still don’t have kids due to my infertility and sometimes I wonder if that’s actually not a bad thing.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2017 13:04:16 GMT
Of course, people are f*%$ing annoying.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2017 13:05:54 GMT
Every day. Someone always wants/needs something and I wish sometimes that I could run away, even for just a weekend to get away from it all. Maybe it's hitting me especially hard because my DH has been/will be traveling every week during the month of October.
It was all I could do to get out of bed this morning...ugh.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 16, 2017 15:18:33 GMT
Yeah I hear you. I don’t want my brain to malfunction any longer. My son gets so upset when I get sick and doesn’t know what to do. I have people I need to take care of and stuff. It’s not the same as having RA or MS as you can physically see the symptoms and mine is in my head. I have been paralyzed on the floor not able to move before because of my imaginary condition. I am frustrated.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Oct 16, 2017 15:33:56 GMT
Oh thank God it's not just me!!
It always seem to be times when you're feeling this way that you think you're the only one in the world who does and that just makes it all seem worse.
The main culprits right now are my sisters. I keep telling myself that they don't mean the things they say or do, but it just gets so difficult to enjoy their company sometimes. They're not outright aggressive or mean (which would actually make things easier), it's all very passive-aggressive. And no matter how I try to 'prep' myself before I see them, thinking I'm covering every possible topic, they always seem to have one in the chamber and I'm blindsided by what comes up. I'm a great Monday morning quarterback, but not so good with holding my own in the moment.
Last weekend it was a little jab at my being a housewife (disguised as a session of bashing Jessica Simpson's lazy husband) and this weekend was full of poor me's from the sister whose husband has to work crazy hours sometimes. And the other one was more than happy to stroke her. I'm finding that spending time with them is getting less & less fun as the years pass.
Wow. That vent was a lot longer than I thought it was gonna be. I do feel better though. Hope the rest of you ladies do, lol.
Thanx for this thread - apparently I needed it!
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Post by gar on Oct 16, 2017 15:48:18 GMT
No, thank goodness! I can't imagine how wearing that must be. Not that everyone is perfect of course but on the whole things are good and healthy between us most of the time.
Those of you with exhausting family relationships, you have my sympathies.
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Post by #notLauren on Oct 16, 2017 20:09:47 GMT
At times.
I recently had to have a good long heart-to-heart with myself about expectations (mine). Like not expecting people to be there for me just because I've always been there for them. I had a lot of hurt feelings until I had that talk with myself. I'm the one in the family everyone turns to...everyone. Yet whatever I need emotionally, they're good with as long as it requires nothing of them.
I'm getting better about stepping back and focusing on myself.when I start feeling resentful and
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