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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 19, 2017 13:31:26 GMT
THIS is the problem!!
Female Dem lawmaker: Women have some responsibility for preventing sexual harassment
BY MALLORY SHELBOURNE - 10/19/17 08:34 AM EDT A Democratic congresswoman from Texas in a recent interview said she thinks women also have a responsibility to ward off sexual assault and harassment. Rep. Eddie Bernie Johnson (D-Texas) made the comments during an interview with NBC DFW about disgraced film producer Harvey Weinstein. "I grew up in a time when it was as much the woman's responsibility as it was a man's — how you were dressed, what your behavior was," Johnson told the news outlet. "I'm from the old school that you can have behaviors that appear to be inviting. It can be interpreted as such. That's the responsibility, I think, of the female. I think that males have a responsibility to be professional themselves." Johnson's comments come after The New York Times and the New Yorker revealed allegations of sexual harassment and assault, respectively, against Weinstein. The network said it asked Johnson if the conversation about sexual harassment and assault should include how females dress. "I think we also need to start talking about the power that women have to control the situation. There's law enforcement, you can refuse to cooperate with that kind of behavior. I think that many times, men get away with this because they are allowed to get away with it by the women," Johnson said. Multiple Democratic lawmakers, including Senate Minority Leader Charles Schumer (D-N.Y.), have sought to distance themselves from Weinstein, who over the years has been a mega-donor for Democrats. thehill.com/homenews/house/356168-female-dem-lawmaker-women-have-some-responsibility-for-preventing-sexualI am sure I am older than she it! IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2017 13:39:39 GMT
The patriarchy always has its female enablers.
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 19, 2017 14:36:29 GMT
I'm going to agree with her and the point that women have responsibility. But, hear me out. Women do have the power to stop this. Instead of accepting it or teaching our daughters it is flattering, we say no. Women say no. Mom's teach their sons and daughters that it isn't right. Women stand up for other women. Women stand up in the work force to raise holy hell when this crap happens. Women support other women when something comes to light. As noted above the patriarchy always has it's female enablers - women - women call other women out. Women OWN this issue not 1 woman, but WOMEN. We tell our husbands, sons, fathers, and brothers that their behavior is not acceptable. We don't accept this behavior as "boys being boys." We say, no. We teach no. We shouldn't be afraid to do that because of stupid judgement or social expectations. Stop raising our daughters to be compliant to males simply because they are males. Pay attention to those messages that teach little girls they are nothing but pretty faces and vaginas. We as women are so afraid to be seen as powerful, bossy or any of those words that mean great things for boys and bad things for girls. The horror of being a feminist - that means we aren't feminine right??? BS. We as WOMEN stop that. Women need to STOP perpetuating this violence by allowing women to be seen as cattle when it comes to looks and sex. Women call out Hollywood and media for their sexual depiction of children. Women say it isn't right. Women stop being catty about peoples looks. I heard a saying that women dress for other women and that is so true. Tell me last time you walked into a wedding and a GUY actually thought, oh, what a lovely dress. In the 2012 election 51% of all voters were women. We have a voice, we just need to use it. It isn't going to change overnight. We have to be diligent. But we as women absolutely have a responsibility in changing our society to KNOW that this behavior is NOT okay. Please be clear I am NOT into victim blaming - but I sure as hell am talking about changing the woman who believes that victim shaming is acceptable. Call them out. Loudly. You as a woman have that responsibility. **steps gingerly of my lady like soap box** And dare it be said. #metoo. ME FUCKING TOO.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2017 14:42:11 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say).
What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist.
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Post by mommaho on Oct 19, 2017 14:54:37 GMT
We have the responsibility to stop it - but not the responsibility for the unwanted abuse. We are not responsible for those who think it is an open invitation because they are turned on by what they see, hear, smell or think.
Being approached by someone you trust or a complete stranger is no different - wrong is wrong.
From a physician at age 11, an ex who didn't understand the word NO, a trusted co-worker in my early 20's who told me he knew I wanted it.
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 19, 2017 15:15:49 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say). What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist. I do not disagree. Please don't pretend I do. I am saying that the message of sexual abuse is ONLY a male issue is detrimental as a society. Gotta go a bit bigger than the act and see the bigger picture with my comment. For example, working with victims is difficult but imagine working with a victim who KNOWS she has no power because she has been taught she has no power. That she has been taught that it is okay to be felt up, that it is a compliment, that someone who is jealous indicates love, that being attractive is the only thing that matters. What if, we taught that no, none of that is true. That our culture stands up - led by women- and says, HELL NO. We do have that power. There is a lot of research on bystander interventions for all forms of violence but especially so as sexual abuse. The research I find most fascinating is on teen dating violence - when we teach teens what appropriate relationships look for their lifetime risk/perpetration goes significantly down. We can do this. Women need to be this voice to remind everybody - men and women- that this is unacceptable. Here is my favorite image ever
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 19, 2017 15:25:32 GMT
We have the responsibility to stop it - but not the responsibility for the unwanted abuse. We are not responsible for those who think it is an open invitation because they are turned on by what they see, hear, smell or think. Being approached by someone you trust or a complete stranger is no different - wrong is wrong. From a physician at age 11, an ex who didn't understand the word NO, a trusted co-worker in my early 20's who told me he knew I wanted it. Yes, exactly. We need to step up to have a voice in this. Not be afraid to step up, to watch our victim blaming, to watch what we teach our children's - especially a daughter. But like I said, please do not pretend I disagree with you. I do not accept the choices as one person as my responsibility and victims of violence shouldn't either. Go bigger - own that this is OUR problem and let's speak out until there is NO QUESTION that this behavior is UNACCEPTABLE and if it happens to you it is NOT YOUR FAULT, that you are a victim of a CRIME and criminals SHOULD go to jail for a long time (I'm looking at you Brock.) I'm sorry that happened to you. I was 4 and I was 6. When I finally came out with it, it was clear that my vagina was the problem. I had one. The problem was I had a vagina. And I was crying. So what else would you do with a crying vagina but abuse it. Pretty big lesson to learn. What if someone in my life would have said, "no"? What if someone in his life would have said, "no"? What if someone in my 4 year old life would have said, "I believe you"? What if... what if we stand up and say it now? I'm still a crying vagina but I guarantee you I know better. I guarantee my daughters know better.
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Post by auntkelly on Oct 19, 2017 15:44:27 GMT
I really hate the "slutty clothes" argument as a justification for sexual harassment.
I think many women would be shocked if they asked men that harassed women what constituted "slutty clothing." There are men who would say any woman wearing lipstick was asking for it.
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Post by peabay on Oct 19, 2017 15:55:05 GMT
I'm a fat, 52 year old middle aged woman. Trust me, I was not dressed provocatively or behaving in a manner that would invite catcalls when some asshole yelled "sit on my face" to me from a car in Boston last year. In fact, I had to look around to see who they were calling to. And I wasn't flattered either.
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Post by Anna*Banana on Oct 19, 2017 16:10:10 GMT
For the most part, women are the primary care givers in those first years. What the hell are we teaching our boys?! Respect and kindness and not power exerted in a sexual way should be up there along with "please" and "thank you". We need to address that as women, if any part of the equation, is a female issue. NOT what are we wearing. So sick of that crap.
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Post by MizIndependent on Oct 19, 2017 22:17:11 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say). What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist. Of course not...but it can influence whether or not it happens. For instance - Is it alright to walk down a bad part of town dripping in gold necklaces and waving around stacks of cash and expect to be left perfectly alone by criminals who would look at you and see you as a naive easy mark? There's a time and place for just about everything and of course, rape is caused by only one thing --->rapists, but at the same time if you are in an unsecured area (and that could be defined as any area where you isolated or are not known and you don't know any/many people) then you really don't know if there are rapists around who will completely disregard your personal rights as a human and violate you...much like a thief that does the same to someone who indiscriminately flaunts wealth. In such a case precautions really should be taken to protect oneself and that is the responsibility of the person walking into that situation.
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Post by scrappinmama on Oct 19, 2017 23:17:43 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say). What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist. Yes! I can't tell you how many times I received cat calls walking home from elementary school in my Catholic school uniform. These were in the days when your school jumper had to be finger-tip long and you had to wear your sweater over the white blouse. Yet there I was not even 10 years old and hearing whistles or disgusting noises from some men on the street when I walked home.
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Post by tara on Oct 19, 2017 23:21:26 GMT
I really hate the "slutty clothes" argument as a justification for sexual harassment. I think many women would be shocked if they asked men that harassed women what constituted "slutty clothing." There are men who would say any woman wearing lipstick was asking for it. When I was in highschool I had a big chest. It wouldn't have mattered what I had on. It could've been a turtleneck and the jerks at school still said something.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 20, 2017 3:02:09 GMT
If I never left my house again I am sure I could prevent sexual harassment and rape. I mean yeah isn’t that realistic? 🙄 who the heck would buy groceries and stuff? Go see people? But yes I could prevent it fairly well. Ugh.
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Post by hop2 on Oct 20, 2017 4:05:20 GMT
I'm a fat, 52 year old middle aged woman. Trust me, I was not dressed provocatively or behaving in a manner that would invite catcalls when some asshole yelled "sit on my face" to me from a car in Boston last year. In fact, I had to look around to see who they were calling to. And I wasn't flattered either. I was floored when fat lil ole me had some asshole leaned out of a car window yesterday yelling disgusting crap. I was wearing jeans ( not tight ) a collared polo buttoned up with my hair pulled back in a knot and I know I had resting bitch face going on. Actually I’m pretty sure I had actively grouchy bitch face going on. There wasn’t anything about me yesterday that was ‘asking for it’ I could not even have been called attractive. I make pretty sure I am no where close to attractive when I go to work.Neat, yes. Professional, yes. Attractive, doubt it. First, it wouldn’t be practical. Second, I go to a lot of sketchy places I want people to leave me be. And all the sketchy places I go to and spend a lot of my work time in and yet no one has been that rude. Imagine my surprise when this asshole starts up in Snooty Million dollar McMansion suburb of NJ. Blew my mind. I literally yelled WTF is wrong with you. Not kidding. At work. On a public street. I was like so flabbergast. No I was not flattered. So no, it has NOTHING to do with what your wearing. It has to do with something being very wrong with the person who does it. And yes. Me too. 8th grade. Star quarterback grabbed my crotch on the stairs at school. Him & his friends laughed about it and all lied when I told the principal. And I was wearing a freaking turtle neck under a jumper dress that came past my knees and boots that came up to my knees. No ‘skin’ showing.
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Post by flanz on Oct 20, 2017 4:36:42 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say). What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist. I do not disagree. Please don't pretend I do. I am saying that the message of sexual abuse is ONLY a male issue is detrimental as a society. Gotta go a bit bigger than the act and see the bigger picture with my comment. For example, working with victims is difficult but imagine working with a victim who KNOWS she has no power because she has been taught she has no power. That she has been taught that it is okay to be felt up, that it is a compliment, that someone who is jealous indicates love, that being attractive is the only thing that matters. What if, we taught that no, none of that is true. That our culture stands up - led by women- and says, HELL NO. We do have that power. There is a lot of research on bystander interventions for all forms of violence but especially so as sexual abuse. The research I find most fascinating is on teen dating violence - when we teach teens what appropriate relationships look for their lifetime risk/perpetration goes significantly down. We can do this. Women need to be this voice to remind everybody - men and women- that this is unacceptable. Here is my favorite image ever I totally understood what you were saying and I totally agree!!!
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Post by miominmio on Oct 20, 2017 7:30:17 GMT
I really hate the "slutty clothes" argument as a justification for sexual harassment. I think many women would be shocked if they asked men that harassed women what constituted "slutty clothing." There are men who would say any woman wearing lipstick was asking for it. To some men, as long as a woman breathes, she is asking for it.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 20, 2017 7:38:48 GMT
There is an enormous difference, though, between we have POWER to say "No" (what you said) and that we have to wear what we wear to please or not titillate the men (what she and other patriarchy enablers say). What a woman wears or does not wear, does NOT make a single act of sexual harassment, assault or rape understandable or allowable. The POWER to harass, assault or rape lies with the harasser, assaulter, or rapist. Of course not...but it can influence whether or not it happens. For instance - Is it alright to walk down a bad part of town dripping in gold necklaces and waving around stacks of cash and expect to be left perfectly alone by criminals who would look at you and see you as a naive easy mark? There's a time and place for just about everything and of course, rape is caused by only one thing --->rapists, but at the same time if you are in an unsecured area (and that could be defined as any area where you isolated or are not known and you don't know any/many people) then you really don't know if there are rapists around who will completely disregard your personal rights as a human and violate you...much like a thief that does the same to someone who indiscriminately flaunts wealth. In such a case precautions really should be taken to protect oneself and that is the responsibility of the person walking into that situation. The thing is, you can't protect yourself fully against harassment or rape, you just can't. Even wearing a burka, never leaving the house without a male relative and always in broad daylight, will protect you. And as I always tells anyone who says that a woman has a responsibility to protect herself (and citing one of my professors): even though you are dancing butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street, more drunk than a "russ" on May 16th, the only thing that you should risk, is getting arrested for indecent exposure. Even in that scenario, there is no mitigating circumstances if an asshole should decide to rape you, and if I was in court that day, you bet I would do my best to get him put away for as long as the law allows.
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Post by MizIndependent on Oct 20, 2017 15:36:46 GMT
Of course not...but it can influence whether or not it happens. For instance - Is it alright to walk down a bad part of town dripping in gold necklaces and waving around stacks of cash and expect to be left perfectly alone by criminals who would look at you and see you as a naive easy mark? There's a time and place for just about everything and of course, rape is caused by only one thing --->rapists, but at the same time if you are in an unsecured area (and that could be defined as any area where you isolated or are not known and you don't know any/many people) then you really don't know if there are rapists around who will completely disregard your personal rights as a human and violate you...much like a thief that does the same to someone who indiscriminately flaunts wealth. In such a case precautions really should be taken to protect oneself and that is the responsibility of the person walking into that situation. The thing is, you can't protect yourself fully against harassment or rape, you just can't. Even wearing a burka, never leaving the house without a male relative and always in broad daylight, will protect you. And as I always tells anyone who says that a woman has a responsibility to protect herself (and citing one of my professors): even though you are dancing butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street, more drunk than a "russ" on May 16th, the only thing that you should risk, is getting arrested for indecent exposure. Even in that scenario, there is no mitigating circumstances if an asshole should decide to rape you, and if I was in court that day, you bet I would do my best to get him put away for as long as the law allows. No, you can't protect yourself fully...that does not mean you shouldn't try. That does not mean you should dance butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street even though you should be able to, it would be a truly stupid thing to do. And that is the point. I should be able to leave my laptop and purse at my table in a restaurant while I head to the bathroom. Just because you should be able to do something doesn't mean it is advisable.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 20, 2017 17:34:06 GMT
The thing is, you can't protect yourself fully against harassment or rape, you just can't. Even wearing a burka, never leaving the house without a male relative and always in broad daylight, will protect you. And as I always tells anyone who says that a woman has a responsibility to protect herself (and citing one of my professors): even though you are dancing butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street, more drunk than a "russ" on May 16th, the only thing that you should risk, is getting arrested for indecent exposure. Even in that scenario, there is no mitigating circumstances if an asshole should decide to rape you, and if I was in court that day, you bet I would do my best to get him put away for as long as the law allows. No, you can't protect yourself fully...that does not mean you shouldn't try. That does not mean you should dance butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street even though you should be able to, it would be a truly stupid thing to do. And that is the point. I should be able to leave my laptop and purse at my table in a restaurant while I head to the bathroom. Just because you should be able to do something doesn't mean it is advisable. And as soon as we say that "no, you shouldn't do that" etc etc, we are placing a tiiiny bit of responsibility on the victim, and in some small way validating those who will claim she was asking for it. (And I see I forgot a "not" in my first quote).
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Post by #notLauren on Oct 20, 2017 18:06:23 GMT
No, you refuse to recognize the world for what it is. MzIndependent is making the statement that no matter how you believe the world should behave, in the end, if you don't act in accordance with how things actually are, you are far more likely to become a victim.
If you leave your laptop and your purse on a table in a coffee shop, of course no one should steal it. But there's a very good chance they will get stolen and at that point, you are a victim in part because of your own stupidity.
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Post by MizIndependent on Oct 20, 2017 18:19:54 GMT
And as soon as we say that "no, you shouldn't do that" etc etc, we are placing a tiiiny bit of responsibility on the victim, and in some small way validating those who will claim she was asking for it. (And I see I forgot a "not" in my first quote). No, you refuse to recognize the world for what it is. MzIndependent is making the statement that no matter how you believe the world should behave, in the end, if you don't act in accordance with how things actually are, you are far more likely to become a victim. If you leave your laptop and your purse on a table in a coffee shop, of course no one should steal it. But there's a very good chance they will get stolen and at that point, you are a victim in part because of your own stupidity. Exactly. ETA: And by the way, if women aren't taught "no, you shouldn't do that" you are actually setting them up to be a victim because the only way at that point they learn is to become a victim. I raised two girls teaching them that in today's world, this is how it is. It shouldn't be but it is that's just the truth of it. In other parts of the world it's far worse but where we live, this is what is socially acceptable. Stay within those confines and you will likely be safe - but that is not a guarantee because of the world we live in. Rapists rape, thieves steal, drunk drivers kill, and drama queens are snarky. It. Just. Is. or, better stated: It is better to try to keep a bad thing from happening than it is to fix the bad thing once it has happened.
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Post by perumbula on Oct 20, 2017 19:13:12 GMT
No, you can't protect yourself fully...that does not mean you shouldn't try. That does not mean you should dance butt naked in the middle of the night down Main Street even though you should be able to, it would be a truly stupid thing to do. And that is the point. I should be able to leave my laptop and purse at my table in a restaurant while I head to the bathroom. Just because you should be able to do something doesn't mean it is advisable. And as soon as we say that "no, you shouldn't do that" etc etc, we are placing a tiiiny bit of responsibility on the victim, and in some small way validating those who will claim she was asking for it. (And I see I forgot a "not" in my first quote). NO. You are teaching women and girls to stand up for themselves. No can work and it's irresponsible to not teach people ways to protect themselves. Is taking a self-defense class assuming responsibility? How about carrying pepper spray? Trying to help women push back against the abusers by standing firm is not telling women it's their fault. The abuse that happened to me wasn't my fault, but when I got the guts to say no, it stopped. Not everyone is so lucky, but for heaven's sake, we should teach our daughters to do the bare minimum to fight back and that fighting back is not accepting blame.
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Post by compwalla on Oct 20, 2017 19:40:59 GMT
Women have some responsibility for preventing sexual harassment Yes. They should not sexually harass anyone. The. End.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 20, 2017 19:48:03 GMT
Smile!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2017 23:02:33 GMT
Texan here. Edie has always been a bit of whack job.
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Post by maryland on Oct 21, 2017 0:01:48 GMT
For the most part, women are the primary care givers in those first years. What the hell are we teaching our boys?! Respect and kindness and not power exerted in a sexual way should be up there along with "please" and "thank you". We need to address that as women, if any part of the equation, is a female issue. NOT what are we wearing. So sick of that crap. I taught my girls that. I feel if they are taught to respect others (both genders!) they would expect others to treat them with respect as well. I wish all parents taught their sons/daughters about respecting others and not to exert power in a way to make others feel threatened or uncomfortable. (I hope that makes sense!)
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 21, 2017 0:08:03 GMT
Men are 100% responsible to prevent sexual harassment, particularly to stop rape! But of course women are responsible for their words and actions toward sexual harassment. Th pendulum does go both ways although male to female is far more common. NOT how they dress or where they go. Male and female must keep themselves safe when going into unknown or unsafe neighborhoods/situations. I taught my girls that. I feel if they are taught to respect others (both genders!) they would expect others to treat them with respect as well. I wish all parents taught their sons/daughters about respecting others and not to exert power in a way to make others feel threatened or uncomfortable. (I hope that makes sense!) Correct. I tried and think I did a reasonable job with my son.
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Post by scrapnnana on Oct 21, 2017 0:36:41 GMT
There is NO excuse for sexual harassment or rape.
However, as women, as mothers, as teachers, we can and should clearly teach young men that women are not sexual objects. We also need to be willing to speak out against pornography, because it paints a very unrealistic picture and portrays women as sex objects. Many rapists view porn and then go act out their fantasies on whatever poor girl is handy.
I raised my 4 sons to respect women. My oldest two sons are both married to girls who have always dressed modestly. DS #4 is planning to propose in early February to a girl who dresses modestly. DS #3 dates girls who dress modestly and is hoping to find someone who will be a good match. When he marries, he is going to marry a girl who dresses modestly.
I raised my daughter to dress modestly out of respect for herself. Dressing provacatively is NOT an invitation to be groped or worse, but some guys will assume it is. Also, dressing modestly DOES increase a girl's chances of attracting the kind of guys who notice her for more than just her body. It's not a guarantee, unfortunately, so another thing we should be sure to teach our daughters is how to defend themselves from sexual predators. A cop taught our women's group some simple and effective defense techniques. He also taught us to fight as if our lives depended on it, because these days, it often does.
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Post by maryland on Oct 21, 2017 1:30:09 GMT
Men are 100% responsible to prevent sexual harassment, particularly to stop rape! But of course women are responsible for their words and actions toward sexual harassment. Th pendulum does go both ways although male to female is far more common. NOT how they dress or where they go. Male and female must keep themselves safe when going into unknown or unsafe neighborhoods/situations. I taught my girls that. I feel if they are taught to respect others (both genders!) they would expect others to treat them with respect as well. I wish all parents taught their sons/daughters about respecting others and not to exert power in a way to make others feel threatened or uncomfortable. (I hope that makes sense!) Correct. I tried and think I did a reasonable job with my son. Thank you for saying that male and females must try to keep themselves safe when going into unsafe neighborhood/situations! My daughter has a sociology class studying crime, gender and race. They were saying that men are more likely to be crime victims. But when women are victims, they are more likely to be a victim of someone they know. Men are more likely to be the victim of a stranger. I wish instead of people always telling women to not go places alone after dark/unsafe area they would just tell "people" to be careful instead of women being singled out. I think it's always good to be with someone, regardless of gender! That's something that I liked when at my daughter's college orientation. They talked about escorts to walk with students after dark and ride share. They say they want both boys and girls to use it! And I think the "escort" is always 2 students so the escort isn't walking alone him/herself.
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