Post by Dixie Lou on Oct 27, 2017 1:26:51 GMT
I have a friend I'll call Nancy. She lives in a different state than I do. We had a mutual friend I'll call Lisa. Lisa lives in Canada.
Nancy and I have been friends for almost 40 years. We started out as pen pals so our relationship has mostly been long distance. We've met in Vegas several times to see our favorite singers. We will go months without communication but at other times we will message several times a day. I feel somewhat protective of her. I think she has some kind of developmental disability though if she did it would be mild.
Lisa, Nancy and I met in Vegas at a show. Nancy and Lisa became better friends than Lisa and I did. Nancy is more into famous people and has hundreds of Facebook friends who are fans of different people. I only friend people who I know in real life. I made an exception when I met Lisa (hey I met her so "knew" her in a way) but she kind of ticked me off about six months ago so I unfriended her. Mostly I am not interested in being Facebook friends of people I don't know. You'd think she wouldn't have noticed I unfriended her. Well apparently I am the devil because of it. Who cares. Nancy and Lisa have 60 mutual friends.
Nancy and I didn't speak (not angry, just having one of those dry spells) for those six months. She messaged me a month ago to tell me Lisa had been saying nasty things to her on Facebook. It happened several times. She told me she didn't want to be friends with Lisa anymore so I told her to unfriend her. So she did. Lisa noticed and messaged Nancy over and over and over about why she would be like "Dixie Lou" and unfriend her. Nancy blocked her on Facebook. Now Lisa won't stop texting her and emailing her, saying really mean things.
Well she just messaged me saying that she got her email blocked. She doesn't have her phone number in her phone but says someone is going to show her how to block Lisa next time she texts. Nancy is now worried about Lisa being in Vegas the next time she and I are there. I'm all brave to Nancy but dang! I'm kind of worried too! I am good at not making eye contact or engaging with people but it sounds like this lady is going to be a problem. What are the chances we'll be in Vegas at the same time? You'd think it would be slim but we see a lot of the same people each year. Our favorite singers aren't there year round. I have to go during the one month of the summer that he is there because I'm a teacher.
I've about said all I could say to Nancy telling her she isn't a horrible person for un-friending her and no, she didn't do anything to deserve this. Poor Nancy just feels terrible. I tell her I am proud of her for being strong and encourage her best I can. It's like talking to a child.I don't mean that to sound mean because she is a very good friend of mine. Nancy is in her mid fifties and retired early a few years ago because of two bullies at her work place, where her brother was her boss.
I guess I am asking for a little validation and maybe some thoughts about what I can do for Nancy.
Nancy and I have been friends for almost 40 years. We started out as pen pals so our relationship has mostly been long distance. We've met in Vegas several times to see our favorite singers. We will go months without communication but at other times we will message several times a day. I feel somewhat protective of her. I think she has some kind of developmental disability though if she did it would be mild.
Lisa, Nancy and I met in Vegas at a show. Nancy and Lisa became better friends than Lisa and I did. Nancy is more into famous people and has hundreds of Facebook friends who are fans of different people. I only friend people who I know in real life. I made an exception when I met Lisa (hey I met her so "knew" her in a way) but she kind of ticked me off about six months ago so I unfriended her. Mostly I am not interested in being Facebook friends of people I don't know. You'd think she wouldn't have noticed I unfriended her. Well apparently I am the devil because of it. Who cares. Nancy and Lisa have 60 mutual friends.
Nancy and I didn't speak (not angry, just having one of those dry spells) for those six months. She messaged me a month ago to tell me Lisa had been saying nasty things to her on Facebook. It happened several times. She told me she didn't want to be friends with Lisa anymore so I told her to unfriend her. So she did. Lisa noticed and messaged Nancy over and over and over about why she would be like "Dixie Lou" and unfriend her. Nancy blocked her on Facebook. Now Lisa won't stop texting her and emailing her, saying really mean things.
Well she just messaged me saying that she got her email blocked. She doesn't have her phone number in her phone but says someone is going to show her how to block Lisa next time she texts. Nancy is now worried about Lisa being in Vegas the next time she and I are there. I'm all brave to Nancy but dang! I'm kind of worried too! I am good at not making eye contact or engaging with people but it sounds like this lady is going to be a problem. What are the chances we'll be in Vegas at the same time? You'd think it would be slim but we see a lot of the same people each year. Our favorite singers aren't there year round. I have to go during the one month of the summer that he is there because I'm a teacher.
I've about said all I could say to Nancy telling her she isn't a horrible person for un-friending her and no, she didn't do anything to deserve this. Poor Nancy just feels terrible. I tell her I am proud of her for being strong and encourage her best I can. It's like talking to a child.I don't mean that to sound mean because she is a very good friend of mine. Nancy is in her mid fifties and retired early a few years ago because of two bullies at her work place, where her brother was her boss.
I guess I am asking for a little validation and maybe some thoughts about what I can do for Nancy.
