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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 28, 2017 19:55:50 GMT
When my mother died my sister and I kept everything. Her craft room could have put Michaels out of business. After a few years I realized that there were things that I truly wouldn't use, things I hadn't touched since I put them in the box, etc. Those are the items that I photographed and then donated. I don't miss any of them. I kept the things that truly matter. It's very freeing and another step in the grief process. You're letting go of some years of great devastation. Perhaps you're ready to let these things go. If so, give yourself permission to do this and let them go. Then do something loving for yourself that your mother would want you to do in order to make yourself feel better.
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Post by utmr on Oct 28, 2017 23:20:16 GMT
One thing that worked for me when I was trying to get rid of some gifts my dad had given me that I really did not like or have use for, was to say out loud...."Just because I am getting rid of this does not mean I don't love you dad." It was just mind game, but it really helped with the guilt I was having. Especially because it was my dad. I just did this. Went through a bag and said “I love you Mommy but I need to get rid of this.” It sounds crazy but I can feel her here telling me it’s ok. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 29, 2017 2:50:30 GMT
Not old family stuff but my old stuff... I found it easier to get rid of it with someone there with me. She was great, she packed boxes for me and boxes to donate, junk to throw out. It didn't hurt that with 3 buildings moving here, they put a dumpster on the lawns. I had a place to send a few boxes with a friend to donate, I was not able to store a lot for a pick up!
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Post by scrapnnana on Oct 29, 2017 4:15:05 GMT
I lived in the same house for about 33 years. Then we moved halfway across the country. What made it easier for me was to give the things I did not need to a charity that helped women escaping abuse. It made it easier to let go because it was a worthwhile charity.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2017 5:22:41 GMT
Take a photo and get rid of it.
Btw if you have things like scrapbooks , cards , letter. Leave instructions what you want done with it all. I had a huge guilt trip a couple years back about getting of a friend's scrapbooks. The peas said it was okay to toss them.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Oct 29, 2017 8:24:50 GMT
2 years ago I sorted through a giant house filled with 34 years and raising 4 kids worth of stuff. And lots of crafting materials. And my ex’s giant shop full of tools and equipment.
It was a daunting task.
Marie Kondo’s books really helped. In a nutshell, envision how you want to live, and ask yourself if the item in question brings you joy.
Lately, I’ve been paring down some more, here in my bedroom which is all I have now, asking myself, “how can I focus on my future, if I’m surrounded by stuff from my past ?”
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Oct 29, 2017 8:39:09 GMT
Just because she loved it, doesn't mean that I do. this is a very true statement. So is this one: "Just because I am getting rid of this does not mean I don't love you dad." Just because you don't want the ITEM any longer doesn't lessen the feeling you have for the person who gave it to you. I need to remember both of these things. And also to remember that it's okay that my tastes, and my tolerance for 'stuff' and clutter, have changed over the years. Good luck to you in your sorting and purging! eta: ooh, I like this one, too! “how can I focus on my future, if I’m surrounded by stuff from my past ?” |
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