In need of prayers...

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences.

That is definitely not being too sensitive! That is painful and horrible for any parent to have to deal with, and if you just danced around like everything was fine and perfect and wonderful for Hannukah, I'd think there was something seriously wrong with you.

Be gentle with yourself. If there's a party and you still want/need to go, do it. But don't put pressure on yourself to be overly festive. Surely anyone who truly cares will understand - and if you have to leave, that's OK, too.

I'm so terribly sorry, and will most certainly keep you in my prayers. If you don't mind, what's your son's name?

Hugs and prayers for you. People need to understand that grief can take years to work through. So sorry about the loss of your son, I can't imagine how hard that would be.
You need to put yourself as your #1 priority right now, and only do what you feel like doing.

No no no! I’m so sorry. For the death of your son and the insensitivity of your relative.

I promise she’s just not thinking. Until they’ve been there, people don’t understand.

If you need to step out of the holidays this year, do it. Or do what you feel up to. My first Christmas without dh was almost 6 months later. I chose to send my kids to spend the day with the family and I showed up long enough to eat dinner and leave. It worked for me. But I had a much longer time to process and live without him. If you want to spend the day wrapped up in a blanket, give yourself permission. If you go anywhere, tell them you’re not bringing anything and don’t know how long you’ll be able to stay. How much can your broken heart handle?

You have to do what you need to do. No need to explain to anyone. Don't apologize.

The Christmas after my db's passing (in September) his wife offered to bring homemade buns to our Christmas dinner. She called from her cell phone from her car at the road at the end of our long driveway, and said she had the buns for our dinner but just could not come in to the house. She had been sitting there awhile trying to get the courage to come into the house. I went out to meet her; we shared a hug; and I came back to the house full of people with the buns. She went home where she spent the rest of the evening alone.

My deepest condolences go out to you. No one should have to endure the death of their child.

You are not being overly sensitive; you are devastated and grieving and adjusting to a world without your son. I am sorry you don't have more support.

I'm so very sorry.  I can't imagine the pain of losing a child, no matter the age.
You are in my prayers.

I’m sooo sorry for your loss. Don’t even think that you’re being too sensitive. Only losing your son 2 weeks ago is like an open wound. You are still processing that he’s gone and your healing and adjusting has not even begun. I’m going to give your extended famiky a break and say maybe they just want to help you keep busy during these terrible holidays for you.

If you are not up to participating, just speak up. Maybe tell your husband and let him speak to his family or any other friends or family that need to understand. Please don’t be hard on yourself.

((HUGS))

I am so, so sorry for your loss. No mom should ever have to bury her baby, whatever stage of life we're at.

This nonsense is on the relative, not you. You deserve to be treated gently and with love and consideration while you work through your horrific loss.

If you want to attend empty handed, go ahead. If you want to stay home, do it. Don't let these people (or your DH) guilt you into doing anything that doesn't feel right at this time.

You be kind to yourself even if the others don't/can't/will never understand.

ETA here is an organization called Compassionate Friends for parents who have lost a child. I know people who greatly benefited from joining a local chapter. Give them a look when you feel like it.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Ignore the comment. She wasn't being mean, she just doesn't understand.

You do what you can and if you can't do it, don't! Do not feel pressured to do more than you can handle.

Many hugs to you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine.

You do what you have to do to help you get through the holidays. If it's just staying at home, then do that. Look after you right now.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sadly, some people just don’t think before they speak. And some are just clueless or insensitive. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs and prayers. 

Sorry for your loss. Take time for yourself. It does not matter the loss was from a different marriage, it is still a loss and painful. I second the recommendation of compassionate friends. They can be a lifeline when every one thinks you should be over it it, and you aren't. Grief is on your time line not theirs.

I am so sorry for your loss and I honestly cannot say how I would be feeling as I have never experienced this. I think I would be a mess, no, I know I would. NO ONE gets to put a timeline on grieving. Everyone is different. I really like how jenjie summed it up. Give yourself permission to grieve as you need to and you owe no one an explanation, nor should anyone be looking for one, especially family.