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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 5, 2014 15:21:15 GMT
I have so much bottled up, and for the sake of keeping the peace, I can't say it to those I mean it for. So here's a say it here thread for all those who need it.  1. Person [HASH]1: Stop using the things I buy because you are too busy spending your money on fun things to buy the necessities! Don't say that you can't buy Tide because it is too expensive, then go and use all mine up! You make more than me! I am supporting children and you are supporting no one, not even yourself (other than your fun money). So $^%! you and stop mooching. Oh, and by the way, you are a real a$$hole for buying a cake, putting it in the fridge and then writing just yours & dad's name on it. Don't think he didn't see that, and he took off the note & wrote that it's for everyone, but no one will touch it now because we see what you intended. You're an a$$hole. Stop eating the food I buy (all of it!) if you are going to do sh!t like that. 2. Person [HASH]2: No, I will not "forgive" the arrears on the child support you own our children. Do you have any idea on how low that is, to even ask that? I am working double shifts, desperately trying to make ends meet, and you aren't even trying to support them at all. I didn't put you in the financial situation you are in. You did, by quitting your job. And by running up all the debt you are in. It is not my problem that you are irresponsible. And I will not "lighten your burden" by calling up child support to have your arrears forgiven with the promise that you will "get it to me later." A$$hat, you are not getting it to me now." I hate you. I don't say it to your face, but I hate you all the same. 3. (This is a say it here that is nice, but I still can't say it to the person, because it would be awkward.) Person [HASH]3: Thank you for scheduling me extra shifts. You don't have any idea just how badly I need them, and I hope you are giving them to me because I am proving myself competent, even though I'm fairly new. Every time you ask if I can work another shift, I smile because I need the hours so desperately. Thank you. |
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Post by sarahyoo72 on Sept 5, 2014 15:46:15 GMT
I need this thread today, thank you for starting it!
Person A - I asked your opinion about what cell phone would be suitable for my Mum. I was grateful that you did some research on tarriffs. But she does not want, need or can afford an iPhone. Stop trying to convince me otherwise. None of my siblings or other family members have one, so trying to promote the benefits that would only apply to me, is not worth my mum spending $400 on a phone. She wants a phone to call or text in an emergency, as a safety net. She is a complete technophobe.
Person B - I can't believe you haven't visited Dad for nearly 3 months. Putting your head in the sand is not going to change the fact that Dad has ALS. Being in denial is not going to help Mum when she needs help and support. Yes, it is terrifying. Yes, things are going to get bad. If I can fly over to the UK from Florida to be there for her, and to spend time with Dad, then I'm damned if you can't travel the relatively short distance from your home to theirs once in a while. Its not as though you have kids to look after, or a demanding job (or any job as far as I am aware) that prevents you from visiting. I know you don't drive, but there are public transport options, and even our brother has offered to pick you up. Stop avoiding the inevitable, and step up to the plate. Our parents have done so much for you over the years, it's time to start giving something back.
Thank you. I really, really needed to get that off my chest.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2014 15:47:25 GMT
Oh I so need it!!
Dear brothers, stop sitting on your arses and watching me do every single thing that needs to be done for the care of our parents. I'm tired of being the only one who does anything. My health is not the best, I haven't eaten solid food for seven years, I'm exhausted and bordering on the edge of a major slide in to depression. At least offer me some fecking help!
I miss my home, my husband, my cat, my Meetup groups, basically I miss having my own life. I know you both think that me even mentioning having any needs of my own makes me a selfish cow but at this point I just want to tell you to bite me.
Well that feels a little better.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2014 15:56:24 GMT
Dear back,
I really do not understand why you continue to bother me after all that we have been through this past year. The surgery was supposed to be the one thing that fixed you yet here I am still in pain.
And to DH, I know you cannot possibly understand just how much this affects me. You were there and heard the same thing that I did. "This should fix it" but guess what? It has not. I am not just whining, I am not being a hypochondriac, I am in pain. Thanks.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Sept 5, 2014 16:05:15 GMT
LavenderLayoutLady, glad you are able to get the extra shifts you need. Sorry that circumstances force you to need them.
Hugs and positive vibes to all who need them. I hope things change for the better for all of you soon.
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Post by krazykatlady on Sept 5, 2014 16:14:16 GMT
It's heartbreaking to read some of these. Too bad you just can't say it out loud to those who need to hear it. {{{hugs}}} to you all.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Sept 5, 2014 16:20:14 GMT
I have so much bottled up, and for the sake of keeping the peace, I can't say it to those I mean it for. So here's a say it here thread for all those who need it. 1. Person [HASH]1: Stop using the things I buy because you are too busy spending your money on fun things to buy the necessities! Don't say that you can't buy Tide because it is too expensive, then go and use all mine up! You make more than me! I am supporting children and you are supporting no one, not even yourself (other than your fun money). So $^%! you and stop mooching. Oh, and by the way, you are a real a$$hole for buying a cake, putting it in the fridge and then writing just yours & dad's name on it. Don't think he didn't see that, and he took off the note & wrote that it's for everyone, but no one will touch it now because we see what you intended. You're an a$$hole. Stop eating the food I buy (all of it!) if you are going to do sh!t like that. 2. Person [HASH]2: No, I will not "forgive" the arrears on the child support you own our children. Do you have any idea on how low that is, to even ask that? I am working double shifts, desperately trying to make ends meet, and you aren't even trying to support them at all. I didn't put you in the financial situation you are in. You did, by quitting your job. And by running up all the debt you are in. It is not my problem that you are irresponsible. And I will not "lighten your burden" by calling up child support to have your arrears forgiven with the promise that you will "get it to me later." A$$hat, you are not getting it to me now." I hate you. I don't say it to your face, but I hate you all the same. 3. (This is a say it here that is nice, but I still can't say it to the person, because it would be awkward.) Person [HASH]3: Thank you for scheduling me extra shifts. You don't have any idea just how badly I need them, and I hope you are giving them to me because I am proving myself competent, even though I'm fairly new. Every time you ask if I can work another shift, I smile because I need the hours so desperately. Thank you. Hope things get better for you! *hugs* |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 5, 2014 16:25:37 GMT
Dear Professor, requiring five discussion board posts and a mini paper every week is ridiculous. It's accounting for pete's sake. All facts and figures. What is there to discuss? And coming up with three references is a real chore since no one writes about general accounting principles. This class is a joke. Let's just do the math and call it good.
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Post by luckyexwife on Sept 5, 2014 17:09:04 GMT
You complain and complain and complain about how your family judges your parenting, how they undermine your disipline, how you feel judged by them...yet your daughter just spent 2.5 weeks with them 5 hours away from you, because you were trying to buy a house and it easier to do it when she wasn't there. Now that she is back, all you have done is complain yet again about how her behavior is now. Sorry, but you can't have it both ways. Either buck up and be a mom and take responsibility, or run to your parents for everything and let them do it their way. For what it's worth, she is married, and works part time. I now change the subject every time she brings it up.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2014 17:27:11 GMT
Dear real friends ... i know you mean well...but please stop trying to "reunite" me with some people who are not true friends, never really have been and never really will be....
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 5, 2014 17:35:27 GMT
I have so much bottled up, and for the sake of keeping the peace, I can't say it to those I mean it for. So here's a say it here thread for all those who need it. 1. Person [HASH]1: Stop using the things I buy because you are too busy spending your money on fun things to buy the necessities! Don't say that you can't buy Tide because it is too expensive, then go and use all mine up! You make more than me! I am supporting children and you are supporting no one, not even yourself (other than your fun money). So $^%! you and stop mooching. Oh, and by the way, you are a real a$$hole for buying a cake, putting it in the fridge and then writing just yours & dad's name on it. Don't think he didn't see that, and he took off the note & wrote that it's for everyone, but no one will touch it now because we see what you intended. You're an a$$hole. Stop eating the food I buy (all of it!) if you are going to do sh!t like that. 2. Person [HASH]2: No, I will not "forgive" the arrears on the child support you own our children. Do you have any idea on how low that is, to even ask that? I am working double shifts, desperately trying to make ends meet, and you aren't even trying to support them at all. I didn't put you in the financial situation you are in. You did, by quitting your job. And by running up all the debt you are in. It is not my problem that you are irresponsible. And I will not "lighten your burden" by calling up child support to have your arrears forgiven with the promise that you will "get it to me later." A$$hat, you are not getting it to me now." I hate you. I don't say it to your face, but I hate you all the same. 3. (This is a say it here that is nice, but I still can't say it to the person, because it would be awkward.) Person [HASH]3: Thank you for scheduling me extra shifts. You don't have any idea just how badly I need them, and I hope you are giving them to me because I am proving myself competent, even though I'm fairly new. Every time you ask if I can work another shift, I smile because I need the hours so desperately. Thank you. Hope things get better for you! *hugs* Thank you! |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 5, 2014 17:38:18 GMT
I need this thread today, thank you for starting it! Person A - I asked your opinion about what cell phone would be suitable for my Mum. I was grateful that you did some research on tarriffs. But she does not want, need or can afford an iPhone. Stop trying to convince me otherwise. None of my siblings or other family members have one, so trying to promote the benefits that would only apply to me, is not worth my mum spending $400 on a phone. She wants a phone to call or text in an emergency, as a safety net. She is a complete technophobe. Person B - I can't believe you haven't visited Dad for nearly 3 months. Putting your head in the sand is not going to change the fact that Dad has ALS. Being in denial is not going to help Mum when she needs help and support. Yes, it is terrifying. Yes, things are going to get bad. If I can fly over to the UK from Florida to be there for her, and to spend time with Dad, then I'm damned if you can't travel the relatively short distance from your home to theirs once in a while. Its not as though you have kids to look after, or a demanding job (or any job as far as I am aware) that prevents you from visiting. I know you don't drive, but there are public transport options, and even our brother has offered to pick you up. Stop avoiding the inevitable, and step up to the plate. Our parents have done so much for you over the years, it's time to start giving something back. Thank you. I really, really needed to get that off my chest. (((hugs))) |
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Post by luckyexwife on Sept 5, 2014 17:44:53 GMT
I need this thread today, thank you for starting it! Person A - I asked your opinion about what cell phone would be suitable for my Mum. I was grateful that you did some research on tarriffs. But she does not want, need or can afford an iPhone. Stop trying to convince me otherwise. None of my siblings or other family members have one, so trying to promote the benefits that would only apply to me, is not worth my mum spending $400 on a phone. She wants a phone to call or text in an emergency, as a safety net. She is a complete technophobe. Person B - I can't believe you haven't visited Dad for nearly 3 months. Putting your head in the sand is not going to change the fact that Dad has ALS. Being in denial is not going to help Mum when she needs help and support. Yes, it is terrifying. Yes, things are going to get bad. If I can fly over to the UK from Florida to be there for her, and to spend time with Dad, then I'm damned if you can't travel the relatively short distance from your home to theirs once in a while. Its not as though you have kids to look after, or a demanding job (or any job as far as I am aware) that prevents you from visiting. I know you don't drive, but there are public transport options, and even our brother has offered to pick you up. Stop avoiding the inevitable, and step up to the plate. Our parents have done so much for you over the years, it's time to start giving something back. Thank you. I really, really needed to get that off my chest. I'm very sorry about your Dad's diagnosis. My dad passed away from ALS 5 years ago. I went with to every Dr appointment, and it is a horrible disease. ((((Hugs))) |
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Post by smartypants71 on Sept 5, 2014 17:45:33 GMT
I f&%^@ing HATE CVS/Caremark!!!!!!
They screwed up my credit card payment and it took them THREE days to process it correct even after I called 2 more times, so now my insulin which my life depends on won't be here until next week. I seriously want to punch somebody.
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Post by grammanisi on Sept 5, 2014 17:50:07 GMT
Dear sister, stop being such a narcissistic bitch. I know that you and your husband think the world revolves around you, but it doesn't. Dad has been deathly ill in the hospital for over a week, have you called once to see how he is? No, you wait for me or my daughter to call you and let you know. You know that my grandson has to have surgery and that I am so worried about him. You got all snarky on my FB pictures of OUR great nephew's first bday party. It's not my fault you can't get along with anyone else in the family, therefore you are not invited to family functions. You know that I have shingles(most likely due to the tremendous stress I have been under) and Lupus, yet you stir the pot and make things worse. Please grow up and act like the 49yo adult you are.
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Post by 1lear on Sept 5, 2014 17:51:07 GMT
I hope everyone who has a vent is able to enjoy their weekend. Hugs to you all!
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Post by sisterbdsq on Sept 5, 2014 17:59:39 GMT
I loaned you money because you were crying about being broke. The next day you bought some crazy shit you didn't need, then told me you took yourself out for a fancy dinner. How is that paying your electric bill? I love you and I always will because you are my BFF, but I will never give you a DIME again. and yes, we all know that you are very overweight. You cry about it all the time. I love you so I don't care that you are overweight as long as you are healthy, but then you make cheesecakes and processed food extravaganzas for dinner, go out for ice cream with your other overweight (and diabetic post-cancer treatment) friend and you quit sports and fitness. I have no sympathy. I still love you, but fuck, you make really bad choices. But I still love you. A lot.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2014 18:02:11 GMT
Ex - I give you the courtesy to give you all of my attention for the 10 minutes during the switch. If my phone buzzes with a text, I either let DH deal with it or I answer it after you leave. I never get my phone out and start answering texts, especially when you're talking. Never. But yet, you do it ALL. THE. TIME. Last time, I stopped talking and started to leave. Next time, I will call you out on your rudeness. I have NO respect left for you. None. You asked for a picture of the boys on the first day of school. I sent you one. You never thanked me for it. All you do is remind me that staying in town so that we can keep our custody arrangement was a big mistake.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2014 18:06:24 GMT
Dear brother, stop sending me fedex messages to call you. What you do with the will is your business . Ps don't expect me to pay taxes on anything.
And who exactly was taking of mom when she die?
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Post by PEArfect on Sept 5, 2014 18:09:12 GMT
My vent will sound bitter, but I'll share anyway.
To the soccer mom venting last night at the game about getting up with her husband at all hours. He had a work accident that left him legally blind. The specialist isn't sure if he will regain his sight. I felt horrible for her until she started talking about how it's affecting their relationship. How trying something like this on a relationship. (I agree.) Then she starts comparing it to the loss of a child. NO...not the same. Sorry! It's not the same as losing someone. She went on to say that she was taking her oldest daughter on a shopping spree for helping with her younger siblings...it has been so hard on her. I know it is awful, and I feel for her and her kids, but I still couldn't help to think "at least they still have their dad." My motto is 'better not bitter', but honestly it's hard some days. I'm trying.
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Post by loco coco on Sept 5, 2014 18:23:33 GMT
so needed this today, I hope your situation gets better :hugs:
MOM- can you act like a sweet caring mom for once? You know I dont have my dad and sometimes I just want a sweet mom who wants to spend time with me. Also, complaining about seeing your grandson makes me SICK and terrified what its going to be like when I have kids. Your children should not have to beg you for your time.
GOD/LIFE/WHATEVER: Why did you take away my darling sweet mother in law? I only had her for 2 years and I wanted more time. She told me I was the daughter she never had and our bond was unbreakable. My heart aches for her kindness and laugh every day. I am having a hard time letting go because I dont want to.
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Sept 5, 2014 18:49:41 GMT
Person [HASH]1 The appropriate thing to do when receiving a gift is to acknowledge that gift whether it be a thank-you note, a phone call, or simply a text. Don't b&&tch that I'm not trying to form a relationship with you and then turn around and ignore a genuine gesture on my part.
Person [HASH]2 Don't call me and ask me to respond on Facebook to a post you made on your page so that "it looks good" to everyone that is your "friend" on Facebook. I am a grown woman and will respond or not respond as I choose.
Person [HASH]3 I've bent over backwards to make you feel a part of the family. It can't be a one-way street, you have to put some effort into
it yourself and no, just because I'm older does not put the burden all on me.............I can't do it all..........you have to do your part.
Person [HASH]4 I am a well-respected member of my community and church. I've never committed a crime and I've spend a life-time mentoring children and teenagers in my career. I am financially secure, have raised three children that are also respected in the community and
you saw fit to marry one of them. There is NO REASON that justifies your keeping me from seeing my grandchildren other than you
are manipulative, spoiled, and won't admit you've made a mistake.
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Post by georgiapea on Sept 5, 2014 18:58:21 GMT
Smarty Pants 71, have you talked to your CVS pharmacists? Any time I've had a difficulty with my Rx's, they have given me enough to last until my RX is straightened out. Well, not "give" but deducted from the total.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 5, 2014 19:10:20 GMT
My vent will sound bitter, but I'll share anyway. To the soccer mom venting last night at the game about getting up with her husband at all hours. He had a work accident that left him legally blind. The specialist isn't sure if he will regain his sight. I felt horrible for her until she started talking about how it's affecting their relationship. How trying something like this on a relationship. (I agree.) Then she starts comparing it to the loss of a child. NO...not the same. Sorry! It's not the same as losing someone. She went on to say that she was taking her oldest daughter on a shopping spree for helping with her younger siblings...it has been so hard on her. I know it is awful, and I feel for her and her kids, but I still couldn't help to think "at least they still have their dad." My motto is 'better not bitter', but honestly it's hard some days. I'm trying. (((hugs))) So many hugs. |
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Sept 5, 2014 19:37:54 GMT
It's heartbreaking to read some of these. Too bad you just can't say it out loud to those who need to hear it. {{{hugs}}} to you all. A thousand times this! Mine are petty in comparison, but please bear with me. Persons #1-486: Just leave earlier. Do not cut me off. Do not run stop signs. Do not weave in & out of traffic, trying to find the fastest lane. Do not tailgate. Do not cause gridlock. Just leave earlier. Person #487: If my 15 yr. old son wanted to play w/your 7 yr. old daughter, it would be kinda creepy. Just because they are cousins does not meant he should spend every family event w/her glued to his side. Stop expecting this and stop being hurt when it isn't what happens. His wants & needs are just as important as hers. |
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Post by leannec on Sept 5, 2014 19:49:34 GMT
Dear BFF: I know that you hate not having a boyfriend and I'm really happy that you have met someone recently through an online dating site ... I'm looking forward to meeting him ... my issue is that when you get into any relationship (no matter how new) you no longer have much time for me ... I literally need to book time with you in advance and it sucks ... I'm still able to make time for you even though I have a husband and kids ... Some Saturday nights can be spent with friends rather than boyfriends, right?  |
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Post by conchita on Sept 5, 2014 19:51:31 GMT
Mom, We all know you left early because you are an alcoholic and would rather drink than spend time with your only grandchildren that you haven't seen for the past three years. And all those times you slipped away to sip on whatever was in your purse did not go unnoticed. You're only fooling yourself.
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Post by arlamo on Sept 5, 2014 20:10:45 GMT
To all of you who have real issues, hugs! Hope things get better soon!
Mine is just a petty vent:
Dear City Road Planner - I don't know whose brilliant idea it was to save construction on the road in front of the middle school and high school until the week school started, but it is a chaotic mess! The road is "closed" and a flagger allows a car or two (or school bus) to enter the construction zone at a time. Not only is it the only access to the two schools, but it is the main road through our town and it accesses the highway. So anyone wanting to get to the highway has to weave their way through a tiny road that runs between Walmart and a strip mall. Perhaps summer would have been a better option??!!!!!
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 5, 2014 20:14:47 GMT
PEArfect...people are so clueless. It must have been difficult to not smack her.
I've been there with my own sister making thoughtless remarks about killing off her DH, even though she knows my DH is fighting for his life.
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Post by KikiPea on Sept 5, 2014 20:16:00 GMT
I have been waiting this week for my new prescription readers to come in. They said it could take a little longer for them to come in due to the holiday. I called them today to see when they would be in. She said they came in on the 2nd and I should have received a TEXT that they were available to pick up. First of all, I never received a text. Second of all, you are a business; CALL me when they are ready. Thanks!  |
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