Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Jan 4, 2018 22:19:49 GMT
A half aunt might make more sense if you've got some double great-grandparents in there It looks as if we have a distant relative in common on my mother's side - my 4th great-grand father was her 3rd great-grandfather. But like I said, that was on my mother's side, and all the DNA info is coming from my dad's side. I've dug around a little more and discovered she's only 3 years older than me, and we went to the same high school. This is really freaking me out. I have to go out for a while but I have a feeling I will be up late tonight googling and snooping around.
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Sue
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Post by Sue on Jan 4, 2018 23:02:53 GMT
Look her name up on Veromi. Sometimes you will see parents and/or other relatives listed with them.
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Post by myboysnme on Jan 4, 2018 23:06:05 GMT
My husband's niece came up as first cousin to him. His sister is his half sister so they share one line. She did not come up niece but she is his closest match.
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Post by mom on Jan 5, 2018 4:16:10 GMT
ohh this is curious! Did you find anything new out Rhondito
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2018 4:44:37 GMT
very interesting. It's really amazing what they can determine from DNA! I hope you get some great answers and find some amazing people to add to your tree!
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Post by rahnee on Jan 5, 2018 5:00:31 GMT
My husband has 3 1/2 siblings that have tested. They share 1478cM, 1867cM and 1681cM. The first two share a father with DH. The last one share's a mother with him. His 1/2 nieces (daughters of the 1681cM 1/2 sibling share 989cM and 801cM with him.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Jan 5, 2018 18:55:20 GMT
ohh this is curious! Did you find anything new out Rhondito I've figured out her "parents'" names, but I don't know if they ever married. I think she was born around 1964 or 1965, and the man who is her "dad" married her stepmother in 1968. My parents married in 1965. Her birth mother died in 1980. What has me really confused are the DNA Circles and the matches on Ancestry: - Our common DNA matches are two of my first cousin's on my FATHER'S side. (Children of two of his sisters) We have no common DNA circle connections on this side of my family - We have three DNA circle connections on my MOTHER'S side of my family and on her "DAD'S" side of her family Would this be because she has entered him as her father on her family tree and this family is related to mine back 4-5 generations ago?
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Post by kels99 on Jan 6, 2018 3:20:44 GMT
I have no knowledge to help you, but it's all so very interesting! Keep us updated.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jan 6, 2018 3:37:45 GMT
My cousins' and my DNA would be different than normal cousins. We know that my mother and their father are brother and sister who married first cousins.
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Post by kels99 on Jan 13, 2018 19:01:13 GMT
Any update?
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Post by kels99 on Feb 13, 2018 0:20:56 GMT
Rhondito, do you have any update? Did you figure out who she is?
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Feb 13, 2018 16:44:52 GMT
Rhondito , do you have any update? Did you figure out who she is? Yes! It turns out that her mother is a lady my dad went out with before he started dating my mother. He never knew she was pregnant. I don't know if this lady knew my dad was the father of her baby, and she died in 1980 so no one can ask her. I put a lot of pieces together and finally sent a message to my sister through Ancestry that basically said Hey, I'm pretty sure we're sisters. She called me later that night and I talked to her and her husband. They are both so sweet and so nice! It turns out that she had done the AncestryDNA thing a little over a year ago, for the same reasons I did - just to see what her background was like. Then last summer her father did one and when his results came back it only showed them as 5-6th cousins (She is related to him through her mother's side of the family!) Until then she had no idea he wasn't her father. She said neither of them have said anything to each other about it and she doesn't know if her father realizes he's not her dad and is just avoiding the conversation, or if he doesn't understand the test results. She was going to talk to him about it though. But since last summer she's been scouring DNA sites trying to find any connections. Her husband said in early December she told him she had a dream that received an email from a girl saying she was her sister, and then a few weeks later it happened for real. They live about 2 1/2 hours from me and want to meet, and of course she wants to see pictures of my dad and our family, but my mother is being really weird about it all. She acts as if it's something shameful. Her father was a fire captain, and my grandfather was the fire chief so she says he'll know who my dad was and she doesn't want ANYONE to know. I don't get it - it's not like my dad cheated on my mother, they weren't even dating when my sister was conceived. But all of the family pictures and things are at my mom's house and I don't feel like I can ask for them :/
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 13, 2018 17:02:21 GMT
Rhondito , do you have any update? Did you figure out who she is? Yes! It turns out that her mother is a lady my dad went out with before he started dating my mother. He never knew she was pregnant. I don't know if this lady knew my dad was the father of her baby, and she died in 1980 so no one can ask her. I put a lot of pieces together and finally sent a message to my sister through Ancestry that basically said Hey, I'm pretty sure we're sisters. She called me later that night and I talked to her and her husband. They are both so sweet and so nice! It turns out that she had done the AncestryDNA thing a little over a year ago, for the same reasons I did - just to see what her background was like. Then last summer her father did one and when his results came back it only showed them as 5-6th cousins. Until then she had no idea he wasn't her father. She said neither of them have said anything to each other about it and she doesn't know if her father realizes he's not her dad and is just avoiding the conversation, or if he doesn't understand the test results. She was going to talk to him about it though. But since last summer she's been scouring DNA sites trying to find any connections. Her husband said in early December she told him she had a dream that received an email from a girl saying she was her sister, and then a few weeks later it happened for real. They live about 2 1/2 hours from me and want to meet, and of course she wants to see pictures of my dad and our family, but my mother is being really weird about it all. She acts as if it's something shameful. Her father was a fire captain, and my grandfather was the fire chief so she says he'll know who my dad was and she doesn't want ANYONE to know. I don't get it - it's not like my dad cheated on my mother, they weren't even dating when my sister was conceived. But all of the family pictures and things are at my mom's house and I don't feel like I can ask for them :/ I'm sorry it's upset your mom. I'm sure it's a shock. Hopefully with a bit of time she'll be more comfortable sharing family information with your sister.
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Post by hdoublej on Feb 13, 2018 17:38:54 GMT
WOW! You have found a sister! How exciting! I'm glad it is going well and I hope it continues to. Just remember that this is probably a real shock to your mom. And depending on the conversations your parents had in regards to a prior sex life before they were married, there may be extra feelings she's dealing with as well. She may not have even realized this was a possibility. Older generations still have a different mindset on pre-marital sex and shame can be a part of that mindset. Give her some time. I hope that came across right lol.
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Post by rodeomom on Feb 13, 2018 20:01:35 GMT
She could be your sister. This was my thought from the amount of DNA shared. My brother's wife is also having a harder time than I thought she would. My new niece was born many years before my brother married his wife. My brother is very disappointed his wife is not more supportive of him and his daughter's new relationship.
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Post by kels99 on Feb 14, 2018 0:33:23 GMT
Oh my gosh! What an interesting update. I'm sorry your mom isn't taking it so well. I understand where she is coming from as it would certainly be a big shock and I hope that as she has time to process it all, she becomes more accepting.
How cool that you get to meet her though.
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Post by auroraborealis on Feb 14, 2018 16:17:15 GMT
Wow, what an update! Very cool, what a wonderful development! Hope you are able to meet, and she understands how your mom is a little slow to warm to this. And may time help your mom adjust to this news. Let us know if you have more updates, too. Would love to hear more.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Feb 14, 2018 16:31:33 GMT
What an interesting update! You have such a positive outlook on the situation. Hopefully with time your mom will come around, but this must be hard for her to process. In the meantime, are there any other relatives that you could get photos from of the family? You might also look for photos that other relatives have posted on Ancestry.com. I've managed to get some great ones I'd never seen before by doing that.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Feb 14, 2018 18:42:34 GMT
What an interesting update! You have such a positive outlook on the situation. Hopefully with time your mom will come around, but this must be hard for her to process. In the meantime, are there any other relatives that you could get photos from of the family? You might also look for photos that other relatives have posted on Ancestry.com. I've managed to get some great ones I'd never seen before by doing that. There really aren't. My two aunts may have some, but again my mother doesn't want them to know so I can't ask. It's just frustrating. I'm excited because I have a sister and a niece - I have no nieces or nephews so that's really big for me! and I feel like I can't be happy about it. My friends say that my mom doesn't have to be a part of any of it because really, it doesn't involve her - I'm the one with the connection, not her - and I'm kind of inclined to go with that.
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rodeomom
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Post by rodeomom on Feb 14, 2018 19:06:21 GMT
That's sad. Your Aunts might want to know their niece too.
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