The Anger phase of Grief? **Small Update 1/14 irrational!?!
Jan 14, 2018 2:44:05 GMT
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Post by azredhead on Jan 14, 2018 2:44:05 GMT
alexa last night i was being a little sensitive so I tried to just wind down andn watch tv and color. That helped a lot, but today I got the offical invitation from my SIL about the party. We've already told them we weren't coming up for it. So far it looks like it's just family without step dad #2 at least that's not on the list. I'm glad step dad #3 is texting dh, they've been talking football. Dh is so far one of the few that can talk to him about stuff. He want to ask him if he's going to the party but he's afraid to. It's a sensitive thing so I don't know how that's all gonna go down. It's very complicated. A lot of emotion and I'm trying hard not to be ticked off at my siblings and SIL. A lot of mixed up feelings.. But otherwise I'm working on keeping my self busy at night. I have been hooked on my coloring app and scrabble. We're watching football and Dr po.
I think that it's it for me too.. just certain things are triggering it.. I didn't realize how mad i was at my mom for the messes she was creating and then boom she was gone she fell down the stairs. My step dad #3 just keeps saying over and over again he should have carpeted the landing area. He'd been talking about it for a year. Dh has talked him down a few times as well. Poor Dh lost both his parents and now my craziness. Death brings out all the fun stuff - I'm learning that too
**Small Update 1/14- Now I just need to know if I'm being rational? So as I mentioned in the other posts below about the Burns Night/Anniv. party. It falls on the 25th of Jan. so their anniv. So my SIL went ahead with the 'party' this year. She did invite step dad #3. He immediately declined the invitation as Dh and I knew he would because he's really pissed at my siblings as are we. So I get the invite and find out that my youngest sister accepted the invitation and is postiting on my oldest brothers posts about some music that we listened to growing up. Youngest sister says yes lets include that in the party. She's decided to go since Step dad #3 is NOT going.
Small explanation -I mentioned a lot of the drama about the time she died with my youngest sister. She also lives in another state and is traveling to the party on her own expense. I dont know what happened to the $1,000s of dollars of credit card debt that were in her and my mothers name. (she wanted some us to help pay it)
Only part of that is the reason step dad #3 is so angry at youngest sibling. He has NO idea how bad the debt is. That dh is sure of. So Now I'm really pissed. I shouldn't even care. Now it's just a party. This would have killed my mother. She tried to do it the year she died (in Jan she died in feb). but things were so bad in the family it didn't happen. Now they all of a sudden are going out of their way to have this damn party.
Oh and I meant to mention refugeepea yes, I am familiar with Mormon funerals but my mother was adamint about not having one. We were fine with that. She was even cremated and we had a wake.And with our family dynamics of every religion- that part I'm ok with it. So why is this party bothering me so bad. Even DH wasn't mad about it till he found out my youngest sister was going. I'm I being irrational about it? Is it like hop2 said, maybe the anniv thing is bothering me more than I expected?
I think that it's it for me too.. just certain things are triggering it.. I didn't realize how mad i was at my mom for the messes she was creating and then boom she was gone she fell down the stairs. My step dad #3 just keeps saying over and over again he should have carpeted the landing area. He'd been talking about it for a year. Dh has talked him down a few times as well. Poor Dh lost both his parents and now my craziness. Death brings out all the fun stuff - I'm learning that too
**Small Update 1/14- Now I just need to know if I'm being rational? So as I mentioned in the other posts below about the Burns Night/Anniv. party. It falls on the 25th of Jan. so their anniv. So my SIL went ahead with the 'party' this year. She did invite step dad #3. He immediately declined the invitation as Dh and I knew he would because he's really pissed at my siblings as are we. So I get the invite and find out that my youngest sister accepted the invitation and is postiting on my oldest brothers posts about some music that we listened to growing up. Youngest sister says yes lets include that in the party. She's decided to go since Step dad #3 is NOT going.
Small explanation -I mentioned a lot of the drama about the time she died with my youngest sister. She also lives in another state and is traveling to the party on her own expense. I dont know what happened to the $1,000s of dollars of credit card debt that were in her and my mothers name. (she wanted some us to help pay it)
Only part of that is the reason step dad #3 is so angry at youngest sibling. He has NO idea how bad the debt is. That dh is sure of. So Now I'm really pissed. I shouldn't even care. Now it's just a party. This would have killed my mother. She tried to do it the year she died (in Jan she died in feb). but things were so bad in the family it didn't happen. Now they all of a sudden are going out of their way to have this damn party.
Oh and I meant to mention refugeepea yes, I am familiar with Mormon funerals but my mother was adamint about not having one. We were fine with that. She was even cremated and we had a wake.And with our family dynamics of every religion- that part I'm ok with it. So why is this party bothering me so bad. Even DH wasn't mad about it till he found out my youngest sister was going. I'm I being irrational about it? Is it like hop2 said, maybe the anniv thing is bothering me more than I expected?