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Post by rahnee on Feb 14, 2018 20:28:15 GMT
I don't post here often and its probably minor in the scheme of things. I'm not after advice, just need to get it out.
We are really busy with work, school and kids ballet as many families are. I'm also a foster carer for a cat rescue and currently have 15 cats, which are a huge job between feeding, cleaning and running between vets. I've also had issues with one of my own animals and have been driving to and from a specialist vet an hour away. After working each day, Monday I walked in the door at 9:30pm, Tuesday - 9pm, Wednesday-8:15pm. Tonight(Thursday) will be 8:30pm and Friday 10pm. We then have commitments over the weekend for dance including all day Saturday and Sunday. Last week was similar. Yesterday was DH birthday. We bought a small cake, sang happy birthday while standing up around the table and then went on to what had to be done. It's exhausting, but it's our life.
This morning I woke up to an email from my Mum, telling me off for not visiting last night for DH's birthday and for answering the emails she sent during the week, or visiting during the week. Without going into detail, it's not a nice email at all. I was there Monday last week. In all honesty, this morning at 5:30am is the first time I've checked my emails in over a week. It just hasn't been a priority. At no stage did we say we would be coming for his birthday and it's not something we made a big deal of here. I simply have not had time to get there since last week. I'm just so tired at the moment I need to take a breath before I reply.
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Post by papersilly on Feb 14, 2018 20:36:40 GMT
yes, take a breath. it's not your fault you were so busy that you haven't had a chance to check email. it happens. you are busy doing good things by being a foster to those many many cats and tending to your family.
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Post by JoP on Feb 14, 2018 20:39:36 GMT
yes, take a breath. it's not your fault you were so busy that you haven't had a chance to check email. it happens. you are busy doing good things by being a foster to those many many cats and tending to your family. Sending you (((hugs)))
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Post by malibou on Feb 14, 2018 20:51:21 GMT
You just keep on doing you. And I will wish for your mum to find some understanding for what you are working so hard to achieve.
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Post by scrappyesq on Feb 14, 2018 21:03:42 GMT
Deep breath. Hugs.
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Post by KelleeM on Feb 14, 2018 21:50:54 GMT
You definitely need some space to breathe. I was exhausted just reading your post.
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Post by LisaDV on Feb 14, 2018 22:06:09 GMT
Wow! You have a lot on your plate. I hope you can catch your breath soon. Hopefully your mom will understand after you explain, and if not, please let it roll off you. You don’t need negativity in your life. You rock!
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Post by eastcoastpea on Feb 14, 2018 22:08:29 GMT
I hope venting helped. Hope you can find a moment or two to regroup. Hugs.
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Post by MichyM on Feb 14, 2018 22:15:48 GMT
I’m just tired reading how long your days are, so I can only imagine how you must feel. I hope something gives for you soon. Until then, lotsa HUGS.
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Post by leannec on Feb 14, 2018 22:16:21 GMT
Wow ... is this a pace you can keep up? I know that being on the go like that seven days a week would make me crash and burn eventually I hope you are able to get some time to yourself soon because it sounds like you need it Don't e-mail your mum back until you are calm but don't leave it too long and then make her even more upset Hugs to you!
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Feb 14, 2018 22:24:07 GMT
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Post by Zee on Feb 14, 2018 22:24:07 GMT
That's too much...too many cats, you're spreading yourself too thin. Try telling mom what you just told us.
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Post by Really Red on Feb 14, 2018 22:51:12 GMT
I've got my last one at home and things are slowing down. I'm a single parent and my ex isn't in the picture. One eight-day period I went to 17 games. By the end of the week I was laughing. It was insane. Crazy at work, then come home to crazy. You are WIPED.
The thing is, is you're doing what you need to do now and I hope you see an eventual end, whether soon or not as soon. I know you weren't asking for advice, but maybe you could carve out a 10-mn time every three days or so for your mom? My mom liked to hear from me, but she understood how busy I was. I'd call her on the way home from work a few times a week or on the way to a game. I don't know if you can do that where you are or if you mom would be annoyed at you multi-tasking, but it was a good thing for my mom and me.
I would be tempted, however, to write to her this little note:
"Hi Mom. My life has been so crazy busy these days and while the kids are younger, that's the way it's going to be. You are often the first person I think of and want to turn to and until I read the note, I felt very bad that I couldn't see/talk to you as much as I'd like. I was sad and disappointed that you wrote me such hurtful words when I am trying my best to keep my whole life together. I realize that words do matter and yours mattered to me. They can't be taken back. You made me feel like I'm not trying hard enough and of all people in the world, I would have hoped my mother would have had my back. It will be some time before I will be in touch with you."
Sorely tempted.
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Feb 14, 2018 23:01:30 GMT
Post by 50offscrapper on Feb 14, 2018 23:01:30 GMT
Vent away. You are one busy person.
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Feb 15, 2018 0:08:19 GMT
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Post by hop2 on Feb 15, 2018 0:08:19 GMT
Vent away!
Take a breath
Hugs
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Feb 15, 2018 1:15:06 GMT
Post by dewryce on Feb 15, 2018 1:15:06 GMT
Wow, that's a lot! I'm sorry she was so selfish and unsupportive.
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Feb 15, 2018 2:24:47 GMT
Post by grove420 on Feb 15, 2018 2:24:47 GMT
Poor lady! You are not only burning the candle at both ends, you’re burning it in the middle too! You deserve a day at the spa - not a written thrashing from your mom. I think I would write her a very sweet message letting her know how busy you are and have been, as a previous poster suggested. Put her on the defensive for sending you such a cruel note. You don’t need that kind of negativity when it’s hard enough to keep your head above water with that busy schedule! Hugs.
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Feb 15, 2018 4:07:52 GMT
Post by lexilu on Feb 15, 2018 4:07:52 GMT
I can relate to you as a single parent and always multitasking. I've been a widow for 17 yrs and raised my children by myself (now they're in their 20s). My mom still doesn't understand the sole responsibility I've carried on my shoulders all these years. I get emails from her that have a negative tone. She had a close relationship with my grandma and had time to spend with her, but she has never understood how I don't have much extra time. Even though my kids are older, I work full-time and have a single income .... the cost of putting my kids through college will probably have me working until I'm 67 yrs old. My life is different than my mom's life, and I don't appreciate my mom's emails with negative comments either.
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