used2scrap
Drama Llama
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Jan 29, 2016 3:02:55 GMT
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 9, 2018 17:53:35 GMT
What is a maternity photo shoot and why would other members of the family be in these pics? Lol you sound like my mom! She was all, “why would anyone want pictures of themselves pregnant?” Just pretty photos taken looking like a very pretty mom to be, a souvenir of pregnancy better than a belly cast I guess? I think usually mom and dad and siblings are in the pics, but since it’s just her and we were there, we were included in some. She took some with her dog too. Hopefully one turned out of the three of us, we really don’t have any good ones except a Christmas snapshot decades ago. There’s a lot of history and drama and dysfunction and not good relationships.
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quiltz
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,708
Location: CANADA
Jun 29, 2014 16:13:28 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Apr 9, 2018 18:15:15 GMT
used2scrap was this your sister or step sister's baby shower?? She's a fucking piece of work and there's no way I would have put up with all that BS. WOW...you're a better person than I am. Sister. Yes she’s an entitled brat, and none of us have done her any favors by not shutting her shit down over the years. As much as I wanted to, I can’t get past that she’s an 8 and a half months pregnant single mom by choice who I think is terrified as she’s realized she made a mistake and her whole life as she knows it is about to implode. It’s not going to be pretty, that’s for sure. "Single mother by choice" - does this mean she dn't know the father of the child, like, she just wanted a child? I feel very sorry for the unborn child, as this child is starting out way behind. Mommy probably thinks that this child will be a "work in project" or perhaps a "token child". I would start a Go Fund Me for the therapy that this poor child is going to need.
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Post by kelbel827 on Apr 9, 2018 18:28:36 GMT
There's nothing wrong with a single by choice mother. But, the entitlement is something else. I could see this happening in my Family. I can tell you, if I decided to have another baby now, being single, my friends would have a shower for me and I would be grateful for every single thing I received.
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Post by birukitty on Apr 9, 2018 18:48:19 GMT
Wow-just wow. I can't believe someone could act like this as I read your update and you labeled her correctly-what was the term you used "Momzilla" or something like that instead of "Bridezilla". As I read this it remind me so much of the horrible, entitled behavior of some of the bridezillas I've seen on those TV shows. I'm so sorry that you had to put up with all of this after you made the decision to put your family needs second (not attending DD"s competition and DS's birthday) to fly out there for this mess.
I have a sister like this so I get it. I'm the oldest, she came next 18 months later. There are 4 of us kids. We've been enemies since the day she was born. I'm small, she was bigger than me by the time she was 3. As a baby she had her crib on one side of the room, I had my little bed on the opposite. When she'd finish her bottle at night she'd fling it out of her crib like a missile so it'd hit the wall right above my head over my bed. Wham! Every night. She was mean and would beat up on me as we grew up not to mention the younger two in our family. I adore my youngest sister and she and I have been close since the day she was born. J (the mean one) would push her down while S (the youngest) was trying to learn how to walk. Now she (J) is extremely manipulative and she has our parents wrapped around her little finger. My father can't say no to her although he is a very intelligent man. You wouldn't believe the extra work she makes him do for her. And he does it! My mother thinks she walks on water.
I used to listen to her back when I didn't have much self-esteem (years ago). One day my father and I were helping her move out of her apartment and it occured to me that we were the ones carrying all of the boxes while she just stood there ordering us around. Something snapped in me and I dropped the box I was carrying and said, "F*ck this sh*t! I'm not doing anymore of this while you stand there like a queen ordering us around. Who do you think you are?!" and I walked right out of there. Oh boy, she didn't know what to do with that. I didn't hear from her for more than a year which was very unusual because we all live in the same town. Then she came slinking back and the whole relationship had changed. She know treads very lightly around me and treats me with respect. I treat her like a distant friend-not close because I'm still really pissed about how she treats my father.
My point is maybe it's time to try standing up to your sister like I did with mine. I tell you-it felt great and completely changed our relationship. Someone like that needs to be put in their place. If one member of the family does it it helps get the ball rolling. She'll see she can't get away with the crap she's been getting away with. Don't feel sorry for the state she's in right now. That was her choice completely and it's not too late for anything. If she wanted to there is still time to have the baby adopted after it's born, if that's what she's whining about-how much responsibility she's facing and how is she going to do it all alone I mean. But honestly I think it's probably just a way of getting attention. If it's not give her that option.
I'm sending you HUGS because I've been there with a mean, manipulative, spoiled sister. Take care. Try to put it out of your mind now that you're back and enjoy your family. At least she doesn't live close by.
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hannahruth
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,616
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Aug 29, 2014 18:57:20 GMT
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Post by hannahruth on Apr 10, 2018 7:42:45 GMT
IMHO your son's birthday is far more important than a baby shower!
Visit when bubby is here and you can actually meet. Change the tickets and enjoy the brunch.
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Post by ametallichick on Apr 10, 2018 7:55:36 GMT
I think it is fine to renege on plans previously made when you have a good reason, and you do. Just be super apologetic and send flowers the day of the shower or some other peace offering. I think the trouble comes more often when people act like it is no big deal to flake on someone. Show them you're sorry. This 💯!! Your dd’s competition is something you didn’t plan on and I’d go to that before the shower any day. I just saw your update! She was a momzilla! Geez!
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Post by Really Red on Apr 10, 2018 11:58:21 GMT
I do not have any words. I seriously do not. I cannot believe you gave into that spoiled rotten, hateful, ungrateful brat. I am sorry. I know you wanted to do the right thing, but she is a monster! And you fed the monster. You did.
FWIW, when I read your update, I thought you were joking. I literally thought you were writing the worst possible things that could happen so we could laugh at it.
And I mean this gently, because I hope you understand your sister wasn't just over the top, she was insane, but if there is any part of you that thinks that anything your sister did is okay, you should see a therapist because it is one of the worst stories I have heard ever, outside the obvious terrible ones (abuse and murder).
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Post by mrssmith on Apr 10, 2018 17:32:38 GMT
I am amazed by this story and that you and your mom actually caved and completed her list of requests. In hindsight, I would not have gone and would likely distance myself from her. Sounds crazy. Glad your son had a nice trip.
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The Birdhouse Lady
Drama Llama
Moose. It's what's for dinner.
Posts: 7,174
Location: Alaska -The Last Frontier
Jun 30, 2014 17:15:19 GMT
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Apr 10, 2018 17:46:44 GMT
Wow, she sounds like a total pain in the ass.
I'm not sure I would have been able to get through the weekend with out saying something.
I am floored that you painted the nursery, put together all the baby equipment, and made several meals to freeze.
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