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Post by megop on Apr 3, 2018 23:07:00 GMT
Thanks everyone! Fully validated and it is most appreciated. Today I feel a greater sense of true closure on that ugly chapter. You all are the best!
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kate
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Post by kate on Apr 4, 2018 0:31:12 GMT
I'm floored that he's been with TOW for SEVEN years, and he's never introduced her to his family. His apology has some value: he knows he was wrong, and now you know that he knows he was wrong. Whether or not he's "truly sorry" is irrelevant, since you're rid of him.
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Post by megop on Apr 4, 2018 0:44:21 GMT
That’s one of my thoughts too. What kind of woman hangs in for that long with zero family integration? Certainly not how I’m built. Egads. Still no pity. We all must live with the choices we make. Even the choices others make.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 4, 2018 1:16:10 GMT
Apologies are often for the one making them. I wholeheartedly believe this. He can make the apology for whatever reason he wants. How you react to it - or not - is totally your decision. If the apology means nothing to you, then let it go. If it helps you in some way, that's good too. But make no mistake that he is offering the apology for himself more than for you.
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Post by wagleg on Apr 4, 2018 1:26:37 GMT
You may not want to respond right now. I can tell you that I apologized to both of my exhusbands. Yep 2. It was very powerful and it sorta cleansed me and truthfully started me on the path to where I am today. I was working with a therapist 20yrs ago, after my second divorce. Really realized where things had gone wrong. Though the acting act was on them.( One turned to drugs, the other to an affair) I realized that the end of our marriage was not just one persons fault, but we each held some responsibility. I spoke with each of them and apologized for my part in the demise of our marriage. Nothing formally 12 step, but did feel like it. A few months later I went on to meet the love of my life and we’ve been married 19 yrs. never underestimate the power of “I’m Sorry”.
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