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Post by pealikecrazy on Apr 6, 2018 2:29:44 GMT
What is that "thing" called when you sort of sabatoge your wife and make it look like things are her fault...but it's really you doing all the damage? I'm sure I'm not explaining that right! SMH. Anyone know what I mean?
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Post by quinlove on Apr 6, 2018 2:31:24 GMT
Gaslighting ?
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Post by naby64 on Apr 6, 2018 2:31:32 GMT
Gaslighting? Not sure if that is what you are talking about. But it is where another person is trying to make you think you are doing/not doing things and you are/aren't. Probably doing a bad job of describing it.
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Post by YooHoot on Apr 6, 2018 2:31:38 GMT
Gas lighting?
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Post by librarylady on Apr 6, 2018 2:31:41 GMT
Crazy making is the term, I believe.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 6, 2018 2:44:28 GMT
I was going to say being an asshole.
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Post by pealikecrazy on Apr 6, 2018 2:46:30 GMT
Gaslighting. That's it. Thanks ladies! But I need to Google why???!!! I guess it's a control thing...and I'm pretty vulnerable. I need to wake up. It's crazy. I just have no self confidence any longer and I can't see a way around this. Ugh!
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Post by worrywart on Apr 6, 2018 2:47:43 GMT
Also could be considered passive aggressive...I'm sorry!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2018 2:54:56 GMT
I'd call it malicious and mean. Sorry you are on the receiving end of that.  |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 6, 2018 3:06:35 GMT
It’s gaslighting. There is a movie by that name that showcases it.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 6, 2018 3:15:35 GMT
I saw this on Facebook today. Good for you for recognizing what’s going on. I hope things work out the way you need them to.  |
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Post by laureljean on Apr 6, 2018 3:20:32 GMT
Testosterone poisoning
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Post by mcscrapper on Apr 6, 2018 3:29:03 GMT
Assholiness or assholian?
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 6, 2018 12:04:59 GMT
Abuse.
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Post by happymomma on Apr 6, 2018 12:21:01 GMT
Narcissists often do this.
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Post by scrappert on Apr 6, 2018 13:08:30 GMT
Yes, I was going to say controlling narcissist. pealikecrazy - I am sorry you are going through this. You have the strength and power to overcome and you are a beautiful, strong woman. I have been in your place, I did overcome. Counseling helped me see my worth. |
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 6, 2018 13:37:27 GMT
I'm so sorry. I've been there. And I really think I started to lose my damn mind. It is scary how much I didn't know what was real and true anymore and how much I didn't trust my own mind to tell the difference. It's a terrible place to be, especially at the hands of someone you are supposed to trust to love you and treat you well. Feel free to message me if you want an anonymous shoulder and ear. (((HUGS)))
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Post by ashley on Apr 6, 2018 13:44:29 GMT
My ex-husband did that to me for years, and I honestly thought I was going insane. The burden from living like that can be unbearable, and actually was, for quite some time. This was ultimately a major factor that contributed to my decision to make him my ex. And it's a hard situation to recover from too; it's been a different kind of difficult being told I was abused, manipulated, etc.
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Post by joelise on Apr 6, 2018 14:45:20 GMT
I saw this on Facebook today. Good for you for recognizing what’s going on. I hope things work out the way you need them to. This was my ex partner exactly! |
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Apr 6, 2018 14:48:04 GMT
Also Google DARVO (Deny, Attack and Reverse Victim Order)
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